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    Discussion in 'Public Forums' started by meet_the_fockers, 16 February 2016.

    1. So come on give us your thoughts is it how you expected?
       
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      • I know you havent but you joined here for different reasons. Didnt you. X
         
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        • And thats the crapest answer ever..
           
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          • It's had it's up and downs in more ways than one, but overall the last few years have been exciting, exhilarating and liberating. Not that I was ever a shy retiring wall flower but my confidence has soared to new heights since we began this wonderful journey and long may it continue.
             
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            • It's better than we could ever have imagined. It's done wonders for our already great sex life and given both more confident to be open about what we like/don't like etc. Also have made some truly wonderful friendships along the way. Ones that we hope will last a very long time. Wouldn't change a thing xxxx
               
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              • meandlis

                meandlis Quiz Meister Admin Sprtr

                Oh god, no. No. Not at all!

                We have changed - as people and in our expectations. Blimey, even our boundaries, rules and desires have changed!
                We were quite specific in the things we were fantasising about, when we started out. We even spoke about some of the things that would make us go "ewwww". We have since tried quite a few of those things (loving some of them ;)) and a few of the old fantasies have fallen by the wayside. We've learned things - about ourselves, about other people and about the world in general - that we would never have learned in any other walk of life. Who knows? Maybe we'll evolve further.

                But I'll tell you something...

                It'll be bloody fun finding out. It always has been ;)
                 
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                • @meandlis yeah I can empathise with that. There are things that initially we thought no way would that float our boat. But have since tried it and loved it. We now have quite a laid back approach. We still have rules that we play by but we have definitely changed and so had our relationship.....for the better. We are stronger than ever xxxxx
                   
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                  • When I think back to our rules when we first started out;
                    Social first
                    Never play at home
                    No single guys
                    Condoms for oral sex
                    Same room only
                    No hotel meets
                    Only meet as a couple

                    What can I say? Rules are there to be bent, broken and thrown out of the window.
                    Aren't they...? X
                     
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                    • Therapon

                      Therapon Senior Staff Member Staff Sprtr Registered

                      I'm fairly new to swinging and untill you asked I'd never really thought about it. I had been on other sites and although I did meet a couple from one the overall impression was hostile, one of the disadvantages of being a single male on most swinging sites and so I had no real expectation.
                      The biggest change has been since joining here and I think Admin summed it up the other day when he said "He didn't make the moderators job his own, it made him". What I think I'm trying to say is, I probably have changed but those changes have been seen by others, not myself so I can't really answer the question- hope that makes sense.
                       
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                      • I shall get back to this tomorrow ;) yey arent you thrilled :D x
                         
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                        • Therapon

                          Therapon Senior Staff Member Staff Sprtr Registered

                          Why do I have the feeling I wont be :rofl:
                           
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                          • Ha your a cheeky git. :D
                             
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                            • The-A-Team

                              The-A-Team PV P Registered

                              No !!!, Not even close !! the excitement and the thrill of meeting a new partner/s for fun, still has us with major butterflies in our tummies, but in real terms, they were often wasted,
                              We have only met a very small amount of people that really made the earth move for us, and matched our commitment to the lifestyle, the real fun starts long after first meets, when the friendship develops properly, so newness and fumbling newness, has long past disappeared, however, often due to our hopeful great expectations, friends are sadly not always properly formed !!
                              This is one of our main reasons that we are concentrating on our established friends network, rather than creating new meets at this present time !!! so we can develop our mutual fun with our large established friends base !! and seriously have some great fun, which is what this lifestyle is meant to be !! xx
                              Regards, @The-A-Team
                               
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                              • Great post @The-A-Team and very true.
                                Regards lol You sound like my bank manager..
                                You are overdrawn miss focker sort it out.
                                Regards... Mr pay me now! Lol x
                                 
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                                • RobbieFutuo

                                  RobbieFutuo PV Registered

                                  would be interested to hear your views..
                                   
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                                  • Blimey how long have you got!!
                                     
                                  • RobbieFutuo

                                    RobbieFutuo PV Registered

                                    40 minutes plus stoppage time
                                     
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                                    • We have changed almost beyond recognision... and continue to do so.
                                      but ill share our thoughts and changes another time.. im no good to anyone after a shift.. i dont function well :D x
                                       
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                                      • RobbieFutuo

                                        RobbieFutuo PV Registered

                                        one for the agenda at the VA Friday do
                                         
                                      • The-A-Team

                                        The-A-Team PV P Registered

                                        hmmm we would !!!
                                         
                                      • Yes prepare to get your butt wacked at pool ;)
                                         
                                      • RobbieFutuo

                                        RobbieFutuo PV Registered

                                        you are more than welcome to whack my butt, but you will not be beating me at pool
                                         
                                      • :eek: you assume its me beating your butt :D
                                         
                                      • Would what?? Like to hear my veiws?
                                         
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