As a single woman I can only speak from, well, a single woman’s perspective. Oh and from the perpective of someone who hasn’t swung before but has had casual sex.
I have read through posts from couples, and couples who have been part of this scene for a good while, and can completely understand going BB, first, with each other and second, with other trusted people who you have built a relationship with.
For me, however, I will always seek to minimise the risk to my sexual health. A disregard for condoms and sexual health is a big turn off. I see it as (rightly or wrongly) a lack of thought for the safety and well-being of others. Plus, a recipe for unwanted pregnancy.
Forget the flowers and chocolates, I find it romantic when others are just as concerned about protecting themselves and others.
That being said, and now I probably sound like a complete hypocrite, I haven’t ever used protection for oral sex. I refuse to swallow, unless I know someone well but that’s not really going to stop anything is it? I suppose I’ve just been very lucky to date.
I’m laughing at myself now for being so obstinate about condoms for fucking but not oral. You’ve given me something to think about!
