I clearly never got the tee shirt on this... After several days of anguish I finally found where to send a wink. That's not the real problem though, I can't find where I can do wink management. I get a summary window that lists my winks and if I say OK they all go away, fine, but if I want to follow them up sender by sender I have to perform an arcane series of clicks to stimulate the reappearance of my wink summary window: what I can't find is a link to explicitly open the summary window so I can investigate the next wink, etc. etc. I'm sure it's there but not visible to my selective brain.