In The Bedroom

[Pearls]

Do you feel confident. This can be a fickley scene when it comes to confidence especially with body hang ups but does that have an effect on how you perform with someone you meet.
Do you worry that you’ll be all finger and thumbs, do you find yourself hiding under the covers?
Have you ever cancelled due to such worries?

 

[Deleted member 11852]

I definitely have confidence issues..especially about how I look but once we start doing things I do tend to forget about it..I really don't think this will ever change because I'm so paranoid about my size..we have had quite a few meets now but I still get nervous every time there's another..I think most people understand plus if their honest about it they probably feel exactly the same..I think it's normal to be nervous every time..you always think to yourself just because we are married and have a fantastic sex life doesn,t mean somebody else will enjoy the same things that satisfy Mrs h..that's always in the back of my mind ..will I be able to satisfy someone else like I can with Mrs h but again people I speak to say they have the same concerns before a meet and that it's perfectly normal..so maybe it is just in my head..W..

 

[Pearls]

I definitely have confidence issues..especially about how I look but once we start doing things I do tend to forget about it..I really don't think this will ever change because I'm so paranoid about my size..we have had quite a few meets now but I still get nervous every time there's another..I think most people understand plus if their honest about it they probably feel exactly the same..I think it's normal to be nervous every time..you always think to yourself just because we are married and have a fantastic sex life doesn,t mean somebody else will enjoy the same things that satisfy Mrs h..that's always in the back of my mind ..will I be able to satisfy someone else like I can with Mrs h but again people I speak to say they have the same concerns before a meet and that it's perfectly normal..so maybe it is just in my head..W..

That’s the thing when you’re married. As a couple you know each other in and out. I know exactly what makes hubby tick and him me so when you have someone else in that scenario you do worry. Shall I touch them there, should I do that, will that be enough or worse are they enjoying. I think we all feel that at some point.

 

[Deleted member 11852]

That’s the thing when you’re married. As a couple you know each other in and out. I know exactly what makes hubby tick and him me so when you have someone else in that scenario you do worry. Shall I touch them there, should I do that, will that be enough or worse are they enjoying. I think we all feel that at some point.

I am usually ok when once we start playing..we did have one meet that went completely south..I felt awful convinced it was my fault but turned out it was the the others not ready to meet..we didn't find out for about 4 days so I spent them thinking about leaving the lifestyle and my confidence was completely shattered..we both sat down talking about it then decided to stick with it..so at the moment things are going really well and I just put the bad experience down as a learning curve..W..

 

[Pearls]

I am usually ok when once we start playing..we did have one meet that went completely south..I felt awful convinced it was my fault but turned out it was the the others not ready to meet..we didn't find out for about 4 days so I spent them thinking about leaving the lifestyle and my confidence was completely shattered..we both sat down talking about it then decided to stick with it..so at the moment things are going really well and I just put the bad experience down as a learning curve..W..

We all get them and stopping at the first hurdle wouldn’t be the right way to move forward as you’ll never experience the fun side of swinging.

 

[Deleted member 11852]

We all get them and stopping at the first hurdle wouldn’t be the right way to move forward as you’ll never experience the fun side of swinging.

That's exactly what we both thought and are now well aware this could quite easily happen again so will just deal with it when it happens..W..

 

[Pearls]

That's exactly what we both thought and are now well aware this could quite easily happen again so will just deal with it when it happens..W..

Don’t think like that. I would say it’s rare and people who aren’t ready to physically meet show by not making the effort to meet, they just wannabe swingers as I call them. That’s fine but they generally just join sites, want horny chats, perv media but won’t meet. I’m sure it won’t happen again both, keep positive.

 

[MP386]

Do you feel confident. This can be a fickley scene when it comes to confidence especially with body hang ups but does that have an effect on how you perform with someone you meet.
Do you worry that you’ll be all finger and thumbs, do you find yourself hiding under the covers?
Have you ever cancelled due to such worries?

Obviously being an :innocent:....
Confidence has become better than when I started,I look how I look ,I don’t hide anything in media it’s all out there ,ok you may have to trawl through a lot of it ...
In a get your kit off situation,I am who I am wobbly bits and all , being fingers and thumbs with someone new I think is normal as you won’t necessarily know what they like or not and we are all different in that respect ... interesting conversation on eye contact at the weekend some like it some don’t ?
it’s usually always on top of the covers so no hiding ...
Never yet cancelled a meet due to confidence.... I am always open to my abilities, no bull shit bravo I can shag for hours which seems rife in this scene.... I don’t have a huge cock .... I’m not a porn star , I don’t go for hours like the Duracell bunny .... I’m just a normal average bloke off the street ... take it or leave it

 

[Pearls]

Obviously being an :innocent:....
Confidence has become better than when I started,I look how I look ,I don’t hide anything in media it’s all out there ,ok you may have to trawl through a lot of it ...
In a get your kit off situation,I am who I am wobbly bits and all , being fingers and thumbs with someone new I think is normal as you won’t necessarily know what they like or not and we are all different in that respect ... interesting conversation on eye contact at the weekend some like it some don’t ?
it’s usually always on top of the covers so no hiding ...
Never yet cancelled a meet due to confidence.... I am always open to my abilities, no bull shit bravo I can shag for hours which seems rife in this scene.... I don’t have a huge cock .... I’m not a porn star , I don’t go for hours like the Duracell bunny .... I’m just a normal average bloke off the street ... take it or leave it

