I've been on other sites as one part of a MF couple, we were into threesomes and DP etc with other straight males...we got messages everyday from single males who wanted to join us....which was great but my partner at the tiome would only want to message the ones who had actually bothered to read our profile in full and had some ability to write a message...and not some one line wonder. We ignored most of the messages, blocked the people who were unpleasant and only replied to a few at a time as we both had full time work on. We both messaged the ones we connected with ...and they were the ones we met up with. We didnt have any bad experiences...it was all good safe fun too. But for entirely unrelated reasons...we parted company and are no longer a couple.
Now I'm on this site as a single male it is a very different experience. I have tried to message people in a genuine and detailed way but i havent had one reply yet...I have had a couple of messages from couple who wanted to meet up but that all fell on stony ground when covid-19 hit....
As far as messaging goes..I get the vibe that either the people involved are busy getting too many messages to reply to...or I'm just not what they are interested in so far....which is fair enough. Due to covid-19 i thought a bit of chit chat by email would be welcome as meet ups are out of the question for now. But again I've found it hard to get any traction at all. I don't do quiz or trivia stuff....i know everyone else loves it but i'm into music and books etc and the result of that is I come across like a bore to most people ha ha. I did find it easy to connect with one couple who ive met via the site and we've kept in touch but due to work, distance and now covid-19 we havent done much at all since our last meet up. But I remain hopeful.
I think youve got to message people in a genuine way, you cant just message anyone and everything that might be of interest, youve got to put the time in, there has to be a connection of sorts to make things work well...but then again...i'm just making it up as i go along. I'm pretty easy going and treat people with respect, I dont just message anyone but i do take care to reply to messages to me because at least i know they might be interested. But being a single male i dont get many of those. I suppose quality is better than quantity ....rather than too much or too little. But then again, some people are into different stuff so I have no idea about anything really. This reply is probably not helpful either.