Coffee Shop Or Market?

[Lips_Pearls]

Are you in the coffee shop where you don't allow outsiders to come in, because they don't have the right name, a green or gold badge?
What about the marketplace where everybody meets or is it some?
Are we inclusive or exclusive?

Are you in the coffee shop allowing only specific folk in who fit your criteria and lists, or are you a marketplace person who will mingle with others regardless of status, badges and criteria?
x

 

[Baldrick]

Are you in the coffee shop where you don't allow outsiders to come in, because they don't have the right name, a green or gold badge?
What about the marketplace where everybody meets or is it some?
Are we inclusive or exclusive?

Are you in the coffee shop allowing only specific folk in who fit your criteria and lists, or are you a marketplace person who will mingle with others regardless of status, badges and criteria?
x

I'm an #ubertart apparently. They say I'll talk to any riff raff

X

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I'm an #ubertart apparently. They say I'll talk to any riff raff

X

Well hell!

#UberTartFTW!

 

[TherLegs]

We go into the coffee shop then sit outside to drink it
Seriously, we will talk to anyone because if we don't how do we get to know anyone. Just reading posts may give you an idea about them but when you interact with them then you start getting to know them. Sometimes things go on from there and that's why we are outside the shop drinking our coffee snd perving.

 

[fincon]

Are you in the coffee shop where you don't allow outsiders to come in, because they don't have the right name, a green or gold badge?
What about the marketplace where everybody meets or is it some?
Are we inclusive or exclusive?

Are you in the coffee shop allowing only specific folk in who fit your criteria and lists, or are you a marketplace person who will mingle with others regardless of status, badges and criteria?
x

This is one of my favourite types of question; because I genuinely don’t know how to answer it.

(While I lean to certainty rather than uncertainty, I do like things that make me think.)

Depends on the circumstances, I guess. I have a set of friends who all tend to share certain traits; a hunger to learn, and to keep learning, would be two of them.

But other than that, no, I’ll talk to anyone… until or unless something occurs that makes the talking uncomfortable or inappropriate. (And not the ‘good’ kind of inappropriate, the bad kind…)

 

[GeoffRy]

I/we will definitely talk and interact with anyone and are not picky who we interact with. But obviously we all have requirements and criteria for our adventures so all visit the coffee shop to get erm...coffee. It's no good going to the market for coffee when they only sell fruit and fish. X Geoff

 

[Deleted member 11575]

Devils advocate as always ........
So our journey is about exploring our bisexual sides, together, as a couple ...... we’re not funny buggers, both friendly, open and respectful of peeps sexual orientation.
My question is, if single straight men are really not our thang, is it not our prerogative to block them, purely to avoid wasting their time. I mean, based on our profile information, why would single straight man follow us ..... unless maybe they’re looking for a quick and easy perve at pics ....which would be fine if we were voyeurs ..... or maybe we’re cynical and scarred from our time on the other website whose name shall not be spoken lol
This is not a rant, or a personal dig ...... just a point of view .
Love to hear peeps take on this (gulp ...... finger nervously poised on the send button)
Pixie xx

 

[TherLegs]

Devils advocate as always ........
So our journey is about exploring our bisexual sides, together, as a couple ...... we’re not funny buggers, both friendly, open and respectful of peeps sexual orientation.
My question is, if single straight men are really not our thang, is it not our prerogative to block them, purely to avoid wasting their time. I mean, based on our profile information, why would single straight man follow us ..... unless maybe they’re looking for a quick and easy perve at pics ....which would be fine if we were voyeurs ..... or maybe we’re cynical and scarred from our time on the other website whose name shall not be spoken lol
This is not a rant, or a personal dig ...... just a point of view .
Love to hear peeps take on this (gulp ...... finger nervously poised on the send button)
Pixie xx

Why block people purely on their status, do you bock single ladies? I very much doubt that.
Have any of the single guys been causing you a problem? If they have, have you reported it?
Quite simply blocking a group of people on this site, based on experience elsewhere just carries that ethos across here. It is not needed, we encourage the SG's to be active on the site, to interact with others. We know that most of them are genuine, friendly and respectful, so why would you not give them a chance to disprove your fears. Anyone, SG, SF or couple who is disrespectful here and remains so after any required warning will be banned.

