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Do You Pre Judge..

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Scrunchy&Muffet

When you finally meet people are most as you expected.. do you have a pre-conception are they usually better or worse..

I try not to judge anyone however it's human nature. You automatically create an impression of the person you're chatting to. I think if being honest everyone would admit that they do. But even though I may have a preconception.....it can change. Sometimes for the better sometimes not. We all judge whether we intend to or not I think xxxx
 
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zebo

I definitely pre judge people, i think we all do to an extent, if its someone i have a bad feeling about i will usually give them the benefit of the doubt till they fuck up, which if i have "that feeling" about them, they generally do.
 
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Mootje

Well tbh, I never prejudge people, I always give em the benefit of them being as good as i would like them to be, till they show otherwise, but thank god fortunately once i meet someone i can right away get a feeling of wat he would might be, say an intuition a seven sense , experience of my work watever, and mostly i am not often wrong xxx
 
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meet_the_fockers

Yeah damn right we do.. some are better than expected.. some are obviously not so.. i must admit though this weekend most excelled what i was expecting.. it was bloody enlightening and refreshing. Xx scrunchy you are a gem.
 
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meet_the_fockers

Oh aye im a people person.. i watch.. i am NEVER wrong. X
 
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Yeah it is always best to trust people you have actually met face to face, and judge them on that rather than they online persona as we are all a little different in the flesh as it were.
 
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Yes I pre-judge, everyone does even if it's only subconciously. Like most people I always try to give them the benefit of doubt until I have a genuine reason not to trust them. It's even more difficult to try to judge someone who you have only ever chatted to online simply because you cannot read thier body language and/or because you "read between the lines". Simple example was tonight chatting to @meandlis, I got the impression he was not a Reds supporter when in fact he is.
 
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nice one @meandlis - cmon the reds
 
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True,,,who are reds?
 
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i think people are often judged by the way they look far more than by what they do - id prefer to get to know someone without the visuals as i believe that impression is far more likely to be accurate than meeting first in person (accepting people can 'act' differently online for example).

as an example, you could meet a pretty girl at work, and just assume she is dumb.
or someone who is unattractive to you, and assume they cant have a fun personality.

i do form a judgement before i meet people, and when i meet them I rarely ever change that opinion, unless they 'behave' differently in person.

i find it harder to judge someone on first impressions through a meeting.

what makes it more difficult, is because people tend to treat people differently based on how they look, they can become someone they arent deep down.
if for example they are pretty, and are used to people fussing round them, and being 'popular' just because, they can lose some of their personality, and when they dont have their looks to fall back on, lets say you only converse over the phone or online, they tend to show a bit more of who they are.

its sad that people focus so much on looks, as not only does it mean you can mis-judge people, but i think it makes life more difficult for that person to be themselves, because of the way they are treated regardless.

anyway, im rambling again ....
 
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