Time To Say Goodbye.

[Lanelad]

Hi everyone.

It is with the heaviest of hearts that we have decided that this isn’t for us. I want to stress it’s nothing to do with the people we sharped our experiences with and more to do with the fact that I (Lanelad) completely freaked out about it.
I did think I was perfectly fine with everything and we were really looking forward to the social side as well as have fun with you.

As it turns out see Lanelass with someone else is not something I can bear. This is a much as a surprise to me than anyone else as I would have staked money on how much I’d have enjoyed it.

As it turns out I have spent the majority of the day deeply upset, mainly at me, mainly because I wanted this to work and mainly because we’d had been so looking forward to being involved with the lifestyle. You lot are genuinely lovely.

However, after a year of life changing events for me it appears I don’t know myself half as well as I thought and with that we have decided to step back and really look why I’m being such an arse.

Thank you all so much for your time and patience with us and who knows when my life isn’t so full with other problems I can revisit this with and clearer mind.

Take care all of you.

Laneland

 

[Deleted member 3175]

Hey guys, what an open and honest post, and can want to wish you all the best. It takes a great person to say something like this, and we wish you both all the best, hope it all works out and you’ll be back when you’re ready xxx we owe you a beer S N G xx

 

[Admin]

Hi everyone.

It is with the heaviest of hearts that we have decided that this isn’t for us. I want to stress it’s nothing to do with the people we sharped our experiences with and more to do with the fact that I (Lanelad) completely freaked out about it.
I did think I was perfectly fine with everything and we were really looking forward to the social side as well as have fun with you.

As it turns out see Lanelass with someone else is not something I can bear. This is a much as a surprise to me than anyone else as I would have staked money on how much I’d have enjoyed it.

As it turns out I have spent the majority of the day deeply upset, mainly at me, mainly because I wanted this to work and mainly because we’d had been so looking forward to being involved with the lifestyle. You lot are genuinely lovely.

However, after a year of life changing events for me it appears I don’t know myself half as well as I thought and with that we have decided to step back and really look why I’m being such an arse.

Thank you all so much for your time and patience with us and who knows when my life isn’t so full with other problems I can revisit this with and clearer mind.

Take care all of you.

Laneland

It’s been refreshing having you on here with us.
What I will say is - you are 100% doing the right thing. Simply put;
You cannot do this if you have any other RL major concerns ongoing.
Nor can you do it if you have any small insecurities and - or issues. Because trust me when I say; they will come out.
Whatever your issues are, I hope you manage to sort them.
Wishing you so very well for the future.
Warm wishes and big hugs to you both.
Admin x

 

[Deleted member 6127]

It was a pleasure to meet you both and have lunch together. Its a big person who stands up and admits it’s not for them.
We wish you all the very best for your future together

Xxx :0)) T&C

 

[MP386]

Hi everyone.

It is with the heaviest of hearts that we have decided that this isn’t for us. I want to stress it’s nothing to do with the people we sharped our experiences with and more to do with the fact that I (Lanelad) completely freaked out about it.
I did think I was perfectly fine with everything and we were really looking forward to the social side as well as have fun with you.

As it turns out see Lanelass with someone else is not something I can bear. This is a much as a surprise to me than anyone else as I would have staked money on how much I’d have enjoyed it.

As it turns out I have spent the majority of the day deeply upset, mainly at me, mainly because I wanted this to work and mainly because we’d had been so looking forward to being involved with the lifestyle. You lot are genuinely lovely.

However, after a year of life changing events for me it appears I don’t know myself half as well as I thought and with that we have decided to step back and really look why I’m being such an arse.

Thank you all so much for your time and patience with us and who knows when my life isn’t so full with other problems I can revisit this with and clearer mind.

Take care all of you.

Laneland

Having met and spent a fantastic weekend with you both this has come as a bit of a shock ...
All I can do is wish you both all the best for the future .... XX

 

[Deleted member 8095]

What an honest and open post, try not to beat yourself up lanelad, at least you had the guts to even try it in the first place, many wouldn't !! And it takes a big man to admit when something isn't working for them.

Wishing you both all the very best for the future and who knows, maybe you will be back in the future xx P & L xx

 

[Admin]

Agreed, it takes guts to be so honest and open.
That aside, please let me know guys and will remove your account as requested.

 

[Lanelad]

Thank you for all of your kind words. It helps a lot. We love the site and the people and this shows why we do. We will miss the chat and banter on here, and please keep doing what you’re doing. Kind, generous, supportive and just nice people is the reason why we even considered going down this road in the first place. Any other newbies to this are privileged to have this in their corner when starting out on their swinging journey.

Whilst it’s early days when I manage to get some large things off my plate and get me more back to what was normal then we hope to come back and try again. The surprising side to this adventure has been is wanting to get involved on the social side more that the sex side of things.

I’ll will tell people of the site when and where I can. I just hope you are all here when I’m a bit more sorted

 

[Admin]

Thank you for all of your kind words. It helps a lot. We love the site and the people and this shows why we do. We will miss the chat and banter on here, and please keep doing what you’re doing. Kind, generous, supportive and just nice people is the reason why we even considered going down this road in the first place. Any other newbies to this are privileged to have this in their corner when starting out on their swinging journey.

