Jealousy

Pearls · 28 January 2022

When it comes to people you’ve met, get it on with others which triggers the green eyed monster ?

We’ve witnessed it with others but never experienced it ourselves. The only jealousy we’ve had is with each other in the past which I think is natural when you’re in love but it soon went ? even though we do have the odd pang which I think is healthy.

As for getting jealous of people we’ve met getting it on with others, It wouldn’t happen as there are no feelings involved. It’s just sex. ?

Over to you.

sthwalescpl · 29 January 2022

We've seen it with others, and witnessed one or two rather ugly scenes. It was the biggest subject in our discussions about whether we would get into swinging, and something we felt wouldn't be an issue for us.
In fact, for us, seeing each other with others, is a turn-on, we realize it's just sex, and we get turned on by the idea of the other having fun, knowing they will be coming back to us.

Pearls · 30 January 2022

sthwalescpl said:
We've seen it with others, and witnessed one or two rather ugly scenes. It was the biggest subject in our discussions about whether we would get into swinging, and something we felt wouldn't be an issue for us.
In fact, for us, seeing each other with others, is a turn-on, we realize it's just sex, and we get turned on by the idea of the other having fun, knowing they will be coming back to us.

Years ago we witnessed a right old cat fight between two women over a guy, one didn’t know the other had met him and she thought she the rights over him. It was hilarious to watch, he was laughing his head off watching ?

tricky-dicky · 30 January 2022

While it seems it affects the ladies more us males are not immune. I recall one or two occasions I've experienced envy/jealousy of other guys both in the vanilla and swinging world. Thinking how the hell has that arsehole ended up with a fantastic lady. Then other thoughts creep in and the jealousy subsides I'm thinking if she's with him even by my low standards do I really want to go there.

Pearls · 31 January 2022

tricky-dicky said:
While it seems it affects the ladies more us males are not immune. I recall one or two occasions I've experienced envy/jealousy of other guys both in the vanilla and swinging world. Thinking how the hell has that arsehole ended up with a fantastic lady. Then other thoughts creep in and the jealousy subsides I'm thinking if she's with him even by my low standards do I really want to go there.

That’s a good point, meeting others but not you. You’d constantly be asking yourself what’s wrong with me? I get that.

Pearls · 3 March 2022

Many moons ago, before SS we had a few meets with a lady who asked us if we’d only meet her, she was more into Bdsm than swinging but loved the dynamic, at that time it wasn’t for us but we said we’d see how it goes but
We went to a party and… well temptation and all that ? she found out, obviously, and wasn’t happy bunnies, after a few rants, I couldn’t help myself but laugh I do regret it now but at the time… It went sour after that for some reason ?
Not that we’d be in that situation again but at the time, it seemed funny ?

AlmeriaH · 3 March 2022

I was the "extra" in an MFM threesome for over ten years when I lived in the UK. I was their first venture into swinging, as they were for me. I can honestly say that I never once saw any sign of jealousy from either of them, despite the fact that she became very special to me and we did things together which he didn't like, often alone together. They were rock solid as a couple, it was lovely to see. After I had to move, our relationship came to an end and I was away from swinging for a long time. Then in 2016 I met and dated a local woman who was in tears after I just hinted about swinging (we were years into our relationship at this point, I hasten to add), so our physical relationship was vanilla (but it was also fantastic, I have to say). I was prepared to share/swap with her had she agreed to it. However, when she flirted (which she loved to do, and she was a real man-magnet) I felt really jealous. However I think it was because she more or less shut me out of the conversations (we were usually in ordinary social situations) that I felt it. Had we been in a swinging relationship I think I would have felt different. I certainly hope so! Any thoughts anyone?

Ymichael14 · 3 March 2022

AlmeriaH said:
I was the "extra" in an MFM threesome for over ten years when I lived in the UK. I was their first venture into swinging, as they were for me. I can honestly say that I never once saw any sign of jealousy from either of them, despite the fact that she became very special to me and we did things together which he didn't like, often alone together. They were rock solid as a couple, it was lovely to see. After I had to move, our relationship came to an end and I was away from swinging for a long time. Then in 2016 I met and dated a local woman who was in tears after I just hinted about swinging (we were years into our relationship at this point, I hasten to add), so our physical relationship was vanilla (but it was also fantastic, I have to say). I was prepared to share/swap with her had she agreed to it. However, when she flirted (which she loved to do, and she was a real man-magnet) I felt really jealous. However I think it was because she more or less shut me out of the conversations (we were usually in ordinary social situations) that I felt it. Had we been in a swinging relationship I think I would have felt different. I certainly hope so! Any thoughts anyone?

