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    Glossary of BDSM Terms

    Summary

    Glossary of BDSM Terms

    Glossary of Terms BDSM

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    A

    Adult Babies - Age play wherein the submissive is the baby.

    Age Play - play that involves assuming the role of someone of a different age.

    Alligator Clamp – A type of nipple clamp with tips that have teeth resembling an alligators mouth.

    Anal Dildo – A dildo that is intended to be used with the anus as the receptor.

    Anal Intercourse - Sex using the anus as the receptor.

    Ankle Cuffs - Attachable cuffs, generally made of leather, that enable a Dom to immobilize his submissive's legs

    Ankle Restraint - Any device including ankle cuffs that immobilize a submissiveness legs.

    Animal Training - Training where the Dominant has his submissive play the part of an animal, such as horses and dogs. The most common is "puppy play".

    B

    Ball Gag - A device with a rubber ball and straps, which secures the ball in the bottom's mouth to stifle screams.

    Ball Torture - Causing pain to the male testicles, also included in CBT or cock and ball torture.

    Barbell - A straight piece of metal used in piercing, as opposed to a ring.

    Bastinado - Foot torture involving the soles of the feet.

    Beating - General term for such BDSM activities such as flogging caning, spanking, strapping, etc.

    Belt - A leather strap used for striking the buttocks.

    Blindfold - By blocking out sight

    Blood sports - A group of techniques in which the submissive's skin is broken and blood is allowed to escape.

    Blowjob - Fellatio, head, sucking cock.

    Body Modification - Making alterations to the appearance of the body. Includes, but is not limited to, tattoos, piercings, brandings, scarification.

    Bootlicking - Licking and cleaning of a Dominant's boots by a submissive is a common show of submission.

    Bottom - A submissive.

    Boy - Term for male submissive

    Branding - Making a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by burning it with a heated metal object.

    Brat - Term for a sub who tries to get the attention of a Dom/me by "acting up."

    Breast Bondage - Tying up the female breasts with rope.

    Breast Press - A device that squeezes the breasts.

    Breath Control - whereby the submissive's breath is stopped for a short period of time to increase pleasurable sensations.

    Bukake - Sexual scene where many men masturbate on and give a "semen bath" to a willing submissive

    Bullwhip - A long, heavy leather whip usually longer than 4 feet.

    Butterfly Board - A wood board where a male's scrotum can be nailed or pinned onto.

    Buttplug - a "sextoy" shaped to fit into and stay inside the rectum.

    Buttplug Harness – Usually a leather harness that prevents a buttplug from being removed.

    C
    Cage - A bondage practice, wherein the submissive is kept inside a cage. They can be so small as to restrict motion or large enough for two or more people.

    Candle - A source of hot wax, which is dripped onto the bottom's body in BDSM play.

    Caning - Using a cane on a Submissive. Usually more severe than a flogging.

    Cat O Nine Tails – a whip that has exactly 9 strands. Some have a knot at the end for increased sensation or sting.

    Catheter - Flexible tube used in medicine.

    CBT - Cock and Ball Torture - Causing pain to the male genital area; usually in controlled, consensual BDSM scenes.

    Chastity Belt - A device used to keep the submissive chaste when the Dominant is away.

    Clamp - Generic term for any BDSM toy that can clamp some body part of a submissive.

    Clingfilm - Generic term for plastic wrap which is used in mummification scenes.

    Clover Clamps - Type of adjustable nipple clamps that tightens as it is pulled.

    Cock Cage - a CBT device that encase a penis shaft inside it.

    Cock Cuff – a chastity device that consists of a tube welded to a handcuff, usually both made of stainless steel.

    Cock Ring - Rubber or metal ring that slips round base of cock and balls.

    Cock Strap - Leather or neoprene strap that wraps around the base of cock and balls to help improve erection.

    Collar and Leash - Worn by the bottom during this type of BDSM play.

    Corporal Punishment - Retributive punishment using repetitive spankings and question and reply to change a bottom's behavior.

    Crop - A type of whip used in horseback riding, quite popular in BDSM scenes.

    Crucifixion - BDSM play wherein a submissive is tied to a cross.


