Red Flags

[Stew]

Following on from @WolfieGray post what are your personal Red Flags

Mine whilst not extensive include :-
Unwilling to do POL picture
Won’t talk on the phone
Not wanting to Face Time or ******
Vague on details , age etc

Over to you guys n girls

 

[Pilipala81]

Have to agree with yours. Major red flag is if you believe you're chatting to a couple, but woman never available to talk on phone etc..
Also the ones who get overly emotional and sharing very fast!

 

[Therapon]

Similar but then I will never use ******, Facetime or any video chat app unless it's with family or friends, certainly not for a sexy chat and getting your kit off. Its far to easy to record these calls and I simply wouldn't trust anyone that much. So I guess I'm on the red flag list of those above
Time will always reveal the fakes so I wait and watch. Red flags can be waved because someone is new, not sure, or lacks trust in others. I guess it's a gut feeling about someone.

 

[Deleted member 11094]

I can see why some people will not want to show their faces.
On red flags, mine are similar. I guess I could add other things as these may be different coming from a bi woman's perspective

 

[Stew]

I can see why some people will not want to show their faces.
On red flags, mine are similar. I guess I could add other things as these may be different coming from a bi woman's perspective

I would appreciate your input all opinions are valid and may help someone x

 

[Deleted member 11094]

I would appreciate your input all opinions are valid and may help someone x

Luckily in my experiences the green flags have out-weighed the red flags. I think in the flesh it is quite easy to know how you feel around people, the vibes and interaction. But yes, when it comes to online stuff things are very different. You've covered most.
I would much rather meet people in person, whether in a group social or over coffee. Then I will trust my own instincts in the flesh. I have had certain red flag situations in the kink community, but they were minimal. I took time to figure the person out, long chats, and/or meet in person. For some women it may not feel okay to meet someone one to one, and there are group socials that can make everything feel more comfortable and safe.

 

[PaintedDreams]

Be careful of red flags, as Bulls charge at them....... I'll get my coat.

 

[Stew]

Luckily in my experiences the green flags have out-weighed the red flags. I think in the flesh it is quite easy to know how you feel around people, the vibes and interaction. But yes, when it comes to online stuff things are very different. You've covered most.
I would much rather meet people in person, whether in a group social or over coffee. Then I will trust my own instincts in the flesh. I have had certain red flag situations in the kink community, but they were minimal. I took time to figure the person out, long chats, and/or meet in person. For some women it may not feel okay to meet someone one to one, and there are group socials that can make everything feel more comfortable and safe.

Thank you @WolfieGray And this just shows again why this semi closed community is able to flourish we are more aware of people on here and their interactions with others so helping with choices and decisions x

 

[Deleted member 6485]

Be careful of red flags, as Bulls charge at them....... I'll get my coat.

 

[Deleted member 6485]

Luckily in my experiences the green flags have out-weighed the red flags. I think in the flesh it is quite easy to know how you feel around people, the vibes and interaction. But yes, when it comes to online stuff things are very different. You've covered most.
I would much rather meet people in person, whether in a group social or over coffee. Then I will trust my own instincts in the flesh. I have had certain red flag situations in the kink community, but they were minimal. I took time to figure the person out, long chats, and/or meet in person. For some women it may not feel okay to meet someone one to one, and there are group socials that can make everything feel more comfortable and safe.

Superbly worded postx

 

[Deleted member 11094]

Thank you Debexx

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

I don' t have ready-made red flags. I trust my background and my instinct. I belive also time always discloses the fakes.

 

[mrclouse]

I think generally the above plus specially if they don't wanna meet for a social drink or coffee first. I do find when the male says she is shy just wait till she gets abut to drink also a massive red flag.

 

[Pearls]

Ok I'm reading this but not quite getting it, is this about what you don't do?

 

[Deleted member 6485]

Ok I'm reading this but not quite getting it, is this about what you don't do?

I think soxx

 

[Pearls]

I think soxx

I'm lost

 

[Therapon]

Ok I'm reading this but not quite getting it, is this about what you don't do?

No. It's about what you personally see as being a red flag or raise a suspicion that the person isn't who/what they say they are.

 

[Stew]

Ok I'm reading this but not quite getting it, is this about what you don't do?

Allow me to explain fair maiden , the thread is designed to inform you of what to look for in a suitor ! And avoid unwanted attentions and thus swooning !

Does that help !

 

[Pearls]

Eh?

 

[Stew]

Eh?

Stop you getting shagged by a ne’er do well !!!

 

[Pearls]

Stop you getting shagged by a ne’er do well !!!

Too technical for me, I'll be over there>>>>>>

 

[Vanezza]

When we was still on another swinging site I got talking to a local ish couple it didn't seem too odd at the time that the female was always working away from home, so when I said I was leaving the site we agreed to swop numbers. Then the great big holes started to show and it was always the male talking and not the female who I was talking with before or so I thought. Anyway he said on the last conversation we had would we like to meet up and I assumed it would be both of them so I said as such that it would be great to meet them both. He then said it would only be him as yet again his wife was away with work. His wife was in the police force and I had to think this guy is lying through his teeth here and he is single as I'm pretty sure the job she was supposed to have would not require her to be away most of the week every week so I stopped all conversation with him and blocked his number.


Vxxx