Hey all, we have a club visit coming up. What time do people normally arrive at. We obviously don't want to be the first ones there or arrive too late. Club opens at 9.30pm.
Thanks xxx
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Ive been messaged on a couple of occasions, asking for advice from people, hoping to visit a club for the first time. So i thought id throw a few words together.. I am by no means an expert. Although.. we have been to a fair few clubs/socials. These have been Manchester/Wirral N.West based clubs. Clubs in other parts of the country maybe slightly different?
I will try to give some of the answers to some of the questions ive been asked...Everyone is different everyone has different expectations.. but here are some of mine.
Take a deep breathe before you go in.. This is sometimes the hardest part.
If you tell the owners/ management its your first time, they will more than likely give you the option of a guided tour, explaining the rules as you stroll around.
Some clubs are immediate dress down, some ask that you dress down by say 22.00 23.00?
Some only ask that you dress down, when you leave the lounge area..
Its not polite to wander around amongst play rooms in your wellies and parker.when others are scantily clad.
Right drinks..
some have liquor licenses but... the drinks are usually very cheap. In some venues a bar tab is set in place and you pay your bill before leaving.
Some dont have a liquor license... they all sell soft drinks and coffee.
You are usually permitted to take your own alcohol, to unlicensed venues.
It will be kept behind the bar for you.. your locker key usually has a number on which will correspond, with the drinks you placed behind the bar complicated? its not.
Watch your alchol intake, tipsy is fun, paralletic is not.. and maybe very annoying for other visitors.. plus may/will greatly cloud your judgement re- play and previously discussed bounderies..
Etiquette.
.. Much like your usual night out.. smile.
If someone makes a bee-line for you drop it into the conversation, what it is your looking for.
They may only be looking to chat?
You will know the difference.
Mingle.. remember the other club goers are just like YOU. They are like minded.
You dont have to run round naked all night waving your hands in the air.. ;D
you may prefer to sit and chat in the lounge area and solialise all night..
Its up to YOU.
Finally only do what you are comfortable doing..DISCUS before your visit your bounderies between you and stick to them, if you have a change of heart whilst there, again mull it over between yourselves... I cant stress this enough.
A polite no thankyou is all it takes.. if the advice isnt heeded speak to the owner/manager.
theres a misconception re clubs being full of writhing bodies..
In some of the play rooms? Maybe so?... in the lounge/bar area not so.
Above all enjoy.
treat it like a fun night out..
towels are provided for dress down/jacuzi/pool use.
Gents can take their own shorts.
Ladies dress down..
basques tiny skirts.. lacey see through dresses, underwear. Depends what you feel comfortable in.
Lockers are provided in the changing areas, usually for a deposit. Think locker ..wristband ..swimming..
No photography!!
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Please check the clubs website, before heading out..
whats on, on the night before you visit.
prices
licensed or unlicensed.
ID TAKE SOME FORM OF ID..
We have had some of the best crazy social nights ever in clubs.. danced laughed, chilled in a jacuzzi or swimming pool with a drink. Even played pool all night.
Relax enjoy.
Go with no expectations..
Hope this helps elivate some of your fears, and answers a few, of the questions ive been asked.
Happy Clubbing♡♡♡
top job and answered a few questions for me.
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Thankyou, good luck.. its a good site.. any further questions? Im usually around. X
have to say since I have been on here people have been really lovely. And most have messaged back when I have messaged them. Much better than other things i have joined up to.
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being active and getting involved really pays off.
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Having a read through the forums this morning, this made me chuckle... On my first visit to the VA the doors opened at 7pm, whereas they normally open at 8pm. I arrived at 7 and was the only one there - for an hour! Wish I'd taken a crossword with me...Hey all, we have a club visit coming up. What time do people normally arrive at. We obviously don't want to be the first ones there or arrive too late. Club opens at 9.30pm.
Thanks xxx
Having a read through the forums this morning, this made me chuckle... On my first visit to the VA the doors opened at 7pm, whereas they normally open at 8pm. I arrived at 7 and was the only one there - for an hour! Wish I'd taken a crossword with me...
Oh nooo that would have made me really nervous, or I'd have got in the tub and star fished about lol Sx
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If you're new I always recommend getting there early isherwood (but not at door opening), this is so you can be shown around and settle in. Clubs have rules and you'll need to be given these and the tour. It isn't nice if the staff are showing newbies around once the activities are in full er...swing (sorry for the pun). Some clubs may differ but I see most are getting full and buzzing by 10 to 10:30.Having a read through the forums this morning, this made me chuckle... On my first visit to the VA the doors opened at 7pm, whereas they normally open at 8pm. I arrived at 7 and was the only one there - for an hour! Wish I'd taken a crossword with me...
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Having a read through the forums this morning, this made me chuckle... On my first visit to the VA the doors opened at 7pm, whereas they normally open at 8pm. I arrived at 7 and was the only one there - for an hour! Wish I'd taken a crossword with me...
I have an incling you are a little wiser now. 
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Excellent informationI've always said to newbies to try a night that there is an organiser/host,of an event either a social or a special event that interests you eg bbw + admirers
Come with no expectations and relax x always do your homework and look up the club website a simple thing like bring your own booze is most important
Ok, but what's the general etiquette/rule of thumb for naughty businesses and the like.... (Shhhhh, don't tell everyone I'm a boob!)
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I guess the cats out the bag
But seriously; think back to your first time and all the stuff on etiquette you didn't know, that could save embarrassment to us noobies.
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I would say as a single guy, DONT go in thinking you're in for play on that first night. Go and socialise and have a bit of a laugh. I've had really good nights where we as a group have just chilled out in a quite area of a club and no play has took place. Too many people go in with the misconception that a Swingers club is another term for a brothel. It isn't.
Oh my first club night. I was driving so couldn't drink and was nervous as hell. Luckily I got rescued by one of the clubs barman' wife
After 3 years of going to a whole range of clubs it's a doddle now.
One last thing. No 2 nights are the same at a Swingers club so it's important you make an opinion for yourself instead of taking reviews 100% gospel
Good luck
Oh my first club night. I was driving so couldn't drink and was nervous as hell. Luckily I got rescued by one of the clubs barman' wife
After 3 years of going to a whole range of clubs it's a doddle now.
One last thing. No 2 nights are the same at a Swingers club so it's important you make an opinion for yourself instead of taking reviews 100% gospel
Good luck