Out of curiosity and to all. Do you talk when getting down to it I know it’s a passion killer, maybe. Or is it? Can you communicate with someone whilst getting down and dirty. I think we can to a certain extent and say no I don’t like that or move to the right a little or up a bit maybe. I dunno

 

[MP386]

Out of curiosity and to all. Do you talk when getting down to it I know it’s a passion killer, maybe. Or is it? Can you communicate with someone whilst getting down and dirty. I think we can to a certain extent and say no I don’t like that or move to the right a little or up a bit maybe. I dunno

A certain someone gives me loads of instructions so I get it right
I was always told not to talk with your mouth full It sounds like gobbledygook if you do

 

[Pearls]

A certain someone gives me loads of instructions so I get it right
I was always told not to talk with your mouth full It sounds like gobbledygook if you do

Ok so if it wasn’t doing it for you would you say something or risk losing you know what

 

[MP386]

Ok so if it wasn’t doing it for you would you say something or risk losing you know what

Yes .... no teeth

 

[Pearls]

Yes .... no teeth

Can you imagine if you mentioned to a lady she wasn’t doing it for you. You asked her to try this or that and she got up and walked

 

[fincon]

In the bedroom: Do you feel confident.

Absolutely.

Once I’m asleep, I’m confident I’ll sleep right through the ni—

Oh, wait, you didn’t mean that, did you?

OK, never mind. Carry on… as you were.

 

[Pearls]

Absolutely.

Once I’m asleep, I’m confident I’ll sleep right through the ni—

Oh, wait, you didn’t mean that, did you?

OK, never mind. Carry on… as you were.

Silly billy

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Obviously being an :innocent:....
Confidence has become better than when I started,I look how I look ,I don’t hide anything in media it’s all out there ,ok you may have to trawl through a lot of it ...
In a get your kit off situation,I am who I am wobbly bits and all , being fingers and thumbs with someone new I think is normal as you won’t necessarily know what they like or not and we are all different in that respect ... interesting conversation on eye contact at the weekend some like it some don’t ?
it’s usually always on top of the covers so no hiding ...
Never yet cancelled a meet due to confidence.... I am always open to my abilities, no bull shit bravo I can shag for hours which seems rife in this scene.... I don’t have a huge cock .... I’m not a porn star , I don’t go for hours like the Duracell bunny .... I’m just a normal average bloke off the street ... take it or leave it

You an angel....whoever told you that.??? xxx M

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Out of curiosity and to all. Do you talk when getting down to it I know it’s a passion killer, maybe. Or is it? Can you communicate with someone whilst getting down and dirty. I think we can to a certain extent and say no I don’t like that or move to the right a little or up a bit maybe. I dunno

I think you have to be able to talk to a certain extent otherwise you could be fumbling round for ages and no one getting anything out of it..plus if I was doing something that felt uncomfortable to someone I would expect them to say rather than just put up with it..you want every experience to be enjoyable..after all the whole point of it is fun..W..

 

[Pearls]

I think you have to be able to talk to a certain extent otherwise you could be fumbling round for ages and no one getting anything out of it..plus if I was doing something that felt uncomfortable to someone I would expect them to say rather than just put up with it..you want every experience to be enjoyable..after all the whole point of it is fun..W..

I agree. I think some quiet whispers work well when in the moment. Just saying

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I agree. I think some quiet whispers work well when in the moment. Just saying

“Cum for me baby girl” is definitely one I think. xx

 

[Pearls]

“Cum for me baby girl” is definitely one I think. xx

That works for me xx

 

[The-Gent]

what works for me is a sexy lady x

 

[Deleted member 3175]

In all honesty yes I will always have body confidence issues, they're slowly getting better than they were, but I do have major hang ups. G always says I have nothing to worry about but I still do S xx

 

[DandDforfun]

Great conversation and I believe that not one person is truly ever satisfied with their body confidence - it’s just human nature. But the issue I’m concerned about is the end - how does everybody depart! Handshake, thank you, that was very nice, we’ll contact you ... that’s the point I feel my confidence and vulnerability will show and I would like to hide under the bed sheets ....

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Great conversation and I believe that not one person is truly ever satisfied with their body confidence - it’s just human nature. But the issue I’m concerned about is the end - how does everybody depart! Handshake, thank you, that was very nice, we’ll contact you ... that’s the point I feel my confidence and vulnerability will show and I would like to hide under the bed sheets ....

You just do whatever feels natural..sometimes it's a handshake or a hug other times a kiss..we have regular meets now so it's just like friends saying see you next time..once we have finished playing you just sit chatting about real life like friends do..we even go for meals or a drink when we met..you don't really chat about bedroom fun..you just have fun in the bedroom then go back to friends just casually sitting around chatting with a cup of tea..W..

 

[MP386]

Can you imagine if you mentioned to a lady she wasn’t doing it for you. You asked her to try this or that and she got up and walked

I haven’t found one yet that hasn’t done it for me
It’s always a worry if they will run away screaming