Thoughts On Wristbands?

sthwalescpl · 19 May 2016

I don't know if this has been bought up in here before, so I thought I'd do a thread on it.

What are peoples opinions on wearing wristbands in clubs/parties?
For those that haven't heard of this, a few people have floated the idea of wearing wristbands of different colours to indicate what your preferences are, i.e. if you are bi, or part of as couple, or not looking to meet guys etc etc.

At first, when I heard this I thought it was a good idea, but, after some deliberation, I'm not sure.
Sure, it gives others an idea as to what you are into, but the more we swing, the more blurred the edges of each "category" become, we sometimes "go with the flow" so to speak, and do something slightly outside of our usual behaviour. How would you put that on a band lol?
Plus, for us we would need a few bands, Jayne is very bi, I'm straight, we are a couple, we look to meet couples and fems, we sometimes play alone in clubs or parties, we do, on occasion, play with single guys.... and so on lol.... would end up looking like we were wearing sleeves!

uk2002 · 19 May 2016

All I can think about is them getting caught on peoples piercings

I think that it's also about the interaction between people

It shouldn't be just about what you're into - For instance would you talk to a Lady if she was wearing a wristband indicating that she was only looking for a fem. People could and miss out on some pleasant company because they're looking for a specific wristband and I'm not Bi but I'd be happy to talk with a couple who were looking for a Bi-Male as I think everyone feels more relaxed

On here we chat amongst ourselves without looking for wristbands (or in my case without looking at the profile) we're not looking for something specific we're interacting with people with all sorts of preferences even if nothing is going to happen between us because of those preferences

So not a fan of the idea

Pearls · 19 May 2016

Interesting, I have never heard of the idea and I agree that some would need a few, also, some people are unsure of what they want or desire perhaps until they are in the surroundings of a club or party, you could have a straight guy with his wife for example but when it gets heated who knows what could happen in the scenario of a foursome with the guys.
I see the positive but think it just wouldn't work

Scrunchy&Muffet · 20 May 2016

uk2002 said:
All I can think about is them getting caught on peoples piercings

I think that it's also about the interaction between people

It shouldn't be just about what you're into - For instance would you talk to a Lady if she was wearing a wristband indicating that she was only looking for a fem. People could and miss out on some pleasant company because they're looking for a specific wristband and I'm not Bi but I'd be happy to talk with a couple who were looking for a Bi-Male as I think everyone feels more relaxed

On here we chat amongst ourselves without looking for wristbands (or in my case without looking at the profile) we're not looking for something specific we're interacting with people with all sorts of preferences even if nothing is going to happen between us because of those preferences

So not a fan of the idea

Great reply hun. And i completely agree with what youve said. It takes away the need to communicate and mix with people. Even at parties and clubs theres still the social element. Its not just a bed as many folk as you can kinda thing. So yeah i think the idea may have been a good one but it deteacts from what swinging for us is all about xxx

Admin · 20 May 2016

uk2002 said:
On here we chat amongst ourselves without looking for wristbands (or in my case without looking at the profile) we're not looking for something specific we're interacting with people with all sorts of preferences even if nothing is going to happen between us because of those preferences

I think this sums up the entire ethos of the site assuring to read to be fair.

Hmm wristbands. Unsure, hit and miss isn't it. I do like the thought of some of the jewellery that's around but then perhaps wouldn't wear one of those either.
I see the point though and I suppose for green green newbies, could be an idea.. But.. I don't know I think it's a double-edged sword this one.

sthwalescpl said:
At first, when I heard this I thought it was a good idea, but, after some deliberation, I'm not sure.
Sure, it gives others an idea as to what you are into, but the more we swing, the more blurred the edges of each "category" become, we sometimes "go with the flow" so to speak, and do something slightly outside of our usual behaviour. How would you put that on a band lol?

Exactly.. It's not something a wrist band can just define is it..

meet_the_fockers · 20 May 2016

Theres a particular club we frequent.. who have a basket of wristbands on the bar..
Have never worn one yet.. i dont actually think ive seen anyone, with one on yet.
Nice idea in theory but things change.. i wouldnt find myself running back to the bar to change my band... several times. Ha x

K1nkyJJ · 21 May 2016

theres a place near me in South London that has wrist band parties as a regular thing.

Red: not playing/newbie
Amber: may be tempted, feel free to ask
Green: all systems go here!
and
Blue: bisexual

Not been, but seems like a fairly cool idea. I get very shy in person initially, the so first band thing kinda helps with breaking the ice a bit I think (in theory as I have never been to see it work in action).

This would mainly be an 'in-party' thing I guess, as opposed to jewellery for more non-party scenarios. Though jewellery would also work in place of wristbands - I guess wristbands are cheaper for a host to provide though!

meet_the_fockers · 21 May 2016

Blimey id look like a walking traffic light.

sthwalescpl · 21 May 2016

Yup, as I thought, very similar responses to discussions in other places. It seems its a great idea, but has a lot of cons too lol.
I agree with the point about communication, we love to make friends, chat etc in clubs and parties, and, although bands wouldn't put us off chatting to someone, we would worry that we would be seen as "pushy" if they have their preferences on display and we didn't fit those.
Maybe it would work if it was kept simple, perhaps just bands for "newbies", "bi", and "no single males"?

NotSoFireproof · 21 May 2016

Pearls said:
Interesting, I have never heard of the idea and I agree that some would need a few, also, some people are unsure of what they want or desire perhaps until they are in the surroundings of a club or party, you could have a straight guy with his wife for example but when it gets heated who knows what could happen in the scenario of a foursome with the guys.
I see the positive but think it just wouldn't work

My local does it, though I think it's more about whether you're looking to play that night or just there to socialise rather than who you're into.

I think their way around it is better, as it's a talking point.

meet_the_fockers · 21 May 2016

LadyLily said:
My local does it, though I think it's more about whether you're looking to play that night or just there to socialise rather than who you're into.

I think their way around it is better, as it's a talking point.

Ive never worn one there though, have you?

meet_the_fockers · 21 May 2016

VoluptuousVixen said:
I did, 2 years ago......nobody else wore one and haven't seen anyone wear one since.

Peoples preferences change.. i prefer to read their signals.. and then chat before moving in for the kill.. maybe it would work for shyer club goers.
But as ive stated before i chat to anyone, including club goers.. regardless of whether or not they are in my shag sight. x

Pearls · 10 November 2017

Anyone else fancy a wrist band

Therapon · 10 November 2017

No. If I wanted to know someones likes/ dislikes I think it better to make the effort to actually talk to them.

And it would get in the way of the restraints

The_Bibas · 14 November 2017

Never been a fan of clubs anyway but of the couple of parties I have been to.. I ended up playing with girls... Something I don't look for..
The problem with labels is they give out a definitive message which is a bad thing.. Interaction is everything in this world..
XxxBibaxxX

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