Clubs: Peoples Preferred Way To Meet?

[Offenbach]

Hola.

One thing I've noticed on SS is that a lot of people seem to use clubs as their primary way to meet people. Am I correct?

It's just something that doesn't appeal to me. I've always preferred the online route. Less random and lower chance of bumping into a neighbour unexpectedly. Lol

 

[Twickerman]

I think the clue might be in the site name

People on here are mainly interested in the social side and that tends to work best in clubs.

A lot of people who are going to the same club night will arrange to socialise and if attracted play, so clubs are not that random. Some ladies like the smorgasbord of delights a club has to offer. If your neighbour is in a club they are there for the same reason as you so hardly likely to talk about it, just ignore them and they'll ignore you if they have any sense.

 

[BlancoGoGo]

How about a combination of both? We've met people at clubs, that we've chatted to online. Meeting in a club setting, especially if there's a group going (roll on September!) gives you a chance to see if you 'click', if that attraction is there in RL, with the option to take it further if it is, or remain just a social event if it isn't.
Sometimes that gorgeous couple turn out not to be your type at all, whereas Mr & Mrs un-photogenic, whom you may not have taken much notice of online, turn out to be the life & soul of the party.

 

[Scrunchy&Muffet]

I think meeting in clubs also offers the extra aspect of security. Ie your not inviting a random stranger into your home . Xxx

 

[Admin]

How about a combination of both? We've met people at clubs, that we've chatted to online. Meeting in a club setting, especially if there's a group going (roll on September!) gives you a chance to see if you 'click', if that attraction is there in RL, with the option to take it further if it is, or remain just a social event if it isn't.
Sometimes that gorgeous couple turn out not to be your type at all, whereas Mr & Mrs un-photogenic, whom you may not have taken much notice of online, turn out to be the life & soul of the party.

Agreed....definitely. x
Also even though the name is social swinging; yes of course it's about the social aspect of it rather than a meat (meet) market, even though that's what we're here for = it's also a crass way of doing things. Being social with one another is a great way to see if you click with others.
I think there's a healthy mix of both in all honesty.
That said, we do have official SS socials which we try to do up and down the country to try and cater for everyone. x

 

[The-A-Team]

Hmmm, well tbh, we always after chatting loads on here, and getting friendly, arrange to meet at a local pub to us all for a bite to eat, and a few drinks to solve any nerves, if it happens to be part of a hotel, even better (just in case lol) tbh, clubs wise we personally find them not as user friendly, and as intimate as the one on one scenario in a more relaxed setting, but as others have mentioned, they are a great spot to meet, We prefer to make special visits to clubs, with a view to having fun, rather than specifically going to meet up with someone special, though a few new friends have been unexpectedly gained without trying at clubs lol xx
@The-A-Team

 

[BlancoGoGo]

Hmmm, well tbh, we always after chatting loads on here, and getting friendly, arrange to meet at a local pub to us all for a bite to eat, and a few drinks to solve any nerves, if it happens to be part of a hotel, even better (just in case lol)
@The-A-Team

Have you ever met up at it just really didn't work out? How do you make a graceful exit without hurting delicate egos?

 

[The-A-Team]

At a pub, we always without question meet up for the first time with a view to be friends and as friends do, have a nice meal, a few drinks, and expand on the chats that we've had on messaging before hand, you honestly know very quickly and instinctively whether they are right for you, and if not, we say up front straight away, Listen after meeting you guys we've realised you will make great friends, but not lovers so let's have a great meal out as friends and stay that way xx up to press, we've never had a problem with that get out, but that said, we would have through experience and prior chatting, not even got to that point unless we were pretty sure it would develop xx
@The-A-Team xx

 

[BlancoGoGo]

At a pub, we always without question meet up for the first time with a view to be friends and as friends do, have a nice meal, a few drinks, and expand on the chats that we've had on messaging before hand, you honestly know very quickly and instinctively whether they are right for you, and if not, we say up front straight away, Listen after meeting you guys we've realised you will make great friends, but not lovers so let's have a great meal out as friends and stay that way xx up to press, we've never had a problem with that get out, but that said, we would have through experience and prior chatting, not even got to that point unless we were pretty sure it would develop xx
@The-A-Team xx

Have you ever been on the receiving end of a "thanks but no thanks"? (I have no idea why you would, but just asking!) How would that feel if you really like the other couple? (Can you sense slight rejection anxiety here?!) In a club "not tonight thanks" feels easy to deal with and move on, but out for dinner & drinks....maybe that's why it's been clubs for us so far.

