- lively, exciting, and fashionable.
"a swinging resort"
- sexually liberated or promiscuous.
- Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behaviour in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.
The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the freer attitudes to sexual activity after the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the invention and availability of the contraceptive pill and the emergence of treatments for many of the sexually transmitted diseases that were known at that time.
The swinger community sometimes refers to itself as "the lifestyle", or as "the alternative lifestyle". The term "wife swapping" or "partner swapping" is criticized for not accurately describing the full range of sexual activities in which both singles or couples may engage, which is not limited to conventional sex with a person other than their regular sex partner. Other terms sometimes encountered are wife sharing, partner sharing, wife trading and wife lending, which describe similar concepts, usually in sociological or anthropological research. As these terms have become dated, with women participating as fully in the decision making process as their male partners, the more gender-neutral term "swinging" has gained popularity.
Reasons for swinging
People may choose a swinging lifestyle for a variety of reasons. Many cite the increased quality, quantity, and frequency of sex. Some people may engage in swinging to add variety into their otherwise conventional sex lives or due to their curiosity. Some couples see swinging as a healthy outlet and means to strengthen their relationship. Others regard such activities as merely a social and recreational interaction with others.
International Swinger community's Flag, created by Ted Williams and Emilio Designs Graphic Design Enaver. Red rings represent the passion and unbreakable bond between the couple, the yellow background represents the light and fire of desire, the blue color of the vastness of the sky
Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity involving partner swapping at an informal gathering of friends to planned regular social meetings to "hooking up" with like-minded people at a sex club (also known as a swinger club, not to be confused with a strip club). Different clubs offer varied facilities and atmospheres, and often hold "theme" nights. Much like a "secret society", swingers have code talk and secret lingo to hide their discussions from the scrutiny of those not involved in that lifestyle. Vanilla is a term used to describe a non-swinger.
Swinging is also known to take place in semi-public venues such as hotels, resorts, or cruise ships, or often in private homes. Furthermore, many websites that cater to swinging couples now exist, some boasting hundreds of thousands of members. An example of the type of modern swinging sites in 2016 can be found here, Social Swingingis a perfect example of modern swinging as seen in 2016. Swinging the practice itself is on the increase and is becoming more socially acceptable.
A hotwife is a woman in a heterosexual relationship, married or not, who is free to have sexual activities with select men other than her partner with her partner's approval. The process of selection of potential candidates for the hotwife's activities depends on the couple's arrangement, but in many cases the male partner takes active part in it. Also the hotwife's preparation for a date is often carried out by both the hotwife and her partner together.
Both the hotwife and her partner find some sort of (mental) gratification in this "hotwifing" arrangement.
Hotwifing differs from
- infidelity because there is no secret and the partner's approval is essential.
- polyamory because usually the emotional component of the hotwife's liaisons is minimal or not existant on her part, and the additional partner need not be aware of the hotwife's primary partner.
- swinging, because the practice does usually not take place in a typical swinging environment, and the additional partner need not be aware of the hotwife's relationship status or the couple's arrangement.