This is what making edging with someone, very special. Because you cannot simply do it with a stranger.I tried this on myself, years ago and with my trusty rechargeable friend.
I was reading a book about tantric sex and tantric practices.
Delayed gratification and achieving multiple orgasms were the chapters of the moment.
I have to confess that it was much easier to deny/delay in my practice sessions than it is with a man or woman, with so much more going on ........ kissing, touching, tasting, smell ........ all add to that pushing over the edge.
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You have to have some basic rapport so you know when your partner is losing it and lying to you so she can orgasm. You have to watch her body language, watch her breathing patterns.. her body gyrations and telltale signs of an oncoming orgasm.
Added to that, you also know, as you said, smells, touching, tasting, kissing.. all seducing the mind and the mind is the first erogenous zone.
So it takes patience, understanding - knowing your shit from knowing you're shit.