Language and Swinging Terminology
I think the language and terminology used, is something that we do need to look at.
We have to be honest here, words are important and some of the currently used words are just complete turn offs.
Let's delve a little deeper into the more well known and embedded terminology that currently exists and see what you think of them.
Cum-Tribute.
When a male takes an image on a device and either prints it off or shows it on a device. He then masturbates to it, ejaculates over it, then shares the image to the lady/couple.
I mean... come on. No, not literally. But bloody hell.
No wonder 'nillas look at this whole lifestyle with gaping jaws.
Whilst it is true that some women enjoy this odd act, most do not. It's been further perpetuated by online virtual sex and the porn industry.
Airtight.
The practise of filling all three orifices of a female.
So people who join such sites and then post comments on media and in threads, asking what women want to be airtight.. they're doing the lifestyle no favours at all.
Imagine being a hot, young couple, and you're getting messages from people asking to make your partner 'airtight'.
Again, it may be for some, but it's not for everyone.
Dogging.
A woman, with her partner, somewhere in a car park or field, waiting for as many guys as possible, one after another.
Or a few and then others can watch.
The list is pretty endless to be honest, but these are just a few that I thought about off the top of my head.
Now, further perpetuated again by the porn industry, is this really what swinging is? Is that what we want people's perceptions of swinging to be?
Or more of a consensual, sexual encounter with other people by you both? (or self, add accordingly).
Don't mistake me either - a lot of people are into some of the few things listed above, but also please don't be mistaken into thinking this encapsulates swinging as a whole.
It's a consensual act, between 3 or more people, to have a sexual encounter with others.
It's not about cum-tributes, or car park meetings, or filling all holes.. (yikes).
All of these (and more) have been driven on by the porn industry over the last several years. As such, it's created some sore subjects (intentional ? ) about what this lifestyle can offer.
And it truly is liberating!
I have more to add, but time is a limiting factor so may come back to this. x