Whilst it’s early days when I manage to get some large things off my plate and get me more back to what was normal then we hope to come back and try again. The surprising side to this adventure has been is wanting to get involved on the social side more that the sex side of things.

I’ll will tell people of the site when and where I can. I just hope you are all here when I’m a bit more sorted

Maybe you guys just need a break, rather than deletion. Let me know your thoughts okay, as it certainly sounds you're both still wanting the 'family' togetherness we all have here, but perhaps not the rest right now in the moment in time.

 

[Tiger]

Good luck for the future! We’ll always be here with support and friendship!

Tiger

 

[Lanelad]

Maybe you guys just need a break, rather than deletion. Let me know your thoughts okay, as it certainly sounds you're both still wanting the 'family' togetherness we all have here, but perhaps not the rest right now in the moment in time.

We’d like to stay around for while if that’s OK with everyone.

 

[Admin]

We’d like to stay around for while if that’s OK with everyone.

Certainly fine in my quarter peeps. Being on here does not mean anyone has to do anything nor is obliged to attend events, meet, or do anything whatsoever. Okay?

 

[Fetishswingers]

Thank you for all of your kind words. It helps a lot. We love the site and the people and this shows why we do. We will miss the chat and banter on here, and please keep doing what you’re doing. Kind, generous, supportive and just nice people is the reason why we even considered going down this road in the first place. Any other newbies to this are privileged to have this in their corner when starting out on their swinging journey.

Whilst it’s early days when I manage to get some large things off my plate and get me more back to what was normal then we hope to come back and try again. The surprising side to this adventure has been is wanting to get involved on the social side more that the sex side of things.

I’ll will tell people of the site when and where I can. I just hope you are all here when I’m a bit more sorted

I was going to stay silent but hey ho here goes lovelies.
As host of the other taboo and for some there next step up the ladder from swinging both of you have nothing to worry about and if any help I hope my comment helps.
After hosting we know of a many couples who have attended month in month out and Mr Fetishswinger know of couples attending a swinging club he run where a couple attended week in week out on a Saturday without so called playing just meeting chatting , banter in the swinging club lifestyle all together was enough for a certain couple who attended week in week out for over three years before they even went into a room for there first time to try explore further.
So our view is you stay here state be upfront with folk your not looking to so call meet play participation!
So what your a member here for the laugh, banter mixing with others not wishing to play tell Them!
It is a THUMBS UP & Yes from us you stay Guys Enjoy and do what you wish want out of it.
There never no pressure or it a must to Play what ever level and we know from hosting its about friendship too, and a bit banter and a laugh to without sexual contact if thats your boundary.
Those who dont like or are rude towards you block em X Take care huns we here just for banter n chat too if thats all you wish and or want no probs.
There always those who judge a book attitude who may send a nasty message (Sometimes) let em.
I been taught and learnt Chin up ignore and its what you both want. Your both happy honest open and able to communicate with each other then so be it. Stay Darlings xxxxx
Lots of love n Hugs
Sami-Jo Xx
P.S. I hope you so understand what I trying to say xx

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Of course you need to stay if you want to, after all the site is about friendships made amongst other things. If and when the time is right you will know. Hope you decide to stay. All the best xxxx M and W xxx

 

[Deleted member 1030]

It's been great having you around the site, glad you're going to stick around

 

[Deleted member 6485]

Of course you need to stay if you want to, after all the site is about friendships made amongst other things. If and when the time is right you will know. Hope you decide to stay. All the best xxxx M and W xxx

Exactly this xx

 

[Stew]

Stay or go the choice is yours , you are fun to be around, I for one would miss you both popping up x

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Fantastic your gonna stay, that's awesome news indeed, enjoy whatever little snippets of this lifestyle you like, chatting, watching, pictures or swinging, it's all part of the fun guys and afterall this is a very personal journey and there are no right or wrongs.

Hopefully we'll chat soon xx P & L xx

 

[Leonidas480]

Hey Lanelad & Lass, huge respect for your honesty. It takes courage to try something new and also to realise maybe it wasn't the right time. It's been great having you two on the site so far. Really hope you stay, even if you take a break. I wish you well with the RL stuff.

 

[Deleted member 1030]

this is a very personal journey and there are no right or wrongs.

That it absolutely spot on. This should be carved somewhere.

 

[Deleted member 3411]

Over the years I've spoken to quite a few new people and wish list folk, I always advised them that the MOST important thing in this is honesty. Not just with each other but with yourself. If either of you is not happy with how it makes you feel stop. Linda and I talked over our wishes before we even looked into a first visit or meeting. We still have our rules and we shall keep to them. Others on here have different rules and wishes but the bedrock remains the same, do ONLY what works for you.
Best wishes and thumbs up for giving it a go , even though it wasn't what you find you wanted at least you know... Will never be left wondering.

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

Your thread is sincere and brave. I don't know you two and I feel sorry for this, but I wish you both all the best for the future.