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    Discussion in 'Swinging Chats - Public' started by Lips_Pearls, 10 August 2018 at 19:28.

    1. Lips_Pearls

      Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

      @Pearls and I have been chatting lately about what times are best suited for us and this lifestyle.
      After we were asked by someone recently if they’d done something to upset us; as our chat times are dwindling. We’re certainly not offended or upset by them, but concerned why they’d think that.
      So, this got us thinking and chatting about some things and we were wondering how you manage your time with this, as best you can.
      It’s the summer holidays meaning we’ve got kids at home as most of us have.
      We’re active with them every day. Also on top of that, we have a lot of work on atm too meaning that our only real spare time is on the weekends. During this time we’re definitely more available for chatting and more available for liaisons.

      But in addition to this, it’s also very very difficult as we don’t have babysitters either making weekends a rarity for fun but we’re more accessible to chat more on here. :sneaky: :whistle:

      Is it the same for you too? Are you struggling to have fun with this lifestyle with the time you have or don’t have?
      We definitely are... and it is a little frustrating but it’s also a case of - it is what it is.
      Over to you x
       
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      • Miss-Sexy-Legs

        Miss-Sexy-Legs Moderator Staff P Sprtr

        With a change in jobs then rising up ranks rather quickly i deffinately struggle with availability ,either attending socials or meets ,but now im getting more settled we as @TherLegs are starting to sort this out xx
         
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        • debE

          debE PV P

          Up untill recently...the weekends used to be mine to do as i wished. Problems in everyday life with one thing or the other mean that, at the moment, this is no longer the case. I do try to get on site as much as i can, and try to make plans for when i know i should free, but that can prove difficult when other parties aren't.
          Still...keep plodding on. Wont be like this forever:)x
           
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          • Lips_Pearls

            Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

            Yes your work changes have had a massive impact bless. Hope it gets sorted for you soon though. Sounds like it’s about to. X

            Yes, it won’t last forever and you’ll soon have more time to get back into things and enjoy this again. It’s been a difficult several months for you too so it’s bound to be tricky. Still, am sure it will all sort itself out x
             
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            • Ahabs

              Ahabs PV Sprtr

              I typiclly throw myself into work (yes, I'm a workaholic and DO bring work home with me. You should see my workstation!), so Monday to Fridays are usully out unless a local meet-up is within an hour drive, or I get out early enough on a Friday for a longer journey.

              Weekend are a bit weird:
              Firstly: I LOVE my Saturday morning lie-ins. If I have nothing important to do, I wake up no earlier than 10am and don't get out of bed before noon. Why? Simple: I can do my job from home (or anywhere with an internet connection) but I'm paid to go in. As I don't have to go in on the weekend, and I'm not being paid, why am I getting up early? :cool:

              Secondly: on weekends when I do have stuff to do, I try to get my chores done (as doing them on a week-day, truth be told, I wouldn't put money on - yes, when it comes to chores I'm one of those "will do it when I'm motivated" types, and when I get home from work anytime after 6.30pm, I'm not exactly thinking "woohoo, lets do some chores!" :womble:

              Thirdly, at heart I'm a home-body: most of the time all I wanna do is mooch in shorts, jogging bottoms (or nothing at all ;)), sit in my chair, headphones on and spent hours shutting down my brain on the PS4... yes, I can let that side of me out!

              Lastly, any online interactions I have (usually during the week) leading up to meets (social/play/clubs/parties) tend to be on the weekends, soI try to stay organised, therefore know what weekends I'm doing what. This has led me over the years to being patient, even if it means taking over a year (sometimes upto 5 years) to meeting someone I've been chatting to (not that I'm not interested, I just don't believe in chasing as I'm a firm believer if a lady/couple want ot meet a guy, they will let him know).
              So, that's me in a nutshell... gosh, I hope I haven't scared you all off :hmm:
               
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              • Tiger

                Tiger PV Sprtr

                Being new to the site and to the lifestyle, I’m still finding my feet so to speak!
                :tiphat:
                Tiger xx
                 
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                • Childcare issues especially on a holiday but also not many members very close to us so would take alot of logistical planning ect... But we will hopefully attend and event very soon. X
                   
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                  • Nigel&Julie

                    Nigel&Julie PV Sprtr

                    :palm: N&J xx:D:D
                     
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                    • Therapon

                      Therapon Senior Staff Member Staff Sprtr

                      This is our main problem at present, MSL's work means our "weekend" nights are usually mid week and not helped by our location either. Having said that it's not impossible, just not the easiest thing to arrange with anyone who works Monday-Friday.
                       
