I Like To Please.

Ok, as most of you will know I'm a single guy.
Even though there is no immediate prospect of my entertaining any young ladies in the immediate future I like to think that I'll be prepared for any eventuality. I'm more than happy to get to know a woman, have a chat, a drink and, if all goes well, invite her back to my place for a few more drinks, maybe a dance (some on here will be aware I've turned my pad into my own little nightclub ) and see how things go. Or maybe a woman or a few people will be happy enough to meet me at my place for a drink etc.
Now, for me, the most important thing is that the woman enjoys herself.
Some women just like to have a man treat her in a sensual manner and if the mood takes her, have what is known as vanilla sex. That's fine, I'm more than happy to oblige her every whim. However, I have to admit I'm not averse to trying some things that may be considered a little more "adventurous"
To this end, I have built up (and am continuing to) a collection of "toys" that, should the lady be so inclined, will not leave her disappointed.
It's quite a long list but includes such things as wrist restraints, ankle restraints, various other restraints, studded collar, blindfold, ball gag, butt plugs (with the requisite anal lube), a bullet vibrator, rabbit vibrator and today I've ordered a leather flogger and the ultimate in clitoral stimulation a magic wand.
I will continue to build my little collection as I must admit it does turn me on to think what pleasure some of these items could bring to a woman.
My question is does this make me a weirdo !! or does it make me a considerate guy who wants to make sure he's in a position to give a woman what she wants?

I nervously await your comments

Lips_Pearls said:

Absolutely not! I think it's a trait to be able to suggest to a lady in your company, the freedom and expression to allow herself the very pleasures that you're able to offer.

FWIW I think that's a pretty good collection actually old bean.

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Thank you, and I think you make a very important point when you say that it puts me in a position to offer a lady a choice as to whether she'd like to either indulge in various scenarios she's familiar with or maybe experiment in an area she's perhaps fantasised about. Or maybe she'd just like to use certain "apparatus" that gives her pleasure and freedom of sexual expression.

The important thing from my point of view is I'm able to offer her the choice

As I mentioned in my original post I recently order a nice little flogger and a magic wand.
The flogger arrived a couple of days ago and is a lovely sexy little thing
Today the magic wand arrived. I plugged it in to check it worked and...
O.M.G.
I cannot believe the sheer power and intensity of the thing.
I hasten to add I have not used it in any way upon my own person.
As part of my research, I felt obliged to watch a number of educational videos in order to decide whether to add the product to my little collection but only on handling the real thing can I now imagine what this must do to a woman when placed on the appropriate part of her anatomy.
Apart from it being used in it's "normal" function in providing a means for a lady to pleasure herself (or be pleasured by a "friend") I can see why it can be used as an essential "tool" in the arena of forced orgasms and orgasm denial.
In summary, all I can really say is "goodness me!"

I've been reviewing my little toy collection and it set me thinking.

What constitutes being "kinky" rather than "adventurous" or "fun-loving"?
What marks you down as being "into BDSM" rather than liking to try things that are not strictly vanilla ?.

There are lots of examples of things I'd either like to try or particular materials I find sexy or indeed styles of (un)dress I find a turn on.
Why is it that if a man likes to see a woman wearing a basque, stockings and high heels that's considered normal but if I was to say, for example, I get turned on by a woman wearing a latex catsuit or a metal collar, mask and PVC teddy I would be considered by many as being "weird"
I have included a picture of the contents of my collection. You will see such things as a blindfold, a flogger, various restraints, butt plugs, magic wand, UV paints, cock rings etc.

What does this mean?

Yes, I quite fancy the idea of blindfolding a lady, restraining her by her wrists and ankles and maybe even giving her a little taste of the flogger on her bare bottom. Does this make me a BDSM monster? No. I don't think so (especially as I'd be quite happy to switch roles if that's what the lady desired)

I have dabbled in the BDSM and fetish scenes and I know that many take it very seriously. I happen to think it can be enjoyed by anyone and above all should be fun for everyone involved. It doesn't have to be a lifestyle, you don't HAVE to follow any rules. You should do whatever you both enjoy.

So, if being happy to try something a little different, something that, providing those concerned are keen, can add another dimension to the sexual encounter makes me a pervert or weird or kinky then I guess I'm guilty.
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