.... can you be a swinger? DEfinitions of swinging seem to be very variable and slippery to pin down but the best I could find online were: Urban Dictionary Swinging is a lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple. Swingers tend to refrain from romantic attachments with their outside partners, thus differentiating themselves from Polyamorists. Wikipedia Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behaviour in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity Both of these definitions seem to define swinging as sexual activity outside of existing relationships. Neither makes mention of other peoples knowledge or permission. Your thoughts?