So How Did You Let Them Know?

[Deleted member 3411]

Ok so you've seen him, her, them. Chatted a bit. How did you let them know you're interested in meeting? And when you did was the result good or a disaster? We have a few we like...but just worry what if??

 

[Deleted member 7954]

I just came out and said so. Im not afraid to say what i want. I think you can tell if you have a connection with someone or not. You have to guage it based on that. As long as you are polite and respectful theres nothing wrong with saying you'd like to meet someone. Its being honest at the end of the day.
Ive had a good response when ive asked the question. But i dont expect or asume the answer will be yes. Xxx

 

[Lovernotfighter]

Me I write a whole nice message about how they are nice and we get on and how we are both swingers and maybe we should go for coffee hopefully sex, then float over the send button and think better not as anxiety gets the better of me.

 

[Deleted member 7954]

Me I write a whole nice message about how they are nice and we get on and how we are both swingers and maybe we should go for coffee hopefully sex, then float over the send button and think better not as anxiety gets the better of me.

Press that button!!! Xxx

 

[Pearls]

How about getting down and dirty with us
Honestly, I think it comes natural if you have that friendship built, you kind of know where its going to go when you meet for the first time

 

[Pearls]

We also discuss who we are going to message, we keep our meets very private for many reasons, if we decide on following someone then we will send that message of interest and go from there

 

[Therapon]

I think you will get a good idea from your previous chats. If it's all going well then ask and hopefully the answer will be yes.
Having said that I'm probably the last one to take me own advice and tbh it was the lady who asked me, well she did throw a few hints that I missed but a slightly blunter approach got my attention

 

[Pearls]

I think you will get a good idea from your previous chats. If it's all going well then ask and hopefully the answer will be yes.
Having said that I'm probably the last one to take me own advice and tbh it was the lady who asked me, well she did throw a few hints that I missed but a slightly blunter approach got my attention

I remember all those little years ago

 

[Therapon]

I remember all those little years ago

Uhmm little what

 

[Pearls]

Uhmm little what

 

[DiamondJoe]

I've generally tied all that up before we've met. The actual meeting is a mere formality before we get down to business

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

All depends who we are dealing with and what site we are on - On here most folks seem to want to chat for ages before even a hint of meeting up so we tend to sit back and see if they suggest meeting. On that other site that nobody seems to like we are far more direct and tend to just message the folks we like the look of and if they reply swap some photo's and more or less just get right down to the meeting up chatter.

 

[Nigel&Julie]

All depends who we are dealing with and what site we are on - On here most folks seem to want to chat for ages before even a hint of meeting up so we tend to sit back and see if they suggest meeting. On that other site that nobody seems to like we are far more direct and tend to just message the folks we like the look of and if they reply swap some photo's and more or less just get right down to the meeting up chatter.

Why not try being more direct on here, some may not wish to offend others by jumping in feet, but I bet most here would not be offended with a message out of the blue asking to meet up, it happened to us and we had a brilliant weekend.
N&J xx

 

[Phoenixcouplexx]

Gotta just put it out there...
'Hey guys loved our chats / your profile / talking to you at the social. Would you like a meet up and see where things go?
Or we're going to the birthday bash at VA and was really hoping you would join us in the hot tub... that could work too lol

Xx

 

[Deleted member 3175]

To be honest its only ever happened once and the gorgeous pair we met up with was fantastic (wink Wink). Still good friends now x
We have messaged a few but not many, hoping to change this when we meet up at the Social xxx S

 

[Lips_Pearls]

To be honest its only ever happened once and the gorgeous pair we met up with was fantastic (wink Wink). Still good friends now x

Interesting... x

Why not try being more direct on here, some may not wish to offend others by jumping in feet, but I bet most here would not be offended with a message out of the blue asking to meet up, it happened to us and we had a brilliant weekend.
N&J xx

Yes this works quite well too tbh x

 

[Lulu]

Why not try being more direct on here, some may not wish to offend others by jumping in feet, but I bet most here would not be offended with a message out of the blue asking to meet up, it happened to us and we had a brilliant weekend.
N&J xx

I would go with this

 

[Antogs]

I hesitate to reveal this about myself as I'm not the person now that I was when I was very young and I'd hate to be judged on my past deeds but hopefully you will understand that as we get older the way we behave changes.

When I was a very young man and full of the arrogance and bravado of youth I thought I was pretty good looking and had a decent body. Shocking, I know

Anyhow, I went through a period in my life where I felt pretty invincible. My "technique" for getting a girl was very simple.
I worked on the basis that if you cast enough seed some would take root (quite an apt analogy I suppose )

At a club, I would simply approach girls with a variation of the line "do you fancy coming back to my place for a drink and a fuck" :mwah:

I can promise you, ask enough girls and you will find one that says yes

 

[Pearls]

I hesitate to reveal this about myself as I'm not the person now that I was when I was very young and I'd hate to be judged on my past deeds but hopefully you will understand that as we get older the way we behave changes.

When I was a very young man and full of the arrogance and bravado of youth I thought I was pretty good looking and had a decent body. Shocking, I know

Anyhow, I went through a period in my life where I felt pretty invincible. My "technique" for getting a girl was very simple.
I worked on the basis that if you cast enough seed some would take root (quite an apt analogy I suppose )

At a club, I would simply approach girls with a variation of the line "do you fancy coming back to my place for a drink and a fuck" :mwah:

I can promise you, ask enough girls and you will find one that says yes

Erm what's wrong with thinking you have a good body and good looking..

 

[Antogs]

Erm what's wrong with thinking you have a good body and good looking..

Nothing I guess, I'm just a bit more modest nowadays (and with good reason you might say )

 

[The_Bibas]

Ok so you've seen him, her, them. Chatted a bit. How did you let them know you're interested in meeting? And when you did was the result good or a disaster? We have a few we like...but just worry what if??

I always tell them on the night during drinks etc . We set up another date .. I rarely play on the first meeting...
Usually the chase . Window shopping etc is better than end result... Not going to lie .. I am usually disappointed in the sex bit... Most are inexperienced or incapable . Some aren't... But they are in the minority..
But everything on the way adds to it..
Xxxbibaxxx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I think we're all kind of in the same boat really, about starting that initial "fancy it" contact. Finding connection with humour can usually break the ice quite quickly.

 

[Baldrick]

Quite honestly I don't worry about it. When the time comes, I will just ask. The person/couple I ask, I'll have already built up a rapport with.
I don't really worry about rejection, I have already found my life partner so what's there to worry about? To be blunt I'm going to get laid either way

B x

 

[Deleted member 5247]

Just ask. At worst they can say ‘no thanks’. At best the possibilities are endless.

I haven’t had my first SS meet yet but intend on not waiting too long!

 

[Pearls]

Just ask. At worst they can say ‘no thanks’. At best the possibilities are endless.

I haven’t had my first SS meet yet but intend on not waiting too long!

Now that's the spirit