 

[The-A-Team]

Have you ever been on the receiving end of a "thanks but no thanks"? (I have no idea why you would, but just asking!) How would that feel if you really like the other couple? (Can you sense slight rejection anxiety here?!) In a club "not tonight thanks" feels easy to deal with and move on, but out for dinner & drinks....maybe that's why it's been clubs for us so far.

Honestly, the worst we've had is a couple of no shows, so we just had a lovely meal for ourselves, we treat the lifestyle as added fun, if it happens then bonus if not we've made some great friends (maybe were lucky, as it usually happens with us xx) if I'd didn't, we certainly would not feel rejected, it happens
@The-A-Team xx

 

[meet_the_fockers]

You may find a few more opinions here. X
https://socialswinging.com/posts/99495/

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

Just our take on things. If we get a free night , we like to make the most of it so in honesty a club meet is ideal. If we arrange to meet a couple & your not compatible then there it's not a wasted night for either couple as there's literally plenty more in the club. So much less awkwardness & pressure .

Sometimes that gorgeous couple turn out not to be your type at all, whereas Mr & Mrs un-photogenic, whom you may not have taken much notice of online, turn out to be the life & soul of the party.

This is so true, personally I think I come across much better in person than on a pic.

Mr Bump

 

[Deleted member 2610]

As a new guy to this I've yet to go to a club, reason very nervous and absolutely no idea if I could just turn up and go in... Missed the last meet at VA but planning to break my duck in Sept, fingers crossed.
Have met a couple of lovely ladies from SS and both in the pub for a drink to 'break the ice'. Personally looking to have that social click and anything else is a bonus.
I've made new friends here and hope to expand this greatly over the coming months. Xx

 

[5-Times!]

As a new guy to this I've yet to go to a club, reason very nervous and absolutely no idea if I could just turn up and go in... Missed the last meet at VA but planning to break my duck in Sept, fingers crossed.
Have met a couple of lovely ladies from SS and both in the pub for a drink to 'break the ice'. Personally looking to have that social click and anything else is a bonus.
I've made new friends here and hope to expand this greatly over the coming months. Xx

We went through the wtf stage before our first club visit. Trust me, do it. Once you're in and settled, you'll wonder why you hadn't been before.

 

[Deleted member 2610]

We went through the wtf stage before our first club visit. Trust me, do it. Once you're in and settled, you'll wonder why you hadn't been before.

Thanks...build up the nerve one day x

 

[meet_the_fockers]

Thanks...build up the nerve one day x

September

 

[Admin]

September

Indeed.... come on @SexyTatts

 

[Offenbach]

Being twisted.....clubs just don't interest me. Where I stay (Glasgow) there is one well known club and a couple of recent start ups .The main club has a reputation for being somewhat cliquey and, though they do control numbers, is supposed to be still top heavy with males to females ratio.

I prefer things more intimate.

 

[MickeyBlueBalls]

Same as Tatts. Nervous of what to expect and the "noob" treatment that I often hear about. I like this site as I can't be judged because I'm new and made to feel welcome. Not sure I'd get the same reaction at a club. I do intend to go one day as Townhouse is only up the road from me but it's the"oh no a single male" factor that puts me off which appears evident as you have to go to a night specifically for single men - Wednesday night I believe. But if you're a female or couple it's all good. So in a perfect world a club would exist with SS members as I would think it less daunting to meet somebody I've already chatted with. I know once I get into the swing of things (no pun intended) I would be fine but it's taking that leap of faith to go to a club that is really quite difficult. Anyways I've rattled on enough!!!

