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    Discussion in 'Public Forums' started by Lips_Pearls, 19 December 2017.

    1. Lips_Pearls

      Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

      And if you believe that: Unicorns are aplenty and fluff (fart) rainbows and glitter.
      So you decided to join Social Swinging - a swinging site that's for swingers of all kinds; both swinging couples and swingles alike.
      You join and don't add any information, any photos or even an avatar.
      This is how you look to other people on here;

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      Would you? I certainly wouldn't either. ;)

      You certainly wouldn't go into a swinging club with a plastic bag over your head? So what's the difference here?
      If you want sex with other swinging couples, you have to put a lot more effort in.

      There's nothing more annoying for us swinger types, than newbies joining our naughty site, not having any info, photos, avatar (profile pic) and basically a blank, ghost profile.. Well okay one thing that is more annoying is those profiles joining and then posting all over our profiles = "Fancy a meet" or "Want to chat? up for fun?" ...
      Because if you can't take yourself seriously enough in this lifestyle to even bother adding content, profile pic, media.. then who in their right mind would even entertain you with them, between the sheets?
      Seriously, it's down to you and what you make of this swinging lifestyle choice that you've chosen to participate in. It's down to you to reap what you sow on here.
      Blank profiles are as attractive as a gone off Brie. No one wants to have a slice of that..
      So sort your accounts out, sell yourselves just as any shop window.
      If you want the fun that comes with swinging, you certainly won't get it by just being a drifting account on here - or anywhere else for that matter. ;)
      x
       
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      • Therapon

        Therapon Senior Staff Member Staff Sprtr

        This ^^^^^

        Ok my personal take on this....

        Why join any site if you can't be bothered to at least add some basic information and a few photo's to your profile. I ignore a blank profile and whilst it may not be true I do think "What have you got to hide"
        If you cannot be bothered to complete your profile why should I be bothered to make any attempt to get to know you.
         
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        • Jophanie

          Jophanie PV Sprtr

          ****Amen To That****
          Made me laugh! Completely agree.... Unfortunately the more '?' we get messages from, coupled with no info and a direct message that is as articulate as a cave man with a club.... The quicker we get at blocking... So our time and energy is not wasted in response!!!
           
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          • Miss-Sexy-Legs

            Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff P Sprtr

            Me being the caring soul I am I try to educate them in the way this site works ,some do then put the effort in ,some don't and in those cases I simply move on to the next person who may need a guiding hand ,we've all been that person who's wary and unsure ,or overly confident to try to make ourselves stand out that little bit more, without thinking first about our profiles
             
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            • meandlis

              meandlis Quiz Meister Admin Sprtr

              Do re mi?

              Do fill in your profile - info and pics
              Remember that everyone on here is a genuine human being - staff and owners included.
              Miss out at your peril! (y)
               
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              • I want my money back!

                Oh... wait a mo'... it's free :(
                 
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                • T&C

                  T&C PV Sprtr

                  No pain no gain....
                  No profile, nothing is what you get xxxx :0)) T
                   
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                  • Makes perfect sense. Put the groundwork in - photos, info and chat on the forums. People will want to get to know you before considering even a coffee. It's not rocket science, but no one wants to shag a question mark ;)
                     
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                    • Not much different to having your profile hidden, especial on this site.
                       
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                      • Urrrr excuse me Mr & Mrs @Lips_Pearls ... I'll have you know, my unicorn and I find it heartbreaking you don't believe in them :p:p

                        But on a more serious note, an empty profile without an avatar doesn't inspire me to have a nosey. If you won't put effort into your own profile, why should I read it? Let alone acknowledge your "hey beautiful, let's chat" message, that you've copied and pasted to a million other people
                         
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                        • Lips_Pearls

                          Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                          Are you sure that we may not believe Miss C? You know us well enough by now after all.... :sneaky: :whistle: x

                          Exactly.... (y) x

                          The point we're definitely making here is to newbies who just join and think that a glass half-empty approach, is enough for people to allow them into their marriage/partnership/swingleton times.. when in reality, it just is not.
                           
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                          • Baldricknkaz

                            Baldricknkaz PV Sprtr

                            When we decided we wanted to give swinging a go we used a popular well known search engine and found a site. We created a full profile, pics, bio, the lot. We received messages and then had to pay to view them, or to do anything other than wink.
                            This is shite we decided, and looked at another site, and did it again with the same results. Then did it again with a smaller profile to a third site, with the same results.
                            At this point my email address was getting spammed by these sites, so I set up a ghost email address and copied and pasted our bio onto other sites including this.

                            It didn't take long for us to realise this is the site we were looking for (free messages and forums where we could actually talk to real swingers and start our journey) and as we started interacting, we replaced the bio with something that better reflected us, we took down our beginner pics (you know the generic genital pics) and replaced them with something more creative :sneaky:. We even gave my real email address and phone number to Admin and he can have our actual address too if he wants it ;).

                            My point is that we are here to stay (sorry staff), because this is the best site we found by far. No it's not perfect and we do not see eye to eye with everyone but that's life. The pros far outweigh the cons and I tell you what else, we could have definately had meets and swung by now. Infact it is only illness that has prevented us so far, but after guidance and advice from the wonderful staff and members of this site we are ready :sneaky:.

