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Vanezza

Stud Muffin
11 May 2017
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I find a lot of these pictures disturbing to be completely honest. They portray a woman as an object to be used and not as a human being.. I get there's a release aspect to it but I really can't see it as anything but controlled abuse and more degrading than say @TherLegs play ( I do feel sympathy for his poor knackers sometimes :rofl:)

N xxx
 
TherLegs

MOTM

11 December 2016
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I find a lot of these pictures disturbing to be completely honest. They portray a woman as an object to be used and not as a human being.. I get there's a release aspect to it but I really can't see it as anything but controlled abuse and more degrading than say @TherLegs play ( I do feel sympathy for his poor knackers sometimes :rofl:)

N xxx

Sorry this is a bit of a long reply.

Interesting view and I can understand why you say what you have. It's also interesting when you look through this thread who has posted and what images they used. You might also notice quite a lot of the images have been posted by ladies showing images of submissive ladies.
You might also notice just how few images there are of submissive males, why is that?
Some you may find disturbing but if the submissive is happy and enjoys doing what they do is that wrong? In BDSM there are a lot of wannabe doms, especially males who probably don't even know which end of their dick to use let alone know what BDSM is about. A true submissive is however a lot harder to find so any true dom is going to cherish their sub and ensure that their sub is happy, enjoying themselves and most of all safe. Fail to do that and word will get around the BDSM community and that dom is unlikely to find another sub.
I am submissive, what we do gives me pleasure, I enjoy it and it heightens my sexual arousal. As my dom MSL knows how far she can take things and if she oversteps the mark then I say so and it stops.
So yes in this thread the images might look degrading, it's unbalanced (females) but then a vanilla looking at all the boobies in the galleries might say exactly the same about how degrading swinging is to females.
 
Pearls

MOTM

18 July 2015
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Just to clarify it is Neil's opinion and not mine :)

Vxxx
I think it's a great reply as it's honest, most people won't have the balls to say what they think, it's one of those life styles that many can not understand fully, @Admin and myself have been in this relationship from the begining, before we got together it was still in us just kept hidden I guess. For twenty years this is how we live day to day.If we were not together this would still be us.
The amount of times we have had conversations at our dinner table talking to people about this you wouldn't believe and most the same as Neil would simply say this is abuse.. Once they see and listen to us then that opinion is changed.

For me, I do not want responsibility, I choose to give that up, I don't want to be an independent woman, I want to be looked after and love the feeling of feeling vulnerable. I know most won't understand that, especially women but it's who I am. I see myself no different to my own Mum who was looked after by my dad and in return she kept the home.

I see myself as a woman but also a baby girl and I see my husband as a Dominant man who loves to love me for being me and will always look after me no matter what, if that means me getting a slap for being disobedient, and may I add under my ground rules then so be it. I am never that disobedient though... :whistle:
Old fashioned chivalry and love for us :love:

Thankyou though Neil as most would be thinking the same, just to clarify on @Therapon post there are many fake Dominants out there that believe they have the right to abuse because they call themselves a Dom/Domme and this is where true D/s get a bad reputation. xx

I hope this has answered some questions ;)