 

[Baldrick]

Devils advocate as always ........
So our journey is about exploring our bisexual sides, together, as a couple ...... we’re not funny buggers, both friendly, open and respectful of peeps sexual orientation.
My question is, if single straight men are really not our thang, is it not our prerogative to block them, purely to avoid wasting their time. I mean, based on our profile information, why would single straight man follow us ..... unless maybe they’re looking for a quick and easy perve at pics ....which would be fine if we were voyeurs ..... or maybe we’re cynical and scarred from our time on the other website whose name shall not be spoken lol
This is not a rant, or a personal dig ...... just a point of view .
Love to hear peeps take on this (gulp ...... finger nervously poised on the send button)
Pixie xx

Hi Pixie.

My personal opinion on this as a single guy.

First of all, we are still human. We will say hello and be friendly. Most of us do read profiles and we can see what you are looking for. If you are being pestered then by all means block but otherwise why limit your options?
Single guys may not always be single. We may couple up. We may attend socials with single females. By blocking us you may miss out in the future.

For example I attend a social with a smoking hot +1, and you both want to talk to us. The response from me would be
"No thank you, you blocked me on SS. Why would we want to interact now?"

Do you see what I mean? We see it as rude. Now if some individuals are really bothering you then by all means block, but why would you want to block us friendly respectful or even helpful ones?

I talk to/interact with single gents all the time because I know one day I shall probably meet them. It is of course your both of yours decision but maybe something to think about.

X

 

[Deleted member 11575]

Why block people purely on their status, do you bock single ladies? I very much doubt that.
Have any of the single guys been causing you a problem? If they have, have you reported it?
Quite simply blocking a group of people on this site, based on experience elsewhere just carries that ethos across here. It is not needed, we encourage the SG's to be active on the site, to interact with others. We know that most of them are genuine, friendly and respectful, so why would you not give them a chance to disprove your fears. Anyone, SG, SF or couple who is disrespectful here and remains so after any required warning will be banned.

Why block people purely on their status, do you bock single ladies? I very much doubt that.
Have any of the single guys been causing you a problem? If they have, have you reported it?
Quite simply blocking a group of people on this site, based on experience elsewhere just carries that ethos across here. It is not needed, we encourage the SG's to be active on the site, to interact with others. We know that most of them are genuine, friendly and respectful, so why would you not give them a chance to disprove your fears. Anyone, SG, SF or couple who is disrespectful here and remains so after any required warning will be banned.

Feedback appreciated .... it was simply a point of view. Everyone is very respectful on here and we have no issue. The only bug bear we have is when peeps don’t ask if they can follow .... I mean at the end of the day we all have a choice who we want to chat to or who we want to see our pics don’t we? ( again ... met with the utmost sincerity)
Pixie xx

 

[Deleted member 11575]

Hi Pixie.

My personal opinion on this as a single guy.

First of all, we are still human. We will say hello and be friendly. Most of us do read profiles and we can see what you are looking for. If you are being pestered then by all means block but otherwise why limit your options?
Single guys may not always be single. We may couple up. We may attend socials with single females. By blocking us you may miss out in the future.

For example I attend a social with a smoking hot +1, and you both want to talk to us. The response from me would be
"No thank you, you blocked me on SS. Why would we want to interact now?"

Do you see what I mean? We see it as rude. Now if some individuals are really bothering you then by all means block, but why would you want to block us friendly respectful or even helpful ones?

I talk to/interact with single gents all the time because I know one day I shall probably meet them. It is of course your both of yours decision but maybe something to think about.

X

Absolutely ..... I was genuinely interested to hear others take on this ..... I didn’t mean to cause offence xx

 

[Deleted member 11575]

Please be aware we are new to this, limited experience and we’ve only been in one other website ....
My post wasn’t meant to cause offence just generate discussion and give us food for thought
Pixie xx

 

[TherLegs]

Please be aware we are new to this, limited experience and we’ve only been in one other website ....
My post wasn’t meant to cause offence just generate discussion and give us food for thought
Pixie xx

I don't think anyone is offended and given what would appear to be a poor experience for you elsewhere then I can understand your reasons.
I would also agree that if members want to follow you then they should have the courtesy to ask if that is ok with you. Many do but there will always be a few who won't.
All we are trying to say is we believe this site is different and that blocking really is a last resort to be used only when really needed on an individual basis.