    Cunt Torture - Stimulation or pain inflicted on the female genitals.

    Cupping - The placing of suction devices on the skin to increase blood flow.

    Cutting - Cutting the submissive's skin with a sterile knife.

    D

    Daddy - A role taken on by some dominants; especially common in age play.

    Dildo - A manufactured penis-shaped object.

    Dog-Training - Role-play games involving treating the bottom as a dog. Similar to Pony Training where the bottom is treated like a pony.

    Dominant - A Top. who controls a bottom, submissive, or slave.

    Dominatrix - A Domme; it implies being a professional.

    Domme - A female Dominant. Can also be used interchangeably with Mistress

    Duct Tape - Also known as gaffer's tape.

    E

    Edgeplay - Technically, this refers to knife play. But it has come to mean anything "on the edge."

    Electrical Play - Using electricity for stimulation. Professionally made electrical units are to be used - like the "tens" unit"

    Electrotorture -Another, more dramatic, term for electrical play.

    Endorphins - A chemical produced in the body that seems to be involved in regulating the perception of pain.

    Enema - A thorough anal douche using a bag and tube.

    Enema Play - Using the enema as a BDSM device in play.

    Enforced Chastity - Chastity play where the Dom controls a sub's sexual frequency and ability to experience sexual pleasure.

    Extreme Restraints – A Bondage device that is very strict or terribly confining.

    F

    Felching - Imbibing semen out of the vagina or anus

    Femdom - A female dominant

    Financial Domination – Controlling another’s financial matters or money.

    Fire Play - The use of fire in sexual play.

    Fisting - also called fist fucking and FF. Attempting to place the whole hand into the rectum or vagina.

    Flagellation - BDSM-related whipping, beating and spanking for erotic stimulation.

    Flogger - a multi-tailed leather implement.

    Flogging - using a "flogger" on a submissive.

    Foot Worship - A foot fetish where the submissive worships the Dominants feet, usually in high heel shoes or boots.

    Frenum - Piercing the surface of the penis shaft.

    Forced Lactation - Continual stimulation and sucking of the female nipple can sometimes produce milk.

    G

    Golden Showers - Urination play.

    H

    Handcuffs - Commonly used BDSM device to restrain the wrists.

    Harness - Elaborate bondage device made with leather straps worn on the body

    Hood - A head covering, usually made of leather, that the Dominant wears to increase the "fear factor" in a BDSM scene.

    Horse - In bondage, it is a modification of a sawhorse over which a submissive can be tied.

    I

    Immobilization - Extreme form of bondage where no body parts can move, one example is mummification.

    Infantilism - Role-play as a young child for sex play

    J

    K

    Knife Play - A specific form of "edgeplay" where the Dominant uses a knife to either cut or tease the submissive.

    L

    Leather - One of the most popular of fetish materials; many get excited by the look and/or feel of leather clothing, boots, etc.

    Legcuffs – large handcuffs intended to be used to immobilize or restrict movement of the ankles

    Leg Irons - Steel ankle cuffs.


    M

    M/s - Master/slave.

    Maid - Popular role-play where the submissive dresses up - and acts like - a maid.

    Male Domination – BDSM play where a male is the one in control or who controls the submissive.

    Manacle - Metal restraints.

    Martinet - Small flogger.

    Masochist - One who gets pleasure from pain.

    Master - Dominant, controlling partner in a D/s relationship, where the submissive partner is known as the slave.

    Medical Scene - BDSM scene involving medical scenarios.

    Mistress - Female counterpart for Master, a female dominant.

    Mummification - A unique kind of bondage scene in which the whole body is wrapped tightly in a film or pallet wrap

    N

    Nailing - BDSM play where the scrotum or breasts are nailed to a board.

    Needle Play - another "edgeplay" where sterilized needles are inserted through the top layer of the skin.

    Nipple Clamps - Devices that clamp onto the nipples. Weights can be attached to stretch the nipples.

    Nipple Torture - To cause pain to the nipples.

    Nipple Weights - Usually weights suspended from either nipple clamps or from nipple piercings.


