Yes, the lifestyle is absolutely wonderful. Sharing it is difficult, but not impossible for me - I have told four people in the last year, it is fairly easy for me to approach the subject.
I live in a small Spanish village where the culture is about 500 years out of date. I kid you not. So when people ask me about where I live, some may know the village, others may not. I say that it is very pretty but that I do not fit in with the people. A bit of background - I was sent to Coventry for about a year by the locals when my wife left in 2015 and I was (publicly) highly criticised. I was not "in control" of my wife. Sexual equality here is not accepted, the men are extremely sexist and the women are only here to cook, clean, raise children and provide sex when told to. Sex is a right for the men, it's a duty for the women. I could (maybe should) write a book about it. I would call it, "Driving over nuts" to follow Chris Stewart's book called, "Driving over Lemons." However, I would be referring to men's nuts.
A bit more background - I had a Spanish girlfriend from my village for around four years, we always went out together out of the area, because she is one of the few professionally employed women here and it would have destroyed her reputation if it got out she was seeing a foreigner - worse still - me. She was in her late 40s and had been in an abusive marriage for 25 years. She had 3 children, who are now all grown up. The first time we had sex, she had an orgasm. It was the first on she had had in her life. The second time we had sex, she climaxed again, and promptly burst into tears. I was really concerned, I thought I had hurt her, but after sobbing for some time she finally told me that she figured that I would think she was a slut. Women aren't allowed to enjoy sex in this culture. It took us about two years before she was able to enjoy, and actually want (and initiate) sex.
So now you know a little of my situation. When people ask my why I don't fit in with the locals here, I simply tell them. It's easy to add that I believe in sexual equality. Comparing men and women, for example - if men can have many sexual partners (which some of the married men here do), why are married women not even allowed to talk to a man in a bar unless she is with her husband? (Domestic abuse is common here, both physical and psychological, and I know of a woman who was given two black eyes by her husband because she dared to talk to me when her husband was not present.) So I am opening the door to people to enter into a discussion on this subject, and I can see if people are in agreement or not. This allows me to gauge whether or not I tell them more.
Fortunately for me, I live near a nudist beach where there are also swinger's bars and clubs where I can go if I really want to. However, I actually spend most of my time in the capital, which also has good beaches.
PS - My ex-girlfriend, since dating me, has been seeing a local man here for several years. She suffers worse abuse from him now than she ever did from her husband.
PPS - I was told by a local woman that I will never have a Spanish girlfriend. When I asked her why she thought that, she said, "Because you are not masculine enough."
