Porn - Self Pleasure, Mutual Pleasure Or Tips?!

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Hi Mr here :)

Not sure if this is an odd one or not.
I openly admit too and Mrs knows that I watch porn, and sometimes we'll watch it together depending how the evening is going.
The Mrs and I have known each other for ten years and together for 8. At times I worry that things in the bedroom can become a bit samey samey. So I have on occasions watched porn for ideas to keep things fresh in the bedroom department.
I was just curios to how many others have watched porn simply for ideas?!

Hope you all have a frisky weekend.
:)
 
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I go through phases of watching / not watching porn. Must admit I've become very repetitive with what I watch and it does sometimes feel a bit pointless. Of course I've seen numerous positions that look exciting but are very impractical in real life and / or less fun to practice than they are to watch. The more interaction I have with people in the swinging scene, the less need I feel to watch porn.

I'm sure it could be fun watching with your other half, if you both know what each other likes and is looking to discover from porn. If I was watching porn with a lady, I'd like to think of watching a scene we're both into, a bit of mutual playing while it's on and then after or maybe later trying to incorporate some of the interesting parts into our own sex / playing. It would take a bit of research / effort to find the right type of scenes / films. Personally I prefer clips with minimal dialogue and some appropriate musicm in the background.
 
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I sometimes watch porn alone and Lis & I sometimes watch it together.

Not for very long, though :whistle::sneaky:
 
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Hi Mr here :)

Not sure if this is an odd one or not.
I openly admit too and Mrs knows that I watch porn, and sometimes we'll watch it together depending how the evening is going.
The Mrs and I have known each other for ten years and together for 8. At times I worry that things in the bedroom can become a bit samey samey. So I have on occasions watched porn for ideas to keep things fresh in the bedroom department.
I was just curios to how many others have watched porn simply for ideas?!

Hope you all have a frisky weekend.
:)

If it helps then why not. I'd agree with @Arb but that's my personal opinion. However if anyone finds it helps when it comes to making sex more fun then why not. We all have things that turn us on so if it works then go fot it.
 
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Hi Mr here :)

Not sure if this is an odd one or not.
I openly admit too and Mrs knows that I watch porn, and sometimes we'll watch it together depending how the evening is going.
The Mrs and I have known each other for ten years and together for 8. At times I worry that things in the bedroom can become a bit samey samey. So I have on occasions watched porn for ideas to keep things fresh in the bedroom department.
I was just curios to how many others have watched porn simply for ideas?!

Hope you all have a frisky weekend.
:)
There is a train of thought that Porn tends to become boring and can effect real sex ?
 

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There is a train of thought that Porn tends to become boring and can effect real sex ?

I’d agree with that to a point, although for me it altered the way I view sex, one thing porn can never fulfill is the tactile sensation and reality that two (or more) can share in the moment if that makes sense.
 
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Hi Mr here :)

Not sure if this is an odd one or not.
I openly admit too and Mrs knows that I watch porn, and sometimes we'll watch it together depending how the evening is going.
The Mrs and I have known each other for ten years and together for 8. At times I worry that things in the bedroom can become a bit samey samey. So I have on occasions watched porn for ideas to keep things fresh in the bedroom department.
I was just curios to how many others have watched porn simply for ideas?!

Hope you all have a frisky weekend.
:)
I think watching porn alone or with a partner can be a great thing! If it works for you, you like it and the benefits are positive then have at it.:D

However, I think a lot of my generation took too many ideas from porn. In the absence of robust sex and relationships education and the ready availability and access to internet, I think porn will usually fill the void and ultimately create a less positive relationship with it.

Generally, I don’t really watch porn. Although, I wouldn’t object to watching it with someone.
 
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Lew likes to watch porn now and again and I will watch it with him. I don't get a lot out of it because I can't get turned on by enhanced bodies, poor acting and general fakery. I need more of a mind fuck and the reality of sensual foreplay. If it's not erotic then it's not doing it for me x
 
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I do watch porn every now and then , iPhones and the like make that so easy .... when I was a lad top shelf magazines were the easiest way to view naked flesh if you over came the embarrassment of paying for it:X3: ....
can’t say porn turns me on as much as receiving a text ,a picture or video from someone I know they always have the best effect ... :devil:
as for ideas a lot of the positions I’d never get in these day with my old bones .. sometimes I do find it has the opposite effect especially from a performance perspective sometimes make me think blimey how do you go that long ... so yes I do watch but as has been said being turned on in person by someone is always the best way ...
 
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I do watch porn every now and then , iPhones and the like make that so easy .... when I was a lad top shelf magazines were the easiest way to view naked flesh if you over came the embarrassment of paying for it:X3: ....
can’t say porn turns me on as much as receiving a text ,a picture or video from someone I know they always have the best effect ... :devil:
as for ideas a lot of the positions I’d never get in these day with my old bones .. sometimes I do find it has the opposite effect especially from a performance perspective sometimes make me think blimey how do you go that long ... so yes I do watch but as has been said being turned on in person by someone is always the best way ...

I remember years ago one bloke and me were at it and he was like the Duracell bloody bunny banging away. Every now and then he'd decide we needed to get into a different position but then get straight back to pumping away. No foreplay to speak off, none of the mixing it up with different sensations etc. I had to put a stop to it after a while and send him on his way before he started a friction fire in my privates. :palm:
 
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I remember years ago one bloke and me were at it and he was like the Duracell bloody bunny banging away. Every now and then he'd decide we needed to get into a different position but then get straight back to pumping away. No foreplay to speak off, none of the mixing it up with different sensations etc. I had to put a stop to it after a while and send him on his way before he started a friction fire in my privates. :palm:
It’s ok if you can go on and on and on .. I know I can’t :rofl:.. but have to think of the lady getting a bit sore down under ..so changing things is always good .... it’s supposed to be pleasurable after all ...
 
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It’s ok if you can go on and on and on .. I know I can’t :rofl:.. but have to think of the lady getting a bit sore down under ..so changing things is always good .... it’s supposed to be pleasurable after all ...

It just got so boring which made me antsy because I had so many other things I could have been doing lol ❤
 
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This whole thread is reminding me of the joke where a couple are having sex when, all of a sudden, the guy stops completely still. His partner asks what the hell he's doing. He replies "It's a new sex move I've seen on the internet - it's called 'buffering'!" :rofl:
 
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Deciding the ceiling wants decorating ? X

At one point we ended up in a cupboard which was bizarre and he worked in a meat factory so smelt of sausages. It wasn't the best sexual experience I've had :eek:
 
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can’t say porn turns me on as much as receiving a text ,a picture or video from someone I know they always have the best effect ...

Exactly. Couldn’t agree more.

But in the absence of such messages, and in the absence of, y’know, sex, porn is a poor substitute, but it is a substitute.

Reminds me of a line about something entirely non-scene related: it may not be overwhelmingly satisfactory as a substitute, but ‘whelmingly’ will do quite well enough when you’ve nothing else…
 
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Nice to read a mixture of responses. For me personally I don't like most professional porn as it doesn't do anything for me & it makes me cringe: The sounds, the bodies, the camera angles - all turns me off.
Rarely watch porn but when I do I only like to watch amateur videos/home videos. Have a small variety of favourites:)