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Vanezza

Stud Muffin
11 May 2017
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I got lost, tried turning but got stuck in arseholes.... not the way you think! :rofl:

N xxx
 
19 May 2015
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All you can do is take sometime to absorb the idea and assess what you feel and want to do, if you can live with it do it if not express it to your partner either way the silence will cause resentment. If it's something that your not sure of maybe there are baby steps that can be taken to make you comfortable. Best advice that I can give without specifics lol
 

Therapon

Admin
11 August 2015
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Wants to change direction in swinging and you didn't expect it or see it coming, what do you do?
;) x

Discuss it with them, nothing stays the same forever. It may be an opportunity to bring something new into the equation. It may be an opportunity for the both to talk about what they would like to do in the future.
 
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Talk about it find out the reason behind it, and then as @Therapon says it may be something can be brought into the mix, or you may find out that there is something else that would bring them back in the right direction. S x
 
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Sammy

Open frank detailed and brutally honest exploring conversation is required

Explore the subject and options
And see where it goes

You might be surprised what happens

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1 September 2018
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This whole "swinging" thing is a new and unexpected turn for us ,previously only played with girlfriends/friends of Rys (threesomes etc), but discovered this through talking about everything together. Honest truthful discussions are key to any relationship be at vanilla or experimental. Everything can be solved with honesty and openness. And since being here for only 1 month we have discovered lots and found many new things to excite and stimulate us both.
Talk about everything.
 
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19 March 2015
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This whole "swinging" thing is a new and unexpected turn for us ,previously only played with girlfriends/friends of Rys (threesomes etc), but discovered this through talking about everything together. Honest truthful discussions are key to any relationship be at vanilla or experimental. Everything can be solved with honesty and openness. And since being here for only 1 month we have discovered lots and found many new things to excite and stimulate us both.
Talk about everything.
It's so easy I think, for people to have the account and one stronger personality/person who then uses it more than the other, slip into their own PM's without the other half knowing and boom... the issues start etc.
As you say, being totally open will help.

Pun not intended :D
 
TherLegs

MOTM

11 December 2016
3,660
9,285
Too many probably. Well we know a lot do. In all aspects really.

We all, at times, procrastinate over things. People often see change in a negative way, more so when it affects them directly but those are also the changes you need to look at and discuss, to ask awkward questions about both the change and of yourself. Difficult, worrying, maybe frightening but to bury your head in the sand doesn't help anyone.
 
TherLegs

MOTM

11 December 2016
3,660
9,285
This whole "swinging" thing is a new and unexpected turn for us ,previously only played with girlfriends/friends of Rys (threesomes etc), but discovered this through talking about everything together. Honest truthful discussions are key to any relationship be at vanilla or experimental. Everything can be solved with honesty and openness. And since being here for only 1 month we have discovered lots and found many new things to excite and stimulate us both.
Talk about everything.

And that is how to do things (y) and great to know you are having fun in looking at things differently.