Despite the so called "open minded" way swingers are meant to be, in truth many are not, many are very narrow minded in the way they think and behave, to anybody that does not enjoy the same things as they do. This is the way of the world. Sharing a fantasy on a forum with people you are not likely to meet is one thing, but telling your true feelings / fantasy to people you may met can be embarrising or off putting and restrict your chances of meeting.