Women are strange creatures, aren't they?
I had serious relationships with two swingers. But they wouldn't swing with me. One would do anything with anybody, just ask. Except me. When she moved I asked why she wouldnt give me a threesome. Her answer was, because she fell in love with me.
I guess i was supposed to marry her, let her do every guy, girl , group and couple in town while I stayed home and watched the kids, because she loved me.
This was 20 years ago and she still emails me videos of all her swinging episodes .

Pearls · 3 March 2022

Ymichael14 said:
Women are strange creatures, aren't they?
I had serious relationships with two swingers. But they wouldn't swing with me. One would do anything with anybody, just ask. Except me. When she moved I asked why she wouldnt give me a threesome. Her answer was, because she fell in love with me.
I guess i was supposed to marry her, let her do every guy, girl , group and couple in town while I stayed home and watched the kids, because she loved me.
This was 20 years ago and she still emails me videos of all her swinging episodes .

That’s a bit cheeky ?

Ymichael14 · 3 March 2022

Pearls said:
That’s a bit cheeky ?

A bit?

Ymichael14 · 3 March 2022

Pearls said:
That’s a bit cheeky ?

I assumed her point was, because she loved me she would get jealous if she saw me with another woman.
Which is ok, i get that.
But why tell me what you are doing when you know I not only want to try it, I really want to share it with you?

Pearls · 3 March 2022

Ymichael14 said:
I assumed her point was, because she loved me she would get jealous if she saw me with another woman.
Which is ok, i get that.
But why tell me what you are doing when you know I not only want to try it, I really want to share it with you?

She was just a greedy mare ?

AlmeriaH · 4 March 2022

Ymichael14 said:
Women are strange creatures, aren't they?
I had serious relationships with two swingers. But they wouldn't swing with me. One would do anything with anybody, just ask. Except me. When she moved I asked why she wouldnt give me a threesome. Her answer was, because she fell in love with me.
I guess i was supposed to marry her, let her do every guy, girl , group and couple in town while I stayed home and watched the kids, because she loved me.
This was 20 years ago and she still emails me videos of all her swinging episodes .

Thanks for sharing that, though makes me feel sad. A good partner for swinging is extremely difficult to find. To find a partner in love is even more difficult. But with the two combined, I think it was an opportunity missed, against incredible odds, on her part. Love makes us even more willing to ensure our partner is happy. I agree with everyone who says it's a bit cheeky that she emails videos to you after 20 years and also with Pearls who said she was just a greedy mare. But to be quite honest, I could love a greedy mare as long as she loved me and wanted equality in the relationship.

How do you feel about her now?

Ymichael14 · 5 March 2022

Pearls said:
She was just a greedy mare ?

I guess you could look at it that way.
I really dont know what her problem was.

Ymichael14 · 5 March 2022

AlmeriaH said:
Thanks for sharing that, though makes me feel sad. A good partner for swinging is extremely difficult to find. To find a partner in love is even more difficult. But with the two combined, I think it was an opportunity missed, against incredible odds, on her part. Love makes us even more willing to ensure our partner is happy. I agree with everyone who says it's a bit cheeky that she emails videos to you after 20 years and also with Pearls who said she was just a greedy mare. But to be quite honest, I could love a greedy mare as long as she loved me and wanted equality in the relationship.

How do you feel about her now?

Emailing the videos i dont mind.
It would be the same if someone on here sent me thier private videos because it turned me on.
It is the same as watching member videos on this site. I love the video and wish I could be one of the guys in them.
She had no problem with me making videos of us, i still have the videos.
She wanted to marry me 20 years ago.
I would have married her if she gave me a threesome. if she had just let me watch her with another guy or girl I would have married her.
I would marry her tomorrow if she gave me a threesome tomorrow.
I sometimes think she saw me as like a knight in shining armor that saves her from her life of perversion.
Or, maybe, she can only swing with guys she hates.
I made the mistake of being nice to her.

