You lucky toads, you got your foursome with a hot couple in first; many others who want to play find that first meet a bit daunting. Starting off in a club is great way to feel yourself into the game. A lot of folks like to meet new couples for time first time in a club because it is not so embarrassing if you just don't hit it off. it is not like there is nobody else about to play with. The big benefit of a club is that you are in full control of what you want to do and how far you will go. Yes, take the advise from
@Brumcouple2013 and maybe find a friendly couple to go with first time. We can offer a few words of advice:
- Drink: Don't - I don't mean don't have a beer or a glass of wine just very very moderately: you are responsible for each other's safety and that is hard to do when pissed of your head. If either of you needs to drink to 'get in the mood' perhaps you shouldn't be there.
- Safety: In the main swingers are the nicest people you will meet but there are, as in every walk of life exceptions, so always be aware of what is happening to your partner. It is too easy in a moment of passion to forget the condom. Some guys get a little rougher than your partner might want; be aware and supportive when he or she asks their playmate to tone it down. This is true in hotel or home meets too: there are a few guys who play on your not walking out to get more than is offered. Be prepared to walk away.
- Rules of engagement: agree before you leave home what is acceptable and what is not. do not break the rules of engagement without discussion: your partner may go along with it at the time but it will be problem when you get home.
- Pick a busy night. Not easy to predict but when the club is half empty breaking into pre-established cliques can be daunting. On a busier night the groups tend to be more dynamic. Typically, on a busy night the playrooms start getting busy earlier, on a slow night you may find you are waiting until very late and hanging around for hours waiting for folks to get started which can be tedious in the extreme.
- Be both into it. If one of you is there to please the partner then you probably shouldn't be there at all. Do not go to a club or start swinging to prop up a problematic relationship: it does not work and only accelerates the breakup. Swinging is about sharing and trust, a lot of trust, so if it is not there your night out at the club will be a bust.
- Have a good time: if you're no, go home and try again another day.
- When you get home shag the arses off one another, and every opportunity for the next week or two: you'll be horny enough. It is the shagging at home that reinforces your pair bond - it's amazing how a good playdate with lots of shagging back home makes intractable marital problems go away, well, not go away, but suddenly seem solvable.
Probably not everyone's list but it is a good basis to start, especially if you are new to the game.
Good Hunting A&R
