Why We Have Meets.

[Deleted member 3411]

Well just about everybody is on the way to the meeting tonight and I admit that I wish I was going. I haven't however because I promised Linda I would wait for her to come home before we embark on anything else. But the value of these meets cannot be stressed hard enough for me. As well as this site I have been on a few other social Media's looking for friends for Linda and I to play with. This week I spent quite a bit of time getting to know two women, Who at first seem like good prospects but however both of them came to the point where as soon as the request form some kind of talk over the phone or any other kind of proof thay they were real they just vanished (one blocked the other deleted thier profile).
So people how much do you look for the meeting right from the off? because past experience has shown me the only genuine people will agree to something more concrete within the first few hours and anyone who skirts around proof has got something to hide.

Ps.... still guttet I'm not there tonight, there's more than one person we'd like to meet who will be there tonight

 

[Admin]

This week I spent quite a bit of time getting to know two women, Who at first seem like good prospects but however both of them came to the point where as soon as the request form some kind of talk over the phone or any other kind of proof thay they were real they just vanished (one blocked the other deleted thier profile).

Can you please let me know who?
Thank you.

 

[Pearls]

I never trust anyone to be genuine unless I speak on the phone or meet, sadly this is the of internet. As we work on line then it does make our job easier in spotting fakes especially me. Women instinct perhaps

 

[Therapon]

It's a pity you didn't go to Chams, after all this is primarily a social event with no expectations on anyone to play but I also respect why you decided no to go.

What do I look for, well nothing really I just like to get an idea about the person and to see if we get along and what their expectations are. If there appears to be mutual agreement then I would take it from there.

 

[Deleted member 3411]

Can you please let me know who?
Thank you.

I'll message you. But was no one here.

 

[Admin]

I'll message you. But was no one here.

Ahh okay, then no need to. Thank you though.

 

[Admin]

However thank you for the kind words and that PM @SteLinda
I'll leave you guys to the thread. Have fun all.

 

[Deleted member 3411]

It's a pity you didn't go to Chams, after all this is primarily a social event with no expectations on anyone to play but I also respect why you decided no to go.

We trust each other totally but while she is in Brazil and I am here alone I would prefer to put her mind at ease by not even going anywhere near the temptation.... but trust me when she's back we're going to grab the temptation with both hands well make that all four

 

[MickeyBlueBalls]

I've yet to pop my club cherry. And to be brutally honest with myself would expect nothing more than a social evening with pleasantries and zero play. But on the media and meet side of things I find that if you get chatting and it's effortless and consuming then the chances are a meet could be on the cards. If the chat is brief and forced then it's not happening. However I'm the world's worst when it comes to reading the signs of the virtual world. But in the one instance I met somebody from SS I chatted with them for over 10 hours and still had loads to say toward the end. We clicked in such a way that wasn't formed on the basis of a shag, but on friendship. We remain good friends to this day and when my work permits we still meet.....and the sex....one word.....dynamite. But that isn't my friend's best trait although it is pretty fkin amazing

 

[Deleted member 1402]

I went just to socialise. I'm currently not swinging anymore, doubt I ever will again.
To answer your OP, I started swinging to gain friendships, I occasionally had sex as a bonus.

 

[Turnuptheheat]

Any future socials we would love to attend, just not in a wet club. I know we're in the minority but sauna and hot-tubs do nothing for us x

 

[Scrunchy&Muffet]

Any future socials we would love to attend, just not in a wet club. I know we're in the minority but sauna and hot-tubs do nothing for us x

Nearly every club has a wet area but you dont have to use it. There are plenty of other areas to enjoy xxxx

 

[MacMermaid]

This is an area that doesn't appear to exist anywhere in Scotland sadly

 

[Brumcouple2013]

Well just about everybody is on the way to the meeting tonight and I admit that I wish I was going. I haven't however because I promised Linda I would wait for her to come home before we embark on anything else. But the value of these meets cannot be stressed hard enough for me. As well as this site I have been on a few other social Media's looking for friends for Linda and I to play with. This week I spent quite a bit of time getting to know two women, Who at first seem like good prospects but however both of them came to the point where as soon as the request form some kind of talk over the phone or any other kind of proof thay they were real they just vanished (one blocked the other deleted thier profile).
So people how much do you look for the meeting right from the off? because past experience has shown me the only genuine people will agree to something more concrete within the first few hours and anyone who skirts around proof has got something to hide.

