How Do You React

[mrclouse]

how do you guys react to seeing people from sites like this outside of the scene, not arranged or anything like being served by them or finding out they work with you?

I have only ever had it happen to me once, a pizza girl turned out to be someone from another website i was just stunned/supprised so i left it at that and sent a message afterwards to chat with her... turned out well but it could have ended up creepy for her thinking back on it... so i thought to ask

 

[Twickerman]

What happens in the bedroom/club/bushes stays there. I would just blank it.

 

[AlphaOmega]

I will smile and nod if I bump into someone I know, if they chat I'll happily chat back if not I happily move on with my day.
I would obviously be really annoyed if while chatting they referred to swinging if I had anyone was with me, but a hello I can pass off as just someone I know.
Not sure how I'd feel if someone messaged me on here pointing out they knew me, that could be creepy dependent on how they did it, especially if I didn't know who they were.

 

[mrclouse]

I will smile and nod if I bump into someone I know, if they chat I'll happily chat back if not I happily move on with my day.
I would obviously be really annoyed if while chatting they referred to swinging if I had anyone was with me, but a hello I can pass off as just someone I know.
Not sure how I'd feel if someone messaged me on here pointing out they knew me, that could be creepy dependent on how they did it, especially if I didn't know who they were.

Yea which is why after i did it i realised how creepy it could have been ... just been thinking these days on how i should really react. the nod seems best choice +1

 

[Deleted member 1402]

I will smile and nod if I bump into someone I know, if they chat I'll happily chat back if not I happily move on with my day.
I would obviously be really annoyed if while chatting they referred to swinging if I had anyone was with me, but a hello I can pass off as just someone I know.
Not sure how I'd feel if someone messaged me on here pointing out they knew me, that could be creepy dependent on how they did it, especially if I didn't know who they were.

This

 

[Therapon]

I will smile and nod if I bump into someone I know, if they chat I'll happily chat back if not I happily move on with my day.
I would obviously be really annoyed if while chatting they referred to swinging if I had anyone was with me, but a hello I can pass off as just someone I know.
Not sure how I'd feel if someone messaged me on here pointing out they knew me, that could be creepy dependent on how they did it, especially if I didn't know who they were.

Yep have to agree with this. I quite often bump into people from the Fet scene and we just act normally, say hello but never mention anything if there are other people we don't know included in the chat - simple really.

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

most people i know away from here know about my lifestyle so its an unspoken word not to broach the subject and unlikely considering where i live to really meet many face to face on here

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

Just crack right in there, clear any uncertainty out the way, at the water cooler, Alan Partridge style: "Hey! Dan! Dan! DAN! DAAAANNN! Didn't recognise you with your clothes on!! How's your wife? Did we?! Did I?! Did you?! High fives, yeah?!!"

I'd love it if Partridge had been a swinger...oh the scenes!

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Just crack right in there, clear any uncertainty out the way, at the water cooler, Alan Partridge style: "Hey! Dan! Dan! DAN! DAAAANNN! Didn't recognise you with your clothes on!! How's your wife? Did we?! Did I?! Did you?! High fives, yeah?!!"

I'd love it if Partridge had been a swinger...oh the scenes!

are you on something lol this makes no sense

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

Lol, I'm only joshing...no way would I do that!! Or expect anyone else to...! I've never actually bumped into anyone in the 'real world' so can't say but I'd probably do as @Therapon, polite hi, small talk, then on with the rest of the shopping.

At work though, christ, who knows, does it make or break your career...

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Lol, I'm only joshing...no way would I do that!! Or expect anyone else to...! I've never actually bumped into anyone in the 'real world' so can't say but I'd probably do as @Therapon, polite hi, small talk, then on with the rest of the shopping.

At work though, christ, who knows, does it make or break your career...

good thought you were off in space or a total muppet

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

Lol, a little jet lagged but otherwise fine!

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Lol, a little jet lagged but otherwise fine!

id go to bed then and come back with a better status than what youve got its not very nice reading

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

That does sound like a plan! I'll have a go at changing my status too, sorry it's not been an enjoyable read...

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

That does sound like a plan! I'll have a go at changing my status too, sorry it's not been an enjoyable read...

good personally its offensive try something more subtle you might then be taken seriously

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

Aw, sorry, just intended as bit of fun, a play on a rhyme, really didn't mean to cause any offence...as for being taken seriously, honestly I'm fine, not that bothered, I'm not here for social validation!

Happy for you or others to private message me with this sort of stuff in the future if thats ok.

Have a fun night!

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Aw, sorry, just intended as bit of fun, a play on a rhyme, really didn't mean to cause any offence...as for being taken seriously, honestly I'm fine, not that bothered, I'm not here for social validation!

Happy for you or others to private message me with this sort of stuff in the future if thats ok.

Have a fun night!

i will

 

[Therapon]

Ok lets keep the thread on track please. @Cpt.Deepstick you're new to the site and I think you will find this site very different from some others you may have been on. Take a look at some other single guys profiles to get some idea of what the ladies like.

 

[Admin]

Aw, sorry, just intended as bit of fun, a play on a rhyme, really didn't mean to cause any offence...as for being taken seriously, honestly I'm fine, not that bothered, I'm not here for social validation!

Happy for you or others to private message me with this sort of stuff in the future if thats ok.

Have a fun night!

social validation

Agreed, you are not. It is YOUR profile and you are fit to do as you please providing it does not breech the site rules, which you have not and it does not.
Whether any posts may be deemed offensive or not is for the reader to decide.
The point has been raised and made, so can I remind everyone to keep on track please.

 

[Cpt.Deepstick]

Yes, thanks for your advice everyone, chat to you all soon!

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Well... we're all there for the same reason. If you can't be yourself around people in the scene who you may know, or even give a nod of acknowledgement, then you're done for really.
We're all there for the same reason don't forget..
Besides, you can have more fun with people you know better

 

[ravencade]

I ahte to say it but most likley wouldnt see anyone from this site where I live, even if I did unless we were chatting on here or something I would just ignore them, If I was friendly with them a small smile would prob be all they got from me

 

[NotSoFireproof]

Yep have to agree with this. I quite often bump into people from the Fet scene and we just act normally, say hello but never mention anything if there are other people we don't know included in the chat - simple really.

I actually did run into someone I know from the fet scene. I was having dinner with some friends, he was having dinner with other friends. Rather than saying anything and drawing attention, I caught his eye and grinned. No need to make a big deal of it.

 

[Dirtyprettythings]

if someone we hadnt met approached us in the street, supermarket or whatever it would piss me off big time. discretion goes a long way and should be maintained.

if someone we had previously met came over then fair enough we'd be more than happy. but the stories you hear about people approaching someone they recognise makes my skin crawl

 

[Admin]

if someone we hadnt met approached us in the street, supermarket or whatever it would piss me off big time. discretion goes a long way and should be maintained.

if someone we had previously met came over then fair enough we'd be more than happy. but the stories you hear about people approaching someone they recognise makes my skin crawl

Now this I agree with, a totally different circumstance if someone who merely recognises you, approached you.
I most certainly wouldn't be keen on that! Discretion is everything.
Bumping into people you know etc one thing, total strangers approaching you through suspicions or recognition - something totally different.