Do You Find Manners Sexy?

Therapon · 19 September 2018

Lovernotfighter said:
It was in one of these flirty conversations she admitted that the fact I was always polite to her turned her on, and this got me thinking do people find good manners sexy and if so how sexy.

I might be reading this differently but I think this is actually a good question and worthy of a thread.
So as I understand this, by using his manners, that is being polite, it has enabled @Lovernotfighter to continue flirting for a few weeks and its the polite flirting that someone finds sexy.
I certainly would not be flirting with anyone whose language and way of flirting I thought was simply crude. Some might but not me.
So as I have read and understood this, yes manners can make a person sexy.

fincon · 19 September 2018

OK, step by step

Respect2017 said:
So you like good manners or not ?

Yep, I like good manners. I don’t find them ‘sexy’, which was what the question asked.

Respect2017 said:
Why do people sit on the fence .. what do you think you achieve

Not much, other than perhaps splinters in your arse. I mean, I’m sure that question is relevant to someone’s point; perhaps you’d care to address it to them?

Respect2017 said:
Imagine your children ..what would you tell them?

In this scene? I don’t tell him (I’ve got one child, a lad in his early 20s) anything about this scene. If he discovers the scene himself, that’s cool, but I wouldn’t dream of telling him anything until he does.

Oh, about manners? Again, he’s in his early 20s. Bit late for me to start telling him anything. But yeah, I quite like that he has good manners. His mum and I brought him up to have good manners for lots of reasons; have to say, however: increasing his chances of getting laid wasn’t one of them.

Respect2017 said:
Bad manners are ok ?

Again, I quite like good manners, but I don’t find them sexy, or find someone sexier because they have good manners.

There you go - questions answered. Hope that helps...

Colin · 19 September 2018

Why do people have bad manners ??? my father was very strict ( almost victorian ) and we were brought up to mind our manners and respect our elders. I brought my kids up to respect there elders and they in turn do the same with there kids dont get me wrong iam not a stickler for the rules but good old fashion manners never did anyone any harm unless you let the door close on another person who you didnt see coming through the door after the person who you had held it open for lol

fincon · 19 September 2018

Therapon said:
I certainly would not be flirting with anyone whose language and way of flirting I thought was simply crude.

I think there’s a difference between ‘crudeness’ which has its appropriate time and place, and ‘crassness’ which never does.

I’ve beeen crude at times, appropriate times, I hope, but I genuinely hope I’ve not been crass, ever.

Therapon · 19 September 2018

fincon said:
I think there’s a difference between ‘crudeness’ which has its appropriate time and place, and ‘crassness’ which never does.

I’ve beeen crude at times, appropriate times, I hope, but I genuinely hope I’ve not been crass, ever.

Indeed there is a difference, the odd crude comment can be appropriate but over an extented period for me it's a turn off.

Deleted member 9631 · 19 September 2018

Don't really find mannors sexy as I would expect good mannors in every aspect of life.

Think it better to say I find bad mannors a turn off

Unless it's the band, in which case lip up fatty.xx

Baldrick · 20 September 2018

@Lovernotfighter I don't find good manners on their own sexy however when you combine them with the right package........ hell yeah .

For example if there was somebody who I had an interest in, we met and she/they were extremely rude to others or even just casual ignorance, not only is it a turn off but I would apologise on their behalf (and then probably never see them again ).

So....... Perhaps not sexy but definately an attractive quality I feel.

X

Note - Manners are of course to be left at the bedroom door and collected again upon exit

Vanezza · 20 September 2018

Baldrick said:
@Lovernotfighter I don't find good manners on their own sexy however when you combine them with the right package........ hell yeah .

For example if there was somebody who I had an interest in, we met and she/they were extremely rude to others or even just casual ignorance, not only is it a turn off but I would apologise on their behalf (and then probably never see them again ).

So....... Perhaps not sexy but definately an attractive quality I feel.

X

Note - Manners are of course to be left at the bedroom door and collected again upon exit

N xxx

Greatbig28 · 20 September 2018

you need to be sexy with manners to win me over. but they are two seperate things

fincon · 20 September 2018

Baldrick said:
For example if there was somebody who I had an interest in, we met and she/they were extremely rude to others or even just casual ignorance, not only is it a turn off but I would apologise on their behalf (and then probably never see them again ).

Yep, I certainly get that…

Maybe there’s a problem in general with regarding ‘not liking’ something as exactly the same as ‘actively disliking’ something. There’s plenty of things I actively like, but far fewer I merely don’t like, as in don’t share others’ enjoyment of it.

I don’t like most sport, as in I don’t enjoy it, but there are very few sports I actively dislike. There are authors I don’t like reading, but very few I actively dislike.

Sammy · 20 September 2018

Note - Manners are of course to be left at the bedroom door and collected again upon exit [/QUOTE]

But of course
Sx

Terryg · 20 September 2018

Sammy said:
Note - Manners are of course to be left at the bedroom door and collected again upon exit

But of course
Sx[/QUOTE]
I don’t know.. I think some manners still have to be shown in the bedroom.. after all it is rude to talk with your mouth full....

Sammy · 20 September 2018

Terryg said:
But of course
Sx

I don’t know.. I think some manners still have to be shown in the bedroom.. after all it is rude to talk with your mouth full....[/QUOTE]

Well..... sometimes there an exception to the rules MrG you know this lol
Sx

The-Gent · 20 September 2018

I think its a must to take up the wet spot as a sign of good manners x

Pearls · 20 September 2018

Lovernotfighter said:
do people find good manners sexy and if so how sexy.

I have never spoken to any gentleman that has bad manners, I have ignored men who haven't got any if that makes sense, do I find manners sexy?
Well my husband has manners and I find him sexy.
I see how a lady can be attracted to a gentleman like yourself as you have impeccable manners and that would be part of sexual attraction.

Respect2017 said:
So you like good manners or not ?

No.

Leonidas480 · 20 September 2018

I don't find manners sexy as such, but they are an attractive quality to have. The best thing is that anyone can show good manners.

A simple example of good manners (and one where I encounter bad manners frequently in other people) is introducing yourself to people in your immediate company that you don't know.

A lack of manners is an unattractive quality (as a few people have already mentioned).

Purple Mamba Club · 29 September 2018

Manners? - absolutely - one of our membership criteria is that potential members are 'polite and respectable'! Rude or arrogant isn't sexy (unless it's roleplay...)

Ahabs · 29 September 2018

I think I understand where the OP is coming from: I've come across a lot of ladies that confuse "manners" and "being a gentleman" (ie, saying your please and thank you's) with "not being confident" or "not taking charge" and a lof of such ladies actively looking for a guy that "takes charge", so if you're like me, one of those "please and thank yous" kind of guy, you're very quickly spotted, assessed and dismissed as "unsuitable". Those same ladies are usually found being led away by the hand by guys with "less than stellar" manners, but hey,as far as the ladies are concerned, its a fantasy and has no bearing on real life.

What they don't realise is they effectively reward bad behaviour in guys, and send the message out that having manners earns no reward.
But then I just tell myself, if anyone has such poor judgement, is that really someone I want to play with anyway?

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