                            BnK
                            Xxx
                             
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                            • Lips_Pearls

                              Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                              :yeahbaby:

                              Go you! x
                               
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                              • Lips_Pearls

                                Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                                That's actually an extremely positive post and reply. I did start replying but got called away..
                                I think the most important piece of this post aside from the latter being the obvious, is the fact that you tried some various sites and then found your feet here and felt not only safe enough to share the private details you've mentioned, but also be comfortable enough to share private photos in specific forums and areas, share private information and as you said; add more creative photos over the more generic type images you'd usually get to see.

                                Ahh not seeing eye to eye with everyone is a fact of life and it would be boring if we were all the same... but that aside, I am definitely more than happy knowing that you're as comfortable as you are here and without having to be as cloak and dagger, as most have to be on some other sites due to how they're operated. x
                                 
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                                • Well it is fun and I pretty much get shed loads of sex..
                                  As for my unicorn.. She is fine..

                                  The negative thing about being a swinger is finding the time....

                                  Imagine if I was popular...
                                  XxxBibaxxX
                                   
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                                  • We have been on the same sort of sites as @Baldricknkaz have mentioned and to see messages you had to pay. Still on one particular site although we are in the process of possibly shutting the account down already taken all the pics off as I don't trust the place anymore. Cam is always full of men wanking and women parading themselves it just feels a tad sleezy . Anyway to the point we took a year off mainly because I'd had enough but then in May this year decided one last try if still not a good site out there we won't bother. I found here and joined up not expecting any difference but within a few hours I noticed it was so much different and friendlier. Didn't want to add much in pics at first as was a little nervous but within time that changed, also made our profile much more suited to the site and who we are. We don't get why people don't pv straight away or within a day or two it takes very little effort to do and adding the pics required is not difficult and it shows members who you are. This site is the best one and the only one we want to be on we feel so safe here and help is always at hand not only just from the staff but site members too:love:

                                    Vxxx
                                     
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                                    • Baldricknkaz

                                      Baldricknkaz PV Sprtr

                                      Thank you and you're welcome. I'd just like to say that all of the above is genuinely true and not just kissing the backsides of the staff.

                                      Bah you got an ickle tear in your eye didn't you..... :love::D

                                      Aye but it matters not. Stay polite (which we try our absolute best to do), move along and ignore. There's too many dramas in real life, no point having them here too (y). Most people here are very friendly anyway.

                                      B x
                                       
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                                      • Baldricknkaz

                                        Baldricknkaz PV Sprtr

                                        This ^^^^ right here is the winner in my opinion.

                                        No I didn't want to add pics at first either. Kaz was fine, she is very secure with her body, but me?.... well I was worried. I was expecting negative comments about my body. I watched other men post pics with a similar physique to me, men in nix, men in tights, men tied up and no negative comments made.
                                        It dawned on me that some ladies actually like a bit of meat on a man and it encouraged me to post a couple. I've received absolutely no derogative comments or abuse whatsoever. And even though it was a joke, my bum in Kaz's nix got 6 votes for Pic Of The Month which is more than what Kaz's bum got in the same nix (though I sense some of you were having a giraffe :rofl:). It felt quite empowering actually and I really appreciate the votes I got, very confidence building.

                                        B x
                                         
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                                        • Lips_Pearls

                                          Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                                          There's so many things to be said here... but one thing I will say - we started this site with an ethos, ethics, a 'responsibility' and an aim to go in a specific direction. (basically cleaning up swinging online.. huge I know, but we're not one to take on small tasks :D ).. People come and people go, but those who come and stay - all share the same aims and ethos we do;
                                          To build and maintain a contact site (and more) for like-minded folk, where prejudice, abuse, intolerance, racism, sexism and so on is not and won't ever be tolerated. x
                                           
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                                          • Blind date springs to mind, would we meet a member with no, or very little profile..nope.. we are not a big user of the block button, just in case the member see's the light .
                                             
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                                            • Pearls

                                              Pearls Site Owner Admin

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                                              • The-Gent

                                                The-Gent PV Sprtr

                                                Blocking isnt the answer !If you are a member your family so wouldnt block them for no reason.Just help them understand they need to learn how to behave in club!!
                                                 
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                                                • Lips_Pearls

                                                  Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                                                  I don't actually know anymore. :D xx
                                                   
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                                                  • Dann

                                                    Dann PV

                                                    For me I joined just last week, completely new but with my eyes wide open! I joined with no info or verification making conversation! My motives are certainly not to gain a quick shag or get off on pics as a pen pal, it’s genuinely interest, open to learn new things and understand it. With that in mind I was welcomed but educated on verification, and detail and pics to add to it! Without hesitation I did so due to the fact my motives are for in my opinion what this site is about If somone is reluctant to Put a pic or add information to their profile then shows lack of integrity.... there’s an agenda hidden because let’s face it there’s no excuse they could say I don’t want people knowing.... well that completely defeats the object of joining and shows lack of taking it seriously. In my opinion anyway.
                                                     
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