Don't Knock It Till You're Tried It
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While I agree V I never think this should be a rule. There are plenty of things I won't try not because I'm closed minded, but because I have no wish to even try. No disrespect meant to bi men but it did annoy me when I was once told I was wrong for not trying male sex with the follow up "how will you know if you don't try it"? I went to a boys school, I had 5 years to make up my mind who attracted me. I think try anything... if you need to decide.
Oh and I don't like my bottom played with... did try... and wasn't so sure about anal... but now, when in the mood...with the right lady.
Ste
Oh and I don't like my bottom played with... did try... and wasn't so sure about anal... but now, when in the mood...with the right lady.
Ste
If the thought of it dont float my boat then no point in trying it in my mind. As for dont knock it till you have tried it my reply is "have you tried death" NO well dont knock it till you have tried it.
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Similarly to Ste I have been questioned (in other swinging avenues, outside SS) by bi/gay males why I haven't tried playing with men. For me, it shouldn't even fall into the category of "don't knock it till you've tried it" as I feel its more of a "don't play with anyone you're not attracted to". I'm not attracted to men, just as I'm not attracted to all women (shock horror!). I know not all women are attracted to me, I certainly wouldn't feel it fair to pressurise them with "Don't knock it till you've tried it" but rather accept the universally accepted "no means no". So in the past it has upset me when I've had to tell a guy "Does 'no means no' mean anything to you?", only to be called homophobic. My response to that is simple: "if my right to hold to my preference offends you, then it suggests people either should have no right to preference, or should have no preference at all".
The thing a lot of those guys in particular failed ot understand about me, I'll chat to anyone, as I don't subscribe ot the idea that chatting should lead to play.
As far as what I do find falls under "Don't knock it till you've tried it",... wax play! Fun!!!
Good answers there, I'm actually saying anything in a sexual content not in a bi sexual way. Think outside the box
Vxxx
I know what you meant
I just thought easiest to start top of the hard limits. The other thing is also my anus: due to a childhood mental trauma, I don't like it being "played with". Not fingered, not kissed, not licked,... nothing.
I know what you meant
I am so sorry to hear that sweetie no I completely understand
Vxxx
I really do like to think that I'm open to most suggestions. That there's nothing that frightens me. Especially if it's something that will increase the pleasure and desire of the girl I'm with.
But, in reality, there's not a person alive who can truly say they'd try ANYTHING.
Paedophilia?
Necrophilia?
Coprophilia?
After reading V's comment I started to think of things I wouldn't be willing to try and I surprised myself at how quickly the list grew.
I mean, I admit that apart from the fact that I could never bring myself to have any kind of homosexual activity (which many straight males can actually do if required) the rest of my list....well see above
As for the activities you indulged in, They're virtually vanilla and mainstream these days
Antogs xx
But, in reality, there's not a person alive who can truly say they'd try ANYTHING.
Paedophilia?
Necrophilia?
Coprophilia?
After reading V's comment I started to think of things I wouldn't be willing to try and I surprised myself at how quickly the list grew.
I mean, I admit that apart from the fact that I could never bring myself to have any kind of homosexual activity (which many straight males can actually do if required) the rest of my list....well see above
As for the activities you indulged in, They're virtually vanilla and mainstream these days
Antogs xx
Since I entered ‘the scene’, no.
And there are some no-nos, either because just... no (water sports, scat, pain).
Or have previously tried and simply haven’t enjoyed. (Anal being the obvious. Didn’t really want to, but tried it and disovered I really didn’t like it.
Or just never interested me in any way (I’m 100% straight, never even been mildly curious.)
Before the scene? Yes. Two spring to mind:
1/ 3sums. Never saw the point unless there was an element of bi involved. Long ago, I was offered by friends to discover how wrong I was.