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                      • Lips_Pearls

                        Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                        True and you've had a major change....
                        So with that, anyone in particular tickle your fancy? :whistle: ;) :sneaky:
                         
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                        • Therapon

                          Therapon Senior Staff Member Staff Sprtr

                          Yes :)
                           
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                          • ShyandTwisted

                            ShyandTwisted PV P Sprtr

                            Health plays a big part our time. There is a number of problems that restrict us physically with the wife's health randomly. And when they don't its not always easy to switch headspace in to play mode. Bloody frustrating for her and us.

                            But when we do its very spontaneous usually
                             
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                            • Lips_Pearls

                              Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                              Sorry to hear your wife suffers with ill health. I suppose it makes it all more fun when you can.
                               
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                              • ShyandTwisted

                                ShyandTwisted PV P Sprtr

                                Oh when we have fun we do its like she's been unleased
                                 
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                                • Lips_Pearls

                                  Lips_Pearls PV P Sprtr

                                  Sounds familiar :sneaky:
                                   
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                                  • Ours has recently changed for much better now i am home every night. Dont think we would have enough time for a meet on a weekday evening unless it was a couple we already knew. Weekends are mostly free for us so we are actively looking for meetings right now. As for chatting on here well we dont get folks chatting for hours on end before meeting. We wanna have sexy fun times with folks not become best friends although that is a possability once we all meet.
                                     
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                                    • We struggle especially at this time of year as we have so many family birthdays anniversaries and holidays trying to work around all these makes it difficult. We both have large families and often find the weekends are the time we get together, but often family and friends are down most of Saturday and throughout the day Sunday so meets at the weekend are best we can escape and have fun! During the week is just a no go we simply can’t do it, as we rely on parents to have our lad.

                                      We try to get on here as often as we can but G’s job makes it difficult at work, as he’s constantly fixing forklifts, I cheekily pop on during the day as I am lucky enough to be away from prying eyes at work, but obviously have to be careful! We try to make time on a night to pop on here, generally in PJ’s with a cuppa tea, so rock n roll! S xxxx
                                       
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                                      • MP386

                                        MP386 PV Sprtr

                                        You would think being a single bloke would make things easier sure it is for some but being self employed and having to work when it’s there , no holiday pay or big pensions for me I will die with my wood in my hands .:D..
                                        sometimes this can be most frustrating thing to do ,sometimes the most pleasurable... I know I spend too much time here during the day but it’s part of my escape from normality routine ...
                                        Distance has a big part to play on here too active members down here are few and far between...
                                        Week days are not possible most of the time ...
                                        There are other circumstances which I won’t discuss here have an impact on
                                        what I can do ....
                                         
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                                        • Tiger

                                          Tiger PV Sprtr

                                          If you ever fancy having some sexy fun keep me in mind!
                                          Tiger Xx
                                           
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                                          • I will come back to this when we have more time
                                             
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                                            • Sammy

                                              Sammy PV Sprtr

                                              For me between ....life , work children's activities , family events etc this lifestyle is hard because I need to plan well in advance

                                              The are very few members Ie across Scotland so again travelling , travelling time and the finances attached impact how when where

                                              However saying that things are what you make of them, I'm sure no one wants to hear moans n groans of a negative nature

                                              You get out what you put in

                                              Certainly there are few folk I look forward to meeting

                                              I've said before I've travelled 4hrs driving to meet

                                              Already looking forward to next meet... but it had to be well planned in advance


                                              Sx
                                               
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                                              • There are 3 variables that can suffer if you spend too much time online/looking for sex - family, relationships or work.

                                                I choose to fritter my work time away, which is actually quite a lot of the week that I then have to play with. (y)
                                                 
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                                                • seems lately our private life is like a major military operation.. sneaking off for a night out is possible,but we have to always come up with a major cover story..honest it can get silly,but mainly weekends,when we have come up with a story about where we are going for the night ..lol xx
                                                   
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                                                  • Nigel&Julie

                                                    Nigel&Julie PV Sprtr

                                                    Yes know what you mean, we go out on a Saturday with another couple and if we can't make due to having meets / socials we get the third degree, where you going what you doing, sometimes we feel it would be easier to tell them we are swingers. N&J xx
                                                     
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                                                    • in the long run...i don't think anyone would be in the least bit surprised we are swingers lol xx
                                                       
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