Do you know when to..

[Deleted member 120]

Draw the line?
Is it when one of you is not happy anymore? When both are not happy?
What if you want to continue but hubby/wifey doesn't?
What if you want don't want to continue but hubby/wifey does?

Did he/she tell you enough is enough?
Did you tell her/him you've had enough?

yeah yeah, we all say when one says we've had enough it's time to stop, but does it happen in reality and do you really know when to stop?
Maybe you start meeting separately?
Would you meet separately or allow your wife or hubby to?

 

[Vanezza]

We have always said when we have had enough we stop and we still feel the same because if Neil isn't happy or me for that matter then neither of us are. We are swingers as a couple and always will be that way and we take our feelings towards each other as top priority. At the end of the day we are more important to each other than swinging is important to us.

Vxxx

 

[Captain-Smith-and-Lady-Jane]

We agonized about this early on in our journey, and formulated a set if rules, signals etc... to cope with situations where one or other of us were uncomfortable.
In the (several) years we've been in the lifestyle now I can honestly say we've not had to use them once.
We have taken to meeting separately as well as together but, far from being a response to discomfort, it's been a natural progression simply because we are so completely at ease with the lifestyle and each other. Also saves a fortune on babysitters, which is icing on the cake

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

We have always agreed if 1 wants to stop we both will - We also set out our rules and signals to each other and have had to use them a couple of times. Main rule is if 1 of us gives the code we stop no questions asked and leave or ask them to leave. only had 1 of each thank god