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19 March 2015
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Seriously, you may think this is an odd one, but are looks important to you? Is it important how somebody looks when considering a liaison?
I mean, you could completely gel and click. Have that spark, that energy between you both/all. What if the three, two or four of you click but aesthetically it's just not happening?
Are you the person who can see beyond certain looks and see the person you are chatting to, or is how someone looks and appears, a massive deciding factor on whether you progress further?

This is not about exposing yourself to possibly be shallow. This is about whether you find how someone looks, is important to where you go next.
As ever.. over to you :D x
 
24 November 2015
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For me personally looks are nothing geez i have a mouse lol @Therapon :lol: , in all honesty though people who have met me and know my history id hope have never judged me for who i am
 
26 October 2018
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, or so they say, given my natural ugly mug I’m in no position to comment on anyone,
But seriously for me connection comes way before any considering of looks and always will, because it’s irrelevant, I’ve had over the years kind of every age shape and degree of glamour and trust me no one of them is any better than the other xx
 
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Looks do play a part in the initial attraction, but then it's the personal connection / chemistry that takes over following a few interactions or meeting in person.
 
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Louise94

Seriously, you may think this is an odd one, but are looks important to you? Is it important how somebody looks when considering a liaison?
I mean, you could completely gel and click. Have that spark, that energy between you both/all. What if the three, two or four of you click but aesthetically it's just not happening?
Are you the person who can see beyond certain looks and see the person you are chatting to, or is how someone looks and appears, a massive deciding factor on whether you progress further?

I think they’re important until they’re not. I think it’s importance varies depending on what you are looking to get out of a liaison i.e. if all you want is a one night stand, does it matter if they have anything more about them?
I think we all have physical attributes that we are drawn to and turn our heads and we may forgive other, less desirable qualities if they happen to have some of them.

For me though, really what gets my knickers off is being on a similar wavelength, clocking onto someone’s energy and bouncing off each other, charisma, laughter, lively discussions and just that...something, whatever it is. :D
Pretty sure I’ve been laughed into bed before. Has that happened to anyone else? :rolleyes:
Xxx
 
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19 March 2015
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I think they’re important until they’re not. I think it’s importance varies depending on what you are looking to get out of a liaison i.e. if all you want is a one night stand, does it matter if they have anything more about them?
I think we all have physical attributes that we are drawn to and turn our heads and we may forgive other, less desirable qualities if they happen to have some of them.

For me though, really what gets my knickers off is being on a similar wavelength, clocking onto someone’s energy and bouncing off each other, charisma, laughter, lively discussions and just that...something, whatever it is. :D
Pretty sure I’ve been laughed into bed before. Has that happened to anyone else? :rolleyes:
Xxx
Oooh okay... :whistle: :X3: x
Yes well, this is what I think, personally speaking, is most important; laughter, charisma, chemistry..
As I always say; the best laughs are sex laughs with friends. Simple as that! :) x
 
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Oooh okay... :whistle: :X3: x
Yes well, this is what I think, personally speaking, is most important; laughter, charisma, chemistry..
As I always say; the best laughs are sex laughs with friends. Simple as that! :) x

Just to play devils advocate...what if your, say, celebrity crush was at a bar and they were all over you. Would the things that seem important become any less important? :D

(If I’d been around for a young Clapton or a young Anthony Kiedis for instance, those things may have mattered a little less in the moment).
 
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Just to play devils advocate...what if your, say, celebrity crush was at a bar and they were all over you. Would the things that seem important become any less important? :D

(If I’d been around for a young Clapton or a young Anthony Kiedis for instance, those things may have mattered a little less in the moment).

I’ve got a slow hand does that count ?
 
10 July 2018
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Looks do play a part in the initial attraction, but then it's the personal connection / chemistry that takes over following a few interactions or meeting in person.
Well in here, or any virtual place, esp when pics can be retouched etc., it’s different, but out? At a club, or a social.

Well, my standard answer to such questions is: it’s usually looks that gets me interested in someone, but it’s everything other than looks that keeps me interested.

The difference is easy to appreciate, and obvious , but… I can’t tell if someone is clever, funny, engaging, interesting from across a room. I can on here.
 
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I don’t think looks should matter, but unfortunately for some it does. We are who we are and people should accept us for that. I don’t think that lying about what you look like on sites benefits anybody. We have not lied about our size or anything else. Our first single weekend meet can vouch for that, what you see is what you get and our photos are real. No point in photoshopping what you haven’t really got lol M xx
 
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Initially attraction is what peeks our interest .. But after this it's all personality and energy... You can be an absolute knock out but have all the personality of a wet sponge... It just won't happen.... If We bounce off eachother we'll it's on like donkey Kong hehe
 
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Personally speaking ive been with a few 2 baggers ( 2 bags on head just incase one falls off lol ) but that never bothered me we had laughs got on well and thoroughly enjoyed our selves so for me looks dont matter its if we get on and gell in any way thats important to me. Yes i can be swayed by looks who wouldnt want a stunner on there arm but looks aint the be all and end all of enjoying the company whether it be for sex or not.
 
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Nah looks are only skin deep, something similar came up in another thread last year and my answer hasn't changed since then, personality, presence, the ability to engage in conversation and yes that "something" are so much more important than, if someone's good looking or not and besides, what one person finds attractive isn't the same as someone else's definition.

Paul xx
 
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On the flip side however, while we have only so much control on the physical and how we look, for me what's more important is our attitude and how we treat people. I have very little time or empathy for people that while thye look like an oil painting on the outisde, and absolutely rotten at the core of who they are and how they talk to others.
 
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As the saying goes "never judge a book by its cover", and we tend to stick to that. Looks are only skin deep, they could be the best looking person in the world, but if they can't hold a conversation or have that spark then its a no go. We need to be able to bounce off people (literally!lol) to have that conversation, twinkle in their eye and a lust for life is far more important. And a big must is humour - life is to short live, laugh, love and have a dam good time S xxx
 
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As the saying goes "never judge a book by its cover", and we tend to stick to that. Looks are only skin deep, they could be the best looking person in the world, but if they can't hold a conversation or have that spark then its a no go. We need to be able to bounce off people (literally!lol) to have that conversation, twinkle in their eye and a lust for life is far more important. And a big must is humour - life is to short live, laugh, love and have a dam good time S xxx
Spot on! An attractive and beautiful mind will capture me more than any 6 pack or fantastic boobs ever will. If someone can stimulate me with words then chances are they will stimulate my body as well as it’s all connected. The deeper an emotional connection the deeper an intimate connection xx
 
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Spot on! An attractive and beautiful mind will capture me more than any 6 pack or fantastic boobs ever will. If someone can stimulate me with words then chances are they will stimulate my body as well as it’s all connected. The deeper an emotional connection the deeper an intimate connection xx

Great minds :sneaky:;) S xxx
 
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Not overly, being attractive to someone start with the eye but for it to last there needs to be more than just the physical, I like curvy ladies and have done since school, that's my preference but I've dated all shapes and sizes, I think we all have our own personal idea of beauty, one of mine is girls that can do judo, I don't know why I find them attractive just do also girls with big eye's (may be my anime watching).

I find it hard sometimes do know what some ladies really look like with all these filter app you get, some of my girl friends don't look anything like their profile pictures.