Newcomer Question About Clubs

BiLouJ · 19 May 2019

Hi.
As a newcomer to the site and to swinging, I have a couple of questions before my first visit to a club (VA as it is my closest, I believe).

I guess my questions arise from the fact that I am starting alone as opposed to as part of a couple.
The usual female issues like what does one wear to a club like VA and is there a difference in how to dress and arrive as a lone female to a Milf day (day time) or to an mixed or Bi night (evening)?
Under the outer layer, does the underwear have to be raunchy and involve stockings or will my House of Fraser matching sets suffice?

I saw mentioned in another thread about common misconceptions about how women at swinging clubs look and I have to admit to being slightly concerned that I will not fit the bill/not be desirable as I am not 6ft with the perfect physique........ quite the other end of the scale as a petite 5 ft woman , ha ha.
And Milf day ......... I mean, what qualifies as a Milf? Will I be surrounded by absolutely stunning women with perfect bodies?

Any pointers will be very much appreciated.

Stew · 19 May 2019

Well done Lou x

BiLouJ · 19 May 2019

Stew said:
Well done Lou x

Thank you! Apologies if these questions have been asked before.
Hopefully I have posted in the right place.

MP386 · 19 May 2019

Sure your get plenty of advice of what to wear but a LBD is a classic, underwear what you feel comfortable with ...
As a bloke I visited Milf Club once from my experience (you will get others tell you the complete opposite) for your first club visit I would say don’t do Milf club I would say I could be intimating as a first visit unless you are confident dealing with lots of attention ...
May be a bi, couples night would be a better option ....
as for worrying about how you look (yes we all do it ) your find people of all shapes and sizes ...

Stew · 19 May 2019

BiLouJ said:
Thank you! Apologies if these questions have been asked before.
Hopefully I have posted in the right place.

Even if they have you don’t know so it’s relevant plus you have specific questions that are relevant to you x

MP386 · 19 May 2019

BiLouJ said:
Thank you! Apologies if these questions have been asked before.
Hopefully I have posted in the right place.

It’s the best way to learn asking questions , you will get different opinions but everyone here will be honest with what they say ...

Lace · 19 May 2019

BiLouJ said:
Hi.
As a newcomer to the site and to swinging, I have a couple of questions before my first visit to a club (VA as it is my closest, I believe).

I guess my questions arise from the fact that I am starting alone as opposed to as part of a couple.
The usual female issues like what does one wear to a club like VA and is there a difference in how to dress and arrive as a lone female to a Milf day (day time) or to an mixed or Bi night (evening)?
Under the outer layer, does the underwear have to be raunchy and involve stockings or will my House of Fraser matching sets suffice?

I saw mentioned in another thread about common misconceptions about how women at swinging clubs look and I have to admit to being slightly concerned that I will not fit the bill/not be desirable as I am not 6ft with the perfect physique........ quite the other end of the scale as a petite 5 ft woman , ha ha.
And Milf day ......... I mean, what qualifies as a Milf? Will I be surrounded by absolutely stunning women with perfect bodies?

Any pointers will be very much appreciated.

Ok so first don’t panic. Be yourself and wear what you feel comfortable in, I treat a club as a night out in general.
For me I have worn outfits from fancy dress to underwear but will normally opt for a dress, usually black, good underwear and that’s it.
I have seen ladies of all shapes and they usually wear the same, I’ve also seen ladies dressed as if they’re off to Sunday service down to ladies in a pair of knickers only.
Once there you’ll feel at ease, just enjoy a drink and the rest will follow. X

Pearls · 19 May 2019

All of the above really @BiLouJ we have been to the VA a few times now and it’s extremely relaxing with an amazing lounge/bar area for you to get to know people. We have always dressed smart yet a little sexy, matching undies and so on. I think I lost me nix there once at the foam party it’s great for a good dance as @MP386 knows my poor tootsies seriously though, pop your best frock and go enjoy.

Stew · 19 May 2019

Pearls said:
I think I lost me nix there once at the foam party

Now isn’t that unusual !!!

MP386 · 19 May 2019

Pearls said:
All of the above really @BiLouJ we have been to the VA a few times now and it’s extremely relaxing with an amazing lounge/bar area for you to get to know people. We have always dressed smart yet a little sexy, matching undies and so on. I think I lost me nix there once at the foam party it’s great for a good dance as @MP386 knows my poor tootsies seriously though, pop your best frock and go enjoy.

I remember it well .. I was fantastic

Pearls · 19 May 2019

MP386 said:
I remember it well .. I was fantastic

We showed them all how to boogie

MP386 · 19 May 2019

Pearls said:
We showed them all how to boogie

We did

BiLouJ · 20 May 2019

Pearls said:
All of the above really @BiLouJ we have been to the VA a few times now and it’s extremely relaxing with an amazing lounge/bar area for you to get to know people. We have always dressed smart yet a little sexy, matching undies and so on. I think I lost me nix there once at the foam party it’s great for a good dance as @MP386 knows my poor tootsies seriously though, pop your best frock and go enjoy.

Really helpful, thank you!

BiLouJ · 20 May 2019

Lace said:
Ok so first don’t panic. Be yourself and wear what you feel comfortable in, I treat a club as a night out in general.
For me I have worn outfits from fancy dress to underwear but will normally opt for a dress, usually black, good underwear and that’s it.
I have seen ladies of all shapes and they usually wear the same, I’ve also seen ladies dressed as if they’re off to Sunday service down to ladies in a pair of knickers only.
Once there you’ll feel at ease, just enjoy a drink and the rest will follow. X

Thank you Lace, incredibly helpful! Lol @ dressed for Sunday service! X

StokeChoke · 20 May 2019

As said above Lou

As long as you feel comfortable that’s the main thing xx

The-Gent · 20 May 2019

BiLouJ said:
Thank you Lace, incredibly helpful! Lol @ dressed for Sunday service! X

Welcome I have taken the liberty of following you hope its ok

BiLouJ · 20 May 2019

The-Gent said:
Welcome I have taken the liberty of following you hope its ok

Thank you!
Such a friendly bunch!

The-Gent · 20 May 2019

BiLouJ said:
Hi.
As a newcomer to the site and to swinging, I have a couple of questions before my first visit to a club (VA as it is my closest, I believe).

I guess my questions arise from the fact that I am starting alone as opposed to as part of a couple.
The usual female issues like what does one wear to a club like VA and is there a difference in how to dress and arrive as a lone female to a Milf day (day time) or to an mixed or Bi night (evening)?
Under the outer layer, does the underwear have to be raunchy and involve stockings or will my House of Fraser matching sets suffice?

I saw mentioned in another thread about common misconceptions about how women at swinging clubs look and I have to admit to being slightly concerned that I will not fit the bill/not be desirable as I am not 6ft with the perfect physique........ quite the other end of the scale as a petite 5 ft woman , ha ha.
And Milf day ......... I mean, what qualifies as a Milf? Will I be surrounded by absolutely stunning women with perfect bodies?

Any pointers will be very much appreciated.

No you wont just ordinary ladies hacving a good time.

Leonidas480 · 20 May 2019

Great original post

As many have said, the main thing is that you feel comfortable with whatever you're wearing.

You're brave being new to swinging and going to a club on your own. Respect! Hope you have a great time.

BiLouJ · 21 May 2019

Leonidas480 said:
Great original post

As many have said, the main thing is that you feel comfortable with whatever you're wearing.

You're brave being new to swinging and going to a club on your own. Respect! Hope you have a great time.

Thank you!

It’s a case of nothing ventured, nothing gained

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