 

[BlancoGoGo]

Same as Tatts. Nervous of what to expect and the "noob" treatment that I often hear about. I like this site as I can't be judged because I'm new and made to feel welcome. Not sure I'd get the same reaction at a club. I do intend to go one day as Townhouse is only up the road from me but it's the"oh no a single male" factor that puts me off which appears evident as you have to go to a night specifically for single men - Wednesday night I believe. But if you're a female or couple it's all good. So in a perfect world a club would exist with SS members as I would think it less daunting to meet somebody I've already chatted with. I know once I get into the swing of things (no pun intended) I would be fine but it's taking that leap of faith to go to a club that is really quite difficult. Anyways I've rattled on enough!!!

Then @MickeyBlueBalls why don't you join us all Sept 2nd at @CupidsSwingersClub where @meet_the_fockers are organising a social? Looks like lots of newbies (both to the site & to clubs) will be going, chance to meet all the crazies on here!
GG x

 

[The-A-Team]

Same as Tatts. Nervous of what to expect and the "noob" treatment that I often hear about. I like this site as I can't be judged because I'm new and made to feel welcome. Not sure I'd get the same reaction at a club. I do intend to go one day as Townhouse is only up the road from me but it's the"oh no a single male" factor that puts me off which appears evident as you have to go to a night specifically for single men - Wednesday night I believe. But if you're a female or couple it's all good. So in a perfect world a club would exist with SS members as I would think it less daunting to meet somebody I've already chatted with. I know once I get into the swing of things (no pun intended) I would be fine but it's taking that leap of faith to go to a club that is really quite difficult. Anyways I've rattled on enough!!!

Hi, We think you may be taking the single males night out of context they are not singling you out because your a newbie, far from it, they are promoting you as a single guy again from our experience, these nights, are hosted so that singles males are put into a situation where they will meet couples, who are specifically wanting a threesum/ moresum scenario, and the single ladies that go, are often after the same thing but have the multiple choice to say hello to single guys too if it suits them, don't get us wrong, if your a bag of nerves when you arrive, you will stand out a little, As a suggestion, go on a singles night, NOT with the aim of meeting someone, but to familiarise yourself with the whole club, the different rooms, changing areas, bars Etc, as knowledge is itself something that boosts confidence, then the next time you go, you can concentrate on saying hello and meeting people, the fact you know the club well, will give you an upper hand with people and show confidence which is something that is recognised less easily than fear !!
@The-A-Team

 

[MickeyBlueBalls]

Then @MickeyBlueBalls why don't you join us all Sept 2nd at @CupidsSwingersClub where @meet_the_fockers are organising a social? Looks like lots of newbies (both to the site & to clubs) will be going, chance to meet all the crazies on here!
GG x

Great suggestion GG. I'll check my diary. X

 

[Admin]

Great suggestion GG. I'll check my diary. X

It'll be a good one Mr Blue Balls..

 

[Deleted member 1402]

Same as Tatts. Nervous of what to expect and the "noob" treatment that I often hear about. I like this site as I can't be judged because I'm new and made to feel welcome. Not sure I'd get the same reaction at a club. I do intend to go one day as Townhouse is only up the road from me but it's the"oh no a single male" factor that puts me off which appears evident as you have to go to a night specifically for single men - Wednesday night I believe. But if you're a female or couple it's all good. So in a perfect world a club would exist with SS members as I would think it less daunting to meet somebody I've already chatted with. I know once I get into the swing of things (no pun intended) I would be fine but it's taking that leap of faith to go to a club that is really quite difficult. Anyways I've rattled on enough!!!

The reason for it being on a Wednesday has nothing to do with what sex you are. You'll find that townhouse is one of the most accommodating clubs out there for single guys, with fair prices and no membership fees.
Atop using your gender as a kop out, it's really off putting.

 

[Deleted member 1402]

Great suggestion GG. I'll check my diary. X

This, I had already mentioned.