 

[Deleted member 10361]

I don’t do Coffee shops, I will happily chat to anyone, much to the annoyance of my daughter if we are out together, she says I know too many people.
I feel I am a shy person in certain situations, if in a club I will stand back and just watch, almost feel in the way or that I/we don’t belong but I think that’s a confidence thing, yet once I’ve stripped off and I’m in the hot tub day at VA then I’m very happy. We all have our preferences but I am happy to connect with everyone whatever they are into x

 

[Deleted member 6684]

Are you in the coffee shop where you don't allow outsiders to come in, because they don't have the right name, a green or gold badge?
What about the marketplace where everybody meets or is it some?
Are we inclusive or exclusive?

Are you in the coffee shop allowing only specific folk in who fit your criteria and lists, or are you a marketplace person who will mingle with others regardless of status, badges and criteria?
x

Marketplace with open stalls and gourmet selection. People who visit choose how they can interact (pick the stores) How about that Miss. @Pearls ?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

@Richandpixie I highly doubt you’ve offended anyone in your posts etc. You should also not feel nervous in expressing your views, points of view and feelings either. Hopefully you will have realised that this site isn’t the same as others. The ethos instilled into it from day one, still continues and that is to be polite and respectful to all, regardless of anything else. So to a degree it’s a shame you’ve kind of had to explain and justify your choices, however, I for one can certainly understand why you’ve taken that particular stance.
That said, hopefully as time progresses you will most definitely be assured that we’re not the same as any other site - which may well change your views here. x

Marketplace with open stalls and gourmet selection. People who visit choose how they can interact (pick the stores) How about that Miss. @Pearls ?

Sigh.
My lovely wife didn’t write this my friend. I did.

 

[Celtic_Warrior]

Devils advocate as always ........
So our journey is about exploring our bisexual sides, together, as a couple ...... we’re not funny buggers, both friendly, open and respectful of peeps sexual orientation.
My question is, if single straight men are really not our thang, is it not our prerogative to block them, purely to avoid wasting their time. I mean, based on our profile information, why would single straight man follow us ..... unless maybe they’re looking for a quick and easy perve at pics ....which would be fine if we were voyeurs ..... or maybe we’re cynical and scarred from our time on the other website whose name shall not be spoken lol
This is not a rant, or a personal dig ...... just a point of view .
Love to hear peeps take on this (gulp ...... finger nervously poised on the send button)
Pixie xx

Well for me to follow many times it's about what they say and how they put things across because I enjoy reading comments and posts and only if I am wishing a meet would what they are looking for come into play.

 

[MP386]

Devils advocate as always ........
So our journey is about exploring our bisexual sides, together, as a couple ...... we’re not funny buggers, both friendly, open and respectful of peeps sexual orientation.
My question is, if single straight men are really not our thang, is it not our prerogative to block them, purely to avoid wasting their time. I mean, based on our profile information, why would single straight man follow us ..... unless maybe they’re looking for a quick and easy perve at pics ....which would be fine if we were voyeurs ..... or maybe we’re cynical and scarred from our time on the other website whose name shall not be spoken lol
This is not a rant, or a personal dig ...... just a point of view .
Love to hear peeps take on this (gulp ...... finger nervously poised on the send button)
Pixie xx

I have now been using SS for nearly 3 years as a Single bloke I don’t restrict anyone from seeing anything as I liken it to a shop window .... if your not in it how will you sell yourself ... I do have issues with the “quick perv “ so only single blokes do it ?? :hmm: Yes I can be found in the gallery often that’s well documented on here .... I also comment and rate most pictures I look at which I think is courteous...
I don’t as a rule follow anyone unless I ask and they agree ...
And I have a rule for me that I don’t contact couples first if they are interested I wait for them to contact me that way I assume they are both in agreement to that contact ...
I have only ever blocked one person for a short while on advice from the SS but unblocked them when I considered it wasn’t an issue anymore ... As @Baldrick said on occasion I am lucky enough to be escorted by a lady to a social ... if someone had blocked me as a single why would I give them the time of day ?? To me blocking on gender is just rude ...sorry but that’s what I think ...
I have had a situation on a social where couples actively tried to get the lady I went with to go home with them and dump me .... so before tarnishing single blokes plenty of couples have their own selfish agendas....
Hopefully your enjoy being here ... it has had its ups and downs for me but I wouldn’t still be here if it wasn’t a place I enjoy being ... x

