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My top tip to newbies (more aimed at guys I guys): avoid making your introductory message a cock pic.
 
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Tip number 2 (also at guys, typically): When approaching a couple, be rest assured they both know you're probably interested in the lady. Pay attention to the male half: hes not just her chaperone. If you win him over, that's brownie points for you.
 
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Tip number 2 (also at guys, typically): When approaching a couple, be rest assured they both know you're probably interested in the lady. Pay attention to the male half: hes not just her chaperone. If you win him over, that's brownie points for you.
Sounds like youve had experience mate
 
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Tip number 2 (also at guys, typically): When approaching a couple, be rest assured they both know you're probably interested in the lady. Pay attention to the male half: hes not just her chaperone. If you win him over, that's brownie points for you.
The same can be said of a single lady also
 
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Vanezza

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Tip number 2 (also at guys, typically): When approaching a couple, be rest assured they both know you're probably interested in the lady. Pay attention to the male half: hes not just her chaperone. If you win him over, that's brownie points for you.
This is true. When guys approach us, specially new members, its often as if I don't exist... I make myself known though (y):D

N xxx
 
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Vanezza

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Yes it can be quite irritating when I get messages from single guys that don't acknowledge that I'm part of a couple so I always make that clear to them

Vxxx
 
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TherLegs

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Just reading through this, the same can be said about the male half of a couple when contacting another couple to play, the other male generally gets overlooked as they are more interested in the female.
 
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Top tip 4: This is swinging (not match dot com), you do not "own" someone you've played with, and neither should they get upset if you play with someone else after them. (One or two rough personal experiences over the years, this is for everyone, including couples).
 
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Top tip 4: This is swinging (not match dot com), you do not "own" someone you've played with, and neither should they get upset if you play with someone else after them. (One or two rough personal experiences over the years, this is for everyone, including couples).
Yes that's very poignant and something people need to remember indeed. (y)
 
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Lovernotfighter

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This is a great tread though I think newbies and oldbies for that need to just follow these simple rules

1. Have fun it's meant to fun.
2. Respect everyone especially yourself.
3. Understand people's situation and the situation you are in.

Ohh and an extra thing

4. Play safe.



 
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Another tip would be a refustal is always possible however do not take this personally as attraction is not something you can account for just be polite chat have a giggle and you never know what will happen. The social aspect can be as important as the intimacy

Relax and be yourselves
 
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Be honest if your not interested say so.
Dont be a soap dodger (get a bath and smell nice)
Personal hygene is a massive game changer.
Check your fingernails as not many women will let you near them with dirty hands.
Dont ever agree to doing anything until after you have met the person socially.
Meet the first time in a busy place and BE ON TIME
Hell this list could be endless
 
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Remember: Swinging is supposed to be fun - its not an avenue to gather "ego rubs". If you're not interested in someone, please PLEASE don't them along (that's for everyone!) - personally I've known a few women who (sadly) were not interested in meeting, but enjoyed the attention. When I sussed them out and backed away, they'd then message every so often to see if I fancied chatting while they were busy meeting others.