Rules and boundaries

Pearls

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Pearls

18 July 2015
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Most of us have them, we made ours when we started almost 20yrs ago :eek: and have stuck to them, we don’t have a long list and tbf there are only two that won’t be bent.
I honestly believe by sticking to this, it has kept us on this journey.

Do you have strict rules or is it a case of try anything that goes?
 
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Tempted70

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I was married when I started swinging and we set rules and boundaries as a couple and stuck to them. There were occasions when we changed these due to becoming close friends (I’m still friends with some of them still) with couples and the odd single male.

Now I’m a single male I know how important it is to respect the rules and boundaries of couples and singles.

Everything in swinging is about communication and consent from all parties. Without these things don’t work and relationships become strained and occasionally self destruct.

If you’re not comfortable with something speak up. No means no and not maybe.
 
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Ymichael14

Ymichael14

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No rules.
I don't want to do anything that would limit my chances.
If I ever figure out how you people find all these partners with such ease, maybe I will set some rules.
But, since odds are the best I can hope for is once in my lifetime, I don't want to miss it.
 
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TherLegs

11 December 2016
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Pearls said:
Do you have strict rules or is it a case of try anything that goes?
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I think most people have boundaries, afterall we all have different likes, dislikes and fetishes but we can't expect others to enjoy everything we do. We wouldn't get involved in something we didn't enjoy or meet others who we know, or suspected, are not all they say they are, so yes we have boundaries.
 
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sthwalescpl

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There are some standard ones that seem to be pretty widespread (no pee, poo, blood etc), always safe sex, no receiving "A" for either of us, no cum on face or in mouth (again, for either of us lol!), no "taking one for the team"...in other words, total honesty, if we dont both like our potential play partner(s), then it doesnt happen. We play as a couple, although this isnt an "absolute" rule...at a club or party it's not unheard of for one of us to play solo, but we always make sure the other is aware and happy with this, and obviously Jayne's safety is a priority.
 
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Ragdoll

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I found this thread while I was reading through the forums.
Interesting question, I think everyone starts with rules, red lines and boundaries. These change over time, I'd love to know what our current citizens of SS think about rules???
Me......... to be honest, I don't have any rules anymore, I'm pretty open about what is a no for me, anything involving toilet activities is a big NO.
 
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MP386

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I don’t think my No balls and googlies has changed….see previous post …the last 2 1/2 years has changed boundaries something I never thought would happen but finding a fun sexy gorgeous play mate who has indulged my fantasies has made life in general much better, having someone that wants to see you regularly allows for a more intimate and intense experience … I think I am extremely lucky to have found the perfect woman …
 
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Ragdoll

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AlmeriaH

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When I first started swinging I didn't know or plan anything, it just sort of evolved. (I was the extra guy in an MFM.) Fortunately, all of us were very respectful, they were madly in love and absolutely devoted to each other, which was lovely to see. She was the adventurous one and the driving force in our relationship, which spanned over 10 years. She had lots of fantasies and he had limits. I was open to "try anything once" and as I love to give pleasure she saw the opportunity to introduce things to me which she had tried with her hubby but he wasn't so keen. She was very sensual, expressive and vocal, which on its own is a turn-on for any man, and she introduced aspects to our sexual adventures which I didn't think I would enjoy. How wrong I was! Seeing the pleasure that she gained and also having an activity which was (ultimately) just between us made it very special, and I soon found I loved it. What made it from a kinky activity to an extremely pleasurable one was not the activity itself, but the way she introduced me to it and the way she continued to practice it with me.

I'm patting myself on the back because I think (and hope) that I have described our approach to something which had rules, and those rules changed by virtue of her gentle persuasion. And I haven't said what the activity was. But this thread is about rules, not activities.

 
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