Swinging Drama

[Sookieplay]

Hello all, We have been in the lifestyle for 5 years but usually only play a few times a year when it’s convenient. We are very secure in our marriage with very little drama or jealousy ever. My question that led us to this site where we are relatively unknown is, is it the experience of other couples in the life here that playing with a brand new couple is just too much of a risk?? We have had amazing experiences that have added to our lives in immeasurable ways. That being said, twice we have played with a green couple where things went BAD. The first was drama the next day where we just heard about it. The most recent, 3 days ago, an aquantance of ours for a few years really wanted for his wife to experience my wife in a hotel room while we were at a party (same hotel). Long story short he literally went insane after being fun loving moments before, stormed into the room, hit walls, broke glass, and hit his wife. The Mrs. Was out in a blink and we were both dumbfounded.
I have seen moderate jealousy that just ruins the vibe but this is a first. Frankly, as much as we love connecting with other people, this had really bummed us out for the last few days.
Id like to add that the other guy is soft spoken and generally a seemingly easy going fellow.
Has anyone ruled out being the experimental couple or person for newbs? Is this a risk that many have experienced? We ate really looking for a better way forward.
Thanks for any feedback, sorry if this already has a thread (couldn’t find one) and nice to be here!
Mike & Nicole

 

[Looby&Lew]

Hello you two. Welcome to the site. What an ordeal that sounds I hope you're both ok.
We have been on the scene just over two years and whilst there may have been some odd experiences never anything like this. We always meet socially first and if we are unsure we will either socialise again or leave it alone. We like to chat on line too for a while. We would never rule out newbies as we've all been there but I would definitely take it slow and make sure that everyone was comfortable all the way through.
I wonder whether you have just been unlucky. What I would say is that for us we like the friendship side to exist too and if we have fun as friends then we have fun elsewhere.
Good luck. Don't give up on it ... may be just take a but more to be to make sure everyone is comfortable first.
Xx

 

[Sookieplay]

Hi L. Interestingly enough, we normally do a social meet first and almost never play the same night if that is the first contact.
This was more of a spur of the moment thing for us however it was known later that the other couple had talked about the possibility before the party and prepared a few things. The girls had flirted a little the year before and i suppose it had been a topic for them.
I agree with your assessment that we were all new at a point.

 

[Sookieplay]

Also nice to meet you and thanks for the reply! Dont mean to be a downer here either lol.

 

[Looby&Lew]

Also nice to meet you and thanks for the reply! Dont mean to be a downer here either lol.

You're not being a downer. This site is a great community and allows people to discuss these issues. It's not something you can throw in the conversation with your regular friends unless of course you are very open about it so air it here. People are always willing to share experiences. It's good to meet you too. Looby xx

 

[Pearls]

Welcome to the site both x

 

[DiamondJoe]

I my experience, you get what you expect.

 

[Phoenixcouplexx]

Hi guys,
Par for the course occasionally with new couples. There' only so much you can do before the only well to tell is to go ahead and play.
I know some couples have ruled out playing with new couples which we do understand. We love seeing the amazement and wonder when it really works though so we haven' made that choice.
Sounds like your experience was pretty full on though! If it were me I'd chalk it up to experience and try and figure out how to see it coming next time.
Xxx

 

[Deleted member 3411]

Hi @Sookieplay and welcome to ss. See this is why we have this site, here you can get to know a couple/person first and develop trust. As you will have seen SS has a picture verification requirement (pv) so from the start you can be sure the people here are genuine and who they say they are. Then we have the social meets too so you can meet up with those you've chatted to and see if the chemistry is there.
Sadly bad meets happen, so we look at the attitude and behaviour as well as physical appeal of all we want to play with.

 

[Connie john]

Sadly bad meets happen

only if you let it happen.