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Discussion in 'BDSM & Fetish Forums' started by Lace, 2 February 2017.

  1. Lace

    Lace PV

    There seems to be a few threads here about Dominants but not much on being a sub, are there any subs on here? If so do you live this lifestyle day to day?
    I love to hear about others and how they live being a sub.
     
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  2. Therapon

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    Yes I am a submissive but not on a daily basis. It depends who I am with, I need to know them well and have complete trust in them before I would think about any play because you can be vunerable at times. With the right person, for me its something I like and feel comfortable with but possibly not something others would like or agree with but thats my choice. Outside of this I treat people as equals so its not 24/7.
     
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  3. Lace

    Lace PV

    Why wouldn't others agree?
     
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  4. Therapon

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    Because it depends on what they like a true dominant, and there are plenty who think they are but really have no real idea what it means, for example would never feel comfortable being submissive. Thats why I said some may not agree.
     
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  5. Pearls

    Pearls Site Owner Staff Admin

    This ;)
     
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  6. Pearls

    Pearls Site Owner Staff Admin

    Fakes are just there to abuse the submissive. Sadly ;)
     
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  7. Miss-Sexy-Legs

    Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff Sprtr

    Ive been the submissive in my past so I see both sides and a true domm would never do anything a submissive would not agree to ,its communication from both parties involved that make it work to reach an enjoyable encounter x
     
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  8. Therapon

    Therapon Admin Admin Sprtr

    Yes the 20 year master dominant for example who appeared on another site. What he meant was let me tie you and fuck you.
     
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  9. Lace

    Lace PV

    I see the point now. A true Dominant will always treat the sub with the utmost respect. X
     
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  10. Im begining to wonder what i am? Hmm ok do not answer that!! :D
     
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  11. I have never felt the desire to be a Dom. I do like being a sub, sometimes for a weekend. It's wonderful to no longer be responsible for decision making.
     
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  12. Miss-Sexy-Legs

    Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff Sprtr

    Youre just a pinky thingy xx
     
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  13. Lace

    Lace PV

    Being restricted could give you an answer. ;)
     
  14. Miss-Sexy-Legs

    Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff Sprtr

    But wether your a submissive or a domm the decisions are both of yours you should never ever give full control until you have spoken about all aspects involved and set rules in place and the whole domm sub lifestyle isnt about one making decisions and the other not
     
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  15. Maybe I'm not understanding fully? I like to relinquish control. Of course ultimately I do have the power to say no.
     
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  16. Lace

    Lace PV

    submission has to be earn't, submit to the Dominant, yes, but he or she has to earn this. It can't be just taken, giving yourself 100% is very empowering for you. Talk through what you want and how far you wish to go. X
     
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  17. :sneaky:
     
  18. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    I see a slight spin-off from the OP but then that's what makes our threads amazing reading because we see the dynamics of so many people and their opinions.
    @Lace there are many on here am sure. Even some who aren't sure where they are in the spectrum.

    Which is the exact reasoning behind it. It's about relinquishing control and fully submitting your all... With consent of course.
    Sadly there's a LOT of wannabe Dom's out there and a hell of a lot of wannabe sub's too.
    I almost wrote a bit of a piece about this, but refrained.
    Having someone fully submit to you is an amazing feeling/experience and builds such a uniqueness and bond..

    Sadly a lot of broken subs around, agreed - but also some subs who know how to manipulate too.
    As also mentioned, the "I want to tie you up and fuck" "Dom's" (I say it loosely) are not Dom's. The 21 year old Dom's - are not Dom's. (no offence)
    It's not something you can learn to be either. it has to be in you. You can hone it and develop it further yes, but you cannot learn to be a Dom. Just like you can't learn to be a sub or be submissive.
    It has to be there in the first place, if it's not then chances are you won't be able to enjoy either side of it. Unless you're a switch...
     
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  19. So where does a switch fit in? Just curious of course..
     
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  20. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    Inbetween the two - not literally... But where you can adjust to both mental states of being a Dom or a sub.
    A switch is capable of doing both. x
     
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  21. Yes i know this.. but i need it explaining see... :sneaky:
     
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  22. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    You naughty girlie...
    Well, a switch is one who is capable of submission such as being restrained, directed (told what to do LOL :D ), having a smacked bottie good and proper for being naughty, or for being good.. << likely the latter.. and who is capable of serving her master. Plus coping with edging and forced orgasms and more..
    A Dom - switch, is one who not only is capable of all of the above and more, but is also capable of having the control and discipline to control his/her sub and direct him/her, issue punishment (enjoyment) restrain the sub, and still have the discipline in their mind to be in full control and allow the teasing, foreplay, hitty play, and more..
    However, as a switch - regardless of what role that person is in, they will also want to be in the opposite role. So while meting out six of the best, or a forced orgasm, their desire is to also have it done to them too...
    All in all, greedy! :D :sneaky:

    Forced orgasm anyone?
    :whipping:
     
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  23. Miss-Sexy-Legs

    Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff Sprtr

    A switch is someone who can be either dominant or submissive and gains equal pleasure from both roles ,they have within them the need to sometimes be dominant and like to feel the control over others , while as a submissive they feel the need to please others , this is totally dependant on who they are within themselves and who they are with also
     
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  24. Lips_Pearls

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  25. Thankyou eloquently put Sir. :sneaky:
     
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