 

[Deleted member 11575]

I have now been using SS for nearly 3 years as a Single bloke I don’t restrict anyone from seeing anything as I liken it to a shop window .... if your not in it how will you sell yourself ... I do have issues with the “quick perv “ so only single blokes do it ?? :hmm: Yes I can be found in the gallery often that’s well documented on here .... I also comment and rate most pictures I look at which I think is courteous...
I don’t as a rule follow anyone unless I ask and they agree ...
And I have a rule for me that I don’t contact couples first if they are interested I wait for them to contact me that way I assume they are both in agreement to that contact ...
I have only ever blocked one person for a short while on advice from the SS but unblocked them when I considered it wasn’t an issue anymore ... As @Baldrick said on occasion I am lucky enough to be escorted by a lady to a social ... if someone had blocked me as a single why would I give them the time of day ?? To me blocking on gender is just rude ...sorry but that’s what I think ...
I have had a situation on a social where couples actively tried to get the lady I went with to go home with them and dump me .... so before tarnishing single blokes plenty of couples have their own selfish agendas....
Hopefully your enjoy being here ... it has had its ups and downs for me but I wouldn’t still be here if it wasn’t a place I enjoy being ... x

Wasn’t trying to tarnish anybody

 

[Deleted member 11575]

There seems to be a little confusion? The post wasn’t about blocking single men. The line reads ‘if single straight men are not our thing’ and in the context of the paragraph it explains this is about us exploring our bi sexuality.
If a single male has a female accompany him to a party then we still wouldn’t be interested, would he all of a sudden be interested in the male half of us and exploring a previously unmentioned bi curiously? We have no prejudice angainst anyone’s sexuality and do not expect any against ours. It’s sipmly a case of have those preferences line up. This is why we have no interest in couples where only one member is bi and in reply to one post asking if we would block single women? If they’re not bi then yes we would.
Rich

 

[Nigel&Julie]

Oh what horrible weather it is today
changing the subject N&J xx

 

[Louise1970]

I'm an #ubertart apparently. They say I'll talk to

Tart aint ya just lol

 

[MP386]

There seems to be a little confusion? The post wasn’t about blocking single men. The line reads ‘if single straight men are not our thing’ and in the context of the paragraph it explains this is about us exploring our bi sexuality.
If a single male has a female accompany him to a party then we still wouldn’t be interested, would he all of a sudden be interested in the male half of us and exploring a previously unmentioned bi curiously? We have no prejudice angainst anyone’s sexuality and do not expect any against ours. It’s sipmly a case of have those preferences line up. This is why we have no interest in couples where only one member is bi and in reply to one post asking if we would block single women? If they’re not bi then yes we would.
Rich

Your post does say about it being your prerogative to block single blokes ...which to me says you block them for being single blokes ... the site sets out to be social and tolerant of everyone’s preferences ...

 

[GeoffRy]

Your post does say about it being your prerogative to block single blokes ...which to me says you block them for being single blokes ... the site sets out to be social and tolerant of everyone’s preferences ...

I think their post said single STRAIGHT guys not just single guys. I believe they are both bi and looking for similar , not straight encounters.

 

[Lovernotfighter]

Are you in the coffee shop where you don't allow outsiders to come in, because they don't have the right name, a green or gold badge?
What about the marketplace where everybody meets or is it some?
Are we inclusive or exclusive?

Are you in the coffee shop allowing only specific folk in who fit your criteria and lists, or are you a marketplace person who will mingle with others regardless of status, badges and criteria?
x

Can't I be a tea room serving lovely tea and kick arse cakes?

Honestly though in probably more of a market mixing with anyone but I'm a more cautious about those that aren't photo verified.