Do You Think Or Consider...

[Lips_Pearls]

That age is important or not important in this lifestyle?
Does age not bother you and you'll meet anyone 18+?
Or is age a factor for you and you won't meet anyone who isn't at least over 25/30+?

As mentioned in another thread regarding terms such as MILF, GILF and so forth, it brings in the age factor again and it's interesting to see people's thoughts about what they consider is a suitable age for swinging and would they/you get involved with someone who could be young enough to be your son/daughter..

I know this has been discussed in another thread somewhere, but for love nor money I can't find it.

So...Swingers, it's over to you. x

 

[Max-the-3rd]

For me, meeting someone under say 28 would be a stretch just for the simple fact I would like to be able to talk to them an not be made to feel old. But maybe I am being to judgemental as long a can converse with the other people and there is a attraction on both sides I am happy.x

 

[Looby&Lew]

For us anyone close to our children's ages is a no x

 

[Cheeky_Demon]

I just waffled my thoughts in the other thread before seeing this one

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

I like to meet people nearer my age , it seems easier to converse and with said people theres not so much lets fuck and go, id stretch to lower my limit to 30+

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Indeed, for the record our lowest age limit is 30..
Now that doesn't suggest for one iota that we are knocking anyone's preferences or choices, but for us, it's just too close to home when our eldest is 24!
I think we would possibly consider meeting someone just under 30 (as in 28/29) though if they had the right approach and attitude.

 

[Deleted member 3657]

Indeed, for the record our lowest age limit is 30..
Now that doesn't suggest for one iota that we are knocking anyone's preferences or choices, but for us, it's just too close to home when our eldest is 24!
I think we would possibly consider meeting someone just under 30 (as in 28/29) though if they had the right approach and attitude.

Out of curiosity, would your lower age limit rise the older your children get?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Out of curiosity, would your lower age limit rise the older your children get?

Interesting question really. You'd automatically assume that logically this would be the case..
I don't think that when we reach say our late 40's or early 50's - that we would be keen on meeting someone in their 20's but probably late 30's and 40's +.. I think.
By which point ten years from now, the eldest would be 34. Hmm food for thought there.

 

[Looby&Lew]

Out of curiosity, would your lower age limit rise the older your children get?

For us yes. I think that anything much more than a generation starts to feel less comfortable.

 

[Deleted member 3657]

Interesting question really. You'd automatically assume that logically this would be the case..
I don't think that when we reach say our late 40's or early 50's - that we would be keen on meeting someone in their 20's but probably late 30's and 40's +.. I think.
By which point ten years from now, the eldest would be 34. Hmm food for thought there.

I understand your thinking. Not having children the lower age limit for me does not come in to play except must be 18 plus. As for upper??? Does sexy have an age limit?

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

We don't have any age limits as such as we would take each person or couple as we find them, Having said that we think if the person was a lot younger than us we would be turned off by the immaturity of the person so limits would set themselves

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I understand your thinking. Not having children the lower age limit for me does not come in to play except must be 18 plus. As for upper??? Does sexy have an age limit?

No, I don't think so really.. Sexy doesn't have any age limit does it..
Yes agreed with 18+ for you and not having children etc. And why not too!
I think having children changes the whole dynamics of this lifestyle with regards to ages.

Having said that we think if the person was a lot younger than us we would be turned off by the immaturity of the person so limits would set themselves

Very true!
You are correct and we've seen it for ourselves. Not only personally but professionally too;
We set the age limit on the site initially to 18+ but after a while, and seeing 18 year old 'boys' joining the site and making some truly toe curling posts, profile posts and so forth, I decided that we needed to increase the site limit to 21+.
We put it to a vote for members and unilaterally the answer was - yes, make the site 21+ minimum.

 

[Brumcouple2013]

For us we couldn't go below late 20's and that's the age of my two daughters. That's a mental approach to what we do as it wouldn't feel right. Don't get me wrong my second wife was 14 years younger than me.
On a plus side we don't have an upper age limit.

 

[Tigress]

I have entertained men of 21 and my husband is nearer 60. Age is irrelevant to me. It's what's behind the eyes...

 

[Tigress]

My eldest child is eighteen, but people I play with are not my children...

 

[Tigress]

I'm only a few years older than my partner's daughter, but it works x

 

[meet_the_fockers]

Ah the old age debate..
I have said it before, i have known say 24yr olds with the maturity of 50 yr olds and vica versa.. mr F is 16yrs my junior.. but out of the pair of us he,s the Victor..

Re playing.. i very much doubt us playing with anyone under the age of say 34? We do shift the goal posts..

The difference being, we dont avidly seek *youngsters* out persae that to me is just well weird.. but if theres a connection who knows... but under 28 is a no no for us.. having said that, not a lots set in stone.. in the swinging scene things do evolve, things do change.

 

[Deleted member 1030]

having said that, not a lots set in stone.. in the swinging scene things do evolve, things do change.

Agreed

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

For us as far as the upper limit is concerned can start to become uncomfortable when people are around our parents age, the lower limit is more based on the level of maturity.
We've found that generally people seem to find their feet once they're in their thirties, although we've met some fantastic people under thirty in clubs who show maturity & understanding beyond their years.
Of course the beauty of meeting people in a club is that age isn't always brought up as you get a feel for the person/people & that really to us is a better judgement than age alone.
With sexiness age isn't really a factor, I think we all know sexy when we see it.

 

[Nigel&Julie]

Being a couple in our early fifties, we know our time on here is limited..it would have to be a no no to peeps around the same age as our children, but thinking out loud that might be that we feel too old and not that they are too young xxjxx

 

[Tigress]

Once you're an adult, you're an adult...

 

[Cheeky_Demon]

Good topic.

I can relate to those having soft limits guaged by the age of their children. I can also relate to those having a wider spectrum of choice.

When you connect, even briefly, with someone and are happy to be swept away in the moment then age largely drifts off into the distance.

Are we guided by established social convention? The landscape is changing year by year. Acceptable limits for all manner of things are changing rapidly. I like change.. and open minds.

Love you all. Making me think and re-think on a Sunday morning.

At the end of it all, be happy, have fun and don't be scared to have an opinion (or a good time) xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

For us anyone close to our children's ages is a no x

Yeah this hasn't changed for us even though we're now a year older and I've finally (unwanted) hit 40. Late 20's perhaps. Lower than that, no no. x

 

[Sammy]

I have to say age is a funny thing for me

I've always say it about chemistry and commonalities

I have always had a thing for older men particularly in my early 20s

I have had couple of considerable age gaps however I cannot go younger more than a few years

There's a cracking member on site however 18-20 yrs younger I just cannot do

Sx

 

[Deleted member 5247]

I have an age range as a guide however it is not a hard and fast rule. It’s so cliche but it really does depend on the person and the connection although I’d probably be more likely to go for the older side of the scale than tip the younger side.