Ps.... still guttet I'm not there tonight, there's more than one person we'd like to meet who will be there tonight

We know how you feel. We had a conversation about the same issue last night at the social.
During the four years we have been on the scene we have lost count of the fakes we have come across, which normally becomes clear when the request to talk on a phone is made.
The down side for us is that we very rarely make contact with couples on sites now and never contact single females. We now just stick to a few couples we know, which means we don't play as much as we would like too and have given up on finding a single female.

 

[Brumcouple2013]

Don't give up xx

Thanks for the positive comment @Pixie67. We discussed this to a degree last night so you will have some idea of our frustrations.

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

From a personal perspective, because at times we all lose faith & wonder if there's any genuine people out there, the event that we organised last night is testament to the genuine folk on here.
The turnout was exceptional, especially when you take into account the travelling that people had to do & just how many hadn't been to a club before.
Had , @SteLinda, your situation been different & you'd both attended last night as you'd have liked to then I'm absolutely certain you'd be feeling as positive as we do today.
Even people that are sceptical about visiting clubs I would recommend making the effort to get to one of the Socials organised by either Staff or site members as it's a genuine, no pressure environment where we can meet, chat, laugh, share a drink or maybe even more.
It's quite a liberating experience to be in the company of other like minded people & have the freedom to chat openly about the lifestyle with no fear of being overheard by a non swinger & judged by others, for people like ourselves it was so refreshing to see it unfold in front of us, see the nerves ease & people embrace the atmosphere & see what it's all about.

Apologies for the epilogue, now to summarise.
We meet because it's fun, because it's an extra enjoyment in life, it's desert after a meal.
Fakes leave a sour taste, but the sweet taste that meeting genuine people leaves lasts a lot longer & makes it all worthwhile

Mr Bump

 

[Brumcouple2013]

From a personal perspective, because at times we all lose faith & wonder if there's any genuine people out there, the event that we organised last night is testament to the genuine folk on here.
The turnout was exceptional, especially when you take into account the travelling that people had to do & just how many hadn't been to a club before.
Had , @SteLinda, your situation been different & you'd both attended last night as you'd have liked to then I'm absolutely certain you'd be feeling as positive as we do today.
Even people that are sceptical about visiting clubs I would recommend making the effort to get to one of the Socials organised by either Staff or site members as it's a genuine, no pressure environment where we can meet, chat, laugh, share a drink or maybe even more.
It's quite a liberating experience to be in the company of other like minded people & have the freedom to chat openly about the lifestyle with no fear of being overheard by a non swinger & judged by others, for people like ourselves it was so refreshing to see it unfold in front of us, see the nerves ease & people embrace the atmosphere & see what it's all about.

Apologies for the epilogue, now to summarise.
We meet because it's fun, because it's an extra enjoyment in life, it's desert after a meal.
Fakes leave a sour taste, but the sweet taste that meeting genuine people leaves lasts a lot longer & makes it all worthwhile

Mr Bump

Your comments are spot on @Bump-n-Grind. Have been to a social before that was held at a non swinging environment, we have to agree last night was far better.


The biggest surprise of the evening for us was that we visit Chams regularly and have seen you there several times with different friends. It's wasn't until last night did we know you are the who you are. But we still didn't get to say hello as we were busy chatting to others due to the high turn out.

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

Your comments are spot on @Bump-n-Grind. Have been to a social before that was held at a non swinging environment, we have to agree last night was far better.


The biggest surprise of the evening for us was that we visit Chams regularly and have seen you there several times with different friends. It's wasn't until last night did we know you are the who you are. But we still didn't get to say hello as we were busy chatting to others due to the high turn out.

The time flew so quickly unfortunately we didn't get to speak to everyone as much a we'd have liked to, but I'm sure we'll see you guys at Chams & we'll get to say hello

 

[Brumcouple2013]

I think the riding crop kept me at a safe distance away lol