AlmeriaH · 5 March 2022

Ymichael14 said:
Emailing the videos i dont mind.
It would be the same if someone on here sent me thier private videos because it turned me on.
It is the same as watching member videos on this site. I love the video and wish I could be one of the guys in them.
She had no problem with me making videos of us, i still have the videos.
She wanted to marry me 20 years ago.
I would have married her if she gave me a threesome. if she had just let me watch her with another guy or girl I would have married her.
I would marry her tomorrow if she gave me a threesome tomorrow.
I sometimes think she saw me as like a knight in shining armor that saves her from her life of perversion.
Or, maybe, she can only swing with guys she hates.
I made the mistake of being nice to her.

Thank you for your honesty. I think you must be stronger than I am, I would find this a difficult situation to accept. I wish you all the best in life, you deserve it.

sthwalescpl · 5 March 2022

This is one of the reasons why we dont tell friends and family that we swing....I don't think they would "get it"...that we can have sex with others, but it doesn't have an emotional "price".
However, we don't do completely "emotionless" swinging..... that, to us at least, would be pointless.
That's not to say we fall in love with every random person we interact with, but we do have to like them, we have to think that, in real life, we would be friends.

Ymichael14 · 5 March 2022

AlmeriaH said:
Thank you for your honesty. I think you must be stronger than I am, I would find this a difficult situation to accept. I wish you all the best in life, you deserve it.

Thanks, but I dont need all the best in life.
I only need one woman that likes me enough to give me a threesome.
Just one experienced swinger that will invite me into her life.

Deleted member 11852 · 5 March 2022

Think we must be really lucky because there's never been any jealousy between us about meets.. We agreed when we entered this lifestyle that every meet we have we would experience everything together.. It's still the same now,, we would never meet anyone on our own.. For us it's about fun and friendship.. We have been married for 21 years and been in this lifestyle for 4 years.. There's definitely no need for us to be jealous of anything we both enjoy seeing each other getting and receiving pleasure from someone because we are both so involved in everything.. It works for us so I don't think we will be changing anything.. We're doing the same thing that we discussed before we entered into this lifestyle.. It's just bonus fun and good friendships.. Both are just as important as each other... W.. ??

AlmeriaH · 6 March 2022

Welshcouple59 said:
Think we must be really lucky because there's never been any jealousy between us about meets.. We agreed when we entered this lifestyle that every meet we have we would experience everything together.. It's still the same now,, we would never meet anyone on our own.. For us it's about fun and friendship.. We have been married for 21 years and been in this lifestyle for 4 years.. There's definitely no need for us to be jealous of anything we both enjoy seeing each other getting and receiving pleasure from someone because we are both so involved in everything.. It works for us so I don't think we will be changing anything.. We're doing the same thing that we discussed before we entered into this lifestyle.. It's just bonus fun and good friendships.. Both are just as important as each other... W.. ??

If I was in a (swinging) relationship I wouldn't want to meet anyone on their own, and I wouldn't want my partner to, either. This would even extend to meeting another couple for sex in separate rooms... I would want to see her pleasure with others and for her to see mine with others. I'm not into the cuckold situation where guys like to send their wives/girlfriends out to hook up with others and then to hear about it all afterwards. I'm not saying it's in any way bad, if everyone is in agreement and they find it exciting, who am I to judge? It's just not what I would want with my partner. However I have had the honour of being left in bed with a woman while her husband went to work for the day and we were sending him messages every now and then to tell him what we were doing. I loved it, but I honestly think I would have had difficulty keeping the green-eyed monster at bay if it had been my partner and I was leaving her all day with another guy. I don't know, maybe if it was an old friend with whom we had enjoyed many a threesome in the past.... Who knows? And if it was something she really wanted, well we would have to talk about it.

Good for you Welshcouple59 because you talked it through before you went into it

Deleted member 11852 · 6 March 2022

Think it's like everything in life.. It's just personal choices.. We decided what we wanted from the start and have no intention of changing anything.. We both enjoy being involved in everything we do.. That's part of the excitement for us both... W.. ??

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