Morals In Swinging?

[Lips_Pearls]

Afternoon sexy peeps.
Just had an interesting conversation and it got me thinking.

'Nillas would laugh at us if we mentioned Morals within swinging and they'd say = "Your moral compass is lost so don't come knocking my door"..

So with that, it got me thinking about this and I genuinely believe that there are a set of morals within this, perhaps hidden... but they're here, certainly.

For instance, affairs. Or I should say having one within swinging.
It's bad enough in a vanilla relationship, but by God - Hell hath fury on anyone in the swinging world who has an affair!
Boundaries. There are there to be tested, sometimes pushed, but if crossed - and I mean the really true boundaries that are NO NO... then you could lose your relationship / marriage.
You could get black balled by the community for anything at all!

I vividly recall at a house party years ago, one guy had working girls with him (paid for with chems so chemsex) and was HIV, happy to tell all too and didn't care.
So, he was blackballed.

No means no.
Drinks, drugs, being out of it... thresholds... all of these are morally questionable by some to many.
Don't you think it's a fair and right statement to make that even us debauched and naughty (loosely said guys..) swingers have morals we're guided by and with?
I certainly believe so. x

 

[Deleted member 11852]

I know everyone says boundaries are there to be pushed but personally for us we would never try to push anyone's boundaries..I honestly believe people have them in place for a reason..our boundaries are there because we genuinely don't enjoy the things the boundaries stipulate we won't do..we would feel uncomfortable if someone we met tried to push them or put pressure on us to push them..I think if people choose to move certain boundaries during a meet which can happen in the heat of the moment then it's got to be there decision..as regards to the moral side..you might not agree with everyone's choices whether it be cheating on partners and joining swinging sites then arranging meets as a single person ,,trying to separate a couple to have meets with the female side of them..I'm not saying anyone on here is doing that it's just an example..if that we're too happen I think it's them who have to live with their actions each day so we wouldn't really involve ourselves..at the end of the day if you think what someone is doing is morally wrong you you then you have the choice not to meet them...W.. ?

 

[Brumcouple2013]

Yet another very interesting thread, and one that is very thought provoking.

Yes I do think most of us in the swinging community have morals. I know we sure do, and many of those cross over into our boundaries. For example we would never meet any one who is swinging behind a partners back, or swinging for the wrong reasons. We once met a couple for a social at ours, who were really nice. After 30 mins chatting, we found out the female half was only getting into the scene because her husband had, had a few affairs and felt it would be better if he played around in front of her ( his idea). We managed to talk her out of it and politely said we would never play with them. Also we wouldn’t play with anyone who wasn’t fully aware of what’s happening ( alcohol,drugs etc)
Yes bounderies are there to be pushed ( to a point). But if it’s us who are going to push them, we discuss it first. If it’s another couple we would ask first if they are sure.
But it’s also not our place to judge people or to criticise anyone.

 

[Jaynerobert]

New to it all and finding our way but it's got to be all about trust between each other and respect for the couples you play with, hasn't it? There has to be a moral compass if you choose to the lifestyle else surely if there's not you're completely at sea before you even start? Maybe a simplistic and naive way of looking at it but do unto others ... unless what you would have done to yourself isn't their bag and then you respect that.