Affairs In Swinging.

[Lips_Pearls]

So @Pearls and I are sat here, drinking a coffee and chatting about some things related to the lifestyle.
One thing we both agreed on is the amount of married people who do swing, outside of their marriages - both known and unbeknown to their partners.
This leads us to the question;
What do you say to your partners so you can get away and swing with other people?
That’s bound to bring some large scale lying into the partnership isn’t it?
Affairs. Swinging. How is it achievable from within a marriage?
After all, there’s only so many reasons and excuses one can give, surely? X

 

[Baldrick]

So @Pearls and I are sat here, drinking a coffee and chatting about some things related to the lifestyle.
One thing we both agreed on is the amount of married people who do swing, outside of their marriages - both known and unbeknown to their partners.
This leads us to the question;
What do you say to your partners so you can get away and swing with other people?
That’s bound to bring some large scale lying into the partnership isn’t it?
Affairs. Swinging. How is it achievable from within a marriage?
After all, there’s only so many reasons and excuses one can give, surely? X

I can't think of any good reason why an affair is necessary for a swinging couple. Are you not getting enough no strings attached sex within the relationship? Am I simplifying things too much? :hmm:

X

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Indeed and what about using the Swinging lifestyle as a means to accommodate affairs?

 

[Lovernotfighter]

I think many affairs whether in swinging or not are a result of it being acceptable to some for normally a man to have a bit on the side.

You also have remember the lengths people go to hide their mistress is extreme, second phones, second bank accounts, false Facebook (and other social media) accounts, the mistress being a distance away so she isn't going to turn up on their door step, sometimes even a false name is used with the mistress.

Slightly off topic but a couple of years ago the was a meme going round that was to the point 'if they not with on valentine's Day your the other woman'.

 

[Baldrick]

Indeed and what about using the Swinging lifestyle as a means to accommodate affairs?

I can't really answer. I have no experience of this. Neither of us used swinging as a cover to have an affair. Neither of us had an affair to my knowledge I can only speak for myself though I suppose .

As a couple (and again to my knowledge) we only had a desire to swing together and not separately.

X

 

[Therapon]

So @Pearls and I are sat here, drinking a coffee and chatting about some things related to the lifestyle.
One thing we both agreed on is the amount of married people who do swing, outside of their marriages - both known and unbeknown to their partners.
This leads us to the question;
What do you say to your partners so you can get away and swing with other people?
That’s bound to bring some large scale lying into the partnership isn’t it?
Affairs. Swinging. How is it achievable from within a marriage?
After all, there’s only so many reasons and excuses one can give, surely? X

I suppose that might depend on how often they met others. If only a couple of nights each year then I guess it might be possible to use the lads/girls night out, the overnight business trip excuse but then what happens if the other half mentions this night out to those friends who then say they know nothing about it.

 

[Celtic_Warrior]

I have swung in a marriage and have been a swingle and I have been sent out by my partner to be a swingle because she could did not want sex as much as me and she joked about it then she said it would help us because the intimacy is just that when we were together but my swingle fun was fulfulilment of my physical urges and although satisfying and enjoyable there was no intimacy in the way of emotions. Now an affair would rely on deciet and lies and for me an emotional intimacy that doesn't exist outside of a relationship.

 

[Antogs]

In my humble opinion if one part of a couple is having a sexual relationship without the knowledge and consent of their partner that's not swinging.....that's cheating !!

Antogs xx

 

[Tiger]

In my humble opinion if one part of a couple is having a sexual relationship without the knowledge and consent of their partner that's not swinging.....that's cheating !!

Antogs xx

I agree with you! If your partner is hiding things from you! It’s a betrayal of trust, It is not swinging it is cheating!

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Funnily i just clicked on jezza as a swinging couple were on there and its just been proven hes meeting other people (shock horror) without her knowledge ,she wanted a relationship, he wanted a fb for fun ,how stupid can some people be really

 

[Celtic_Warrior]

Well you have to be honest and open with your partner's. Both the emotional and play.

 

[The-Gent]

Indeed and what about using the Swinging lifestyle as a means to accommodate affairs?

Not sure that its a excuse to help having an affair, but if you are having one and you both like the style y not/

 

[The-Gent]

I agree with you! If your partner is hiding things from you! It’s a betrayal of trust, It is not swinging it is cheating!

Thats a big statement suppose theres lots of reasons why peeps have affairs not sure its right to criticise them , as a swinger I think understanding is the order of the day? glass houses etc

 

[Pearls]

Thats a big statement suppose theres lots of reasons why peeps have affairs not sure its right to criticise them , as a swinger I think understanding is the order of the day? glass houses etc

I’ve seen so many people get hurt by affairs. Especially in this scene, why they do it? I don’t know, when they have the best of both worlds. X

 

[Celtic_Warrior]

I’ve seen so many people get hurt by affairs. Especially in this scene, why they do it? I don’t know, when they have the best of both worlds. X

This is correct swinging is done with the consent of all parties. Even if one party is absent they must know otherwise it's deceit and deceit is wrong in a relationship

 

[Pearls]

This is correct swinging is done with the consent of all parties. Even if one party is absent they must know otherwise it's deceit and deceit is wrong in a relationship

They just destroy lives

 

[The-Gent]

MMM as I say there are lots of different people in this world and we cant generalise, I have a live and let live I dont tell people how to live its their life as long as they dont tell me. Easy to get on soap box for what ever reason1

 

[Celtic_Warrior]

Live and let live is ok. Just deciet erodes trust and trust is what relationships are built on . Not on soapbox have learnt the hard way that this can blow up in your face and people you swing with and drama isn't fun

 

[Pearls]

It's very sad, communication between you both is key and don't keep secrets from each other, we are lucky I guess and share everything, we talk to the same peeps, we tell each other everything and that's how it should be