2/ mild D/s. More role play than anything else. Wasn’t interested, didn’t have a problem with it, just not ‘my thing’. Then I met a woman who was incredibly sub who said she was utterly convinced I was naturally dominant... so ‘topped me from the bottom’. And yes... oh yes. Not a deal breaker if someone isn’t into that, but certainly adds to it...
No, those hard limits I do have will remain so, for example extreme SM, anything to do with blood or scat, unprotected sex on a meet, anything to do with needles (my worst phobia).
I enjoy sex, I love bdsm but only with those I completely trust. My outlook has changed over time, I'm definitely more adventurous, I've even become a little bi curious although turning that to reality maybe more than I could actually put into practice and that is something I would never have considered a few years ago but my limits still remain, they are not negotiable.
I do recall, as far as kink goes: knife play, blood play,... those are both No's and have no intentions of ever breaking those.
As far as sex: I'm still a hard No on poo and piss. Just can't see why in my head
Absolutely a no to poo I can't see a reason why and it is just not something I could ever see us doing but ppl don't really understand watersports in my opinion it's not first morning wee where it's all yellow but where you drink a lot of water and then just go. It ends up being pure water coming out but again it's not for everyone.
Vxxx
Great response as I expected from you lovely. Could never do blood play either, I like bdsm but we are very mild in that area and it's something I would maybe like to get more into but only maybe. I'm terrible at going ouch and moving where I would just go numb after a time lol I have become a little bit of a wimp where as before I wasn't but I do like it.
Vxxx
Ah but I have seen the photo of your new toy
What you think is mild maybe seen as slightly extreme by others. Some like the idea of bdsm role play and there is nothing wrong with that, in fact that is where we (Therlegs) started out from and have progressed from there and it's something we really like, why else would I find myself in the woods, naked and tied to a tree
Anyway it doesn't matter what others think so long as you are both enjoying yourselves - that is the important thing.
Ah but I have seen the photo of your new toy
What you think is mild maybe seen as slightly extreme by others. Some like the idea of bdsm role play and there is nothing wrong with that, in fact that is where we (Therlegs) started out from and have progressed from there and it's something we really like, why else would I find myself in the woods, naked and tied to a tree
Anyway it doesn't matter what others think so long as you are both enjoying yourselves - that is the important thing.
I totally agree
Vxxx
MOTM
When I started this I wanted to keep an open mind to trying new things , so far there hasn’t been anything that would seem to far out of the ordinary,
There are things you see and maybe I would try with the right people/person ... never know if there is something that will turn you on if you don’t try it at least once ... you can put it down to experience if you really don’t like it ..
There are things you see and maybe I would try with the right people/person ... never know if there is something that will turn you on if you don’t try it at least once ... you can put it down to experience if you really don’t like it ..
Some things you just now inside that its not for you. Some of them things i personally find funny and other totally repulse me so why would i try them. No thanks i know my own mind and trust it to steer me in the right direction
MOTM
My point was there are something’s I would look at and consider trying once doesn’t mean to say that there are things that are not a definite No !! I know my own mind too I like to think that’s an open mind ...
There’s some absolute things we won’t try, do or have an interest in. Then also there’s some things we wouldn’t mind trying and doing, and some we would gladly do again.
Having an open mind is crucial in this lifestyle and knowing what you like and dislike is perfectly fine/acceptable.
Having an open mind is crucial in this lifestyle and knowing what you like and dislike is perfectly fine/acceptable.
My point is we have been in this lifestyle long enough to know what we want and also dont want. We have done stuff that most folks have only seen on the telly but we still have stuff we would not do. Folks that say they would do anything have even begun to think how sick some others are.There’s some absolute things we won’t try, do or have an interest in. Then also there’s some things we wouldn’t mind trying and doing, and some we would gladly do again.
Having an open mind is crucial in this lifestyle and knowing what you like and dislike is perfectly fine/acceptable.
Indeed and there’s a lot of people around this game, who are sick and are into very dangerous things.
Absolutely. We’re the same and know what we will and will not do or have an interest in.