    O

    OTK - "Over the Knee" spanking were the subject is placed over the lap of the person administering the spanking.


    P

    Paddle - A flat instrument used for spanking purposes; usually made of wood or some other rigid material.

    Pain Slut - Popular expression for a submissive who loves pain.

    Parachute Ball Stretcher - A toy resembling a parachute from which weights can be suspended in ball torture scenes.

    Pony Play - Role-play scene where the submissive takes on the role of a pony.

    Puppy Play - Perhaps the most popular of animal RPGs. Here, the submissive actually mimics a puppy.

    Pussy Torture - The use of BDSM devices - such as clamps - on the female gential area to produce pain.


    Q

    Quirt - A type of buggy whip used for whipping the submissive.

    R

    Rack - Bondage furniture patterned after the infamous torture device of the Inquisition.

    Restraint - Limiting the bottom's movement with the use of various bondage gear, equipment or devices.

    Restriction - Limiting the bottom's behavior or physical movement.

    Rimming - Tongue contact with the rectum or asshole.

    Ring Gag - A device that keeps the submissive's mouth wide open.

    Rope - The most common of bondage equipment.

    Rubber - After leather, the most popular fetish material.


    S

    Saint Andrew's Cross - A popular piece of BDSM furniture where a submissive can be conveniently tied or cuffed to it and rendered immobile.

    Scat - Fecal play.

    Shackle - Metal or leather bondage restraint device consisting of round cuffs joined by a chain or bar.

    Slave - A term used interchangeably with "submissive."

    Spanking - To slap on the buttocks with the open hand, or a short flat object such as a paddle or a hairbrush.

    Spanking Bench - BDSM furniture, a variation on the saw horse, onto which a submissive is attached

    Speculum - Medical device intended for opening and examining the rectum or vagina

    Spreader Bar - A long metal rod that holds the submissive legs, thighs or even wrists wide apart.

    Stocks - A piece of bondage furniture. The head and hands go through holes while the submissive is standing.

    Straitjacket, Straightjacket - Confining device used mostly in psychiatric wards to restrain the insane.

    Strapon - A belt or harness that has a dildo attached. It allows the wearer the ability to fuck another either in the vagina or anus.

    Subspace - A state of mind and body - often like a trance - caused by endorphins emitted during a BDSM scene.

    Suspension - suspending a submissive with ropes, webbing or chain so that no part of the body touches the floor.

    Switch - A person who can both Top and bottom depending on the situation and his partner.

    T

    TENS Unit - Acronym for Transcutaneous Electrical Neural Stimulation unit.

    Top - A Dominant, the person who is in charge or has control.

    Topping from the bottom - This is where a submissive dictates the action in a scene, something that is highly frowned upon.

    Torture - term meaning to cause pain.

    Toy, BDSM - Any piece of equipment used in a BDSM scene.

    Transgenderism – incorporating manners, behaviors, appearance, etc of the opposite sex while still maintaining some of the above of your biological sex.

    Tweezer Nipple Clamps - A style of nipple clamp that is like a pair of tweezers with a ring around the outside.

    U

    Urethral Play - Play involving the urethra, the tube that runs between the bladder and the outside of the body.

    Urethral Sound - Medical device to be inserted into the urethra in medical play.


    V

    Vacuum Pumping - Using the suction of a vacuum to increase the size of body parts.

    Vanilla - People not in the BDSM or Fetish lifestyle.

    Violet Wand - An electric device usually in form of a glass cylinder, which uses the effect of high frequency electric charges to apply intense stimulation.

    W

    Water Sports - The sexual enjoyment of urine play. Also called Golden Showers

    Wattenburg Wheel - A medical pinwheel that is commonly used in BDSM play to stimulate or cause a feeling sensation.

    Wax Play - Play in which the Dominant brings hot wax on the submissive's skin.

    Web - A bondage device, popular in many dungeons, created with ropes that are spun like a spider's web.

    Weights - Used to stretch body parts such as nipples and labia; usually attached to clamps or piercings.

    Whip - Usually made of leather with a medium size handle and long braided leather strings.

    Whipping Post - In olden times, a post to which offenders were fastened for whippings.

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