So is this in a swinging sense or just anytime ?
You always come across the arrogant ones , the anti social ones in this lifestyle people have their own agendas and will do anything to get what they want at whatever cost to others.
And to be fair they are easy to spot ... so you give them a wide birth ..
Finding 5 things is difficult, body hair has been mentioned so you rule out someone because they don’t have hair or shave ? Has a 5 o’clock shadow not something that has crossed my mind ...
In my time swinging I’ve never come across a “Pepe Le Pew” everyone male and female make an effort....if they had a “whiff” wouldn’t a subtle let’s get in the shower ? sort that ...
Body shape never been a turn off from slender to larger if they are fun does size matter ?
So i may come back if I can come up with anything....