Unwanted Attention

[Kwaka_Rider]

I think we've all seen it in some form or another, either here, other sites and social media. It can be a seriously upsetting thing to happen to you, it can also suppress others from joining in and enjoy the community.

Have you experienced it in one way or another, how would you go about dealing with it?

Thoughts and opinions.....

 

[Deleted member 8095]

We had a lot of unwanted and quite rude attention on that other site that shall not be named! In the end I had to be quite blunt and tell people a few truths before finally deleting the account. Sadly in our experience it's normally a small section of the single gents that ruin it for the genuine ones. (P)

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

We had a lot of unwanted and quite rude attention on that other site that shall not be named! In the end I had to be quite blunt and tell people a few truths before finally deleting the account. Sadly in our experience it's normally a small section of the single gents that ruin it for the genuine ones. (P)

I know that other site has its huge flaws, but it's crap you felt you had to leave because of the unwanted and rude attention, you shouldn't have had to leave, it's ruined any potential enjoyment for you.

 

[Deleted member 8095]

I know that other site has its huge flaws, but it's crap you felt you had to leave because of the unwanted and rude attention, you shouldn't have had to leave, it's ruined any potential enjoyment for you.

The final straw for me was when a 60yr old guy told me "you can't be fussy on here, you've gotta take what you can so let me fuck your wife" . That was the end as we'd experienced some crap but that was the lowest point.

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

The final straw for me was when a 60yr old guy told me "you can't be fussy on here, you've gotta take what you can so let me fuck your wife" . That was the end as we'd experienced some crap but that was the lowest point.

Fucking hell. What the fuck is it worth people who think that's acceptable from behind a keyboard, when we know they wouldn't dare say anything like that face to face.

 

[Delightful]

The final straw for me was when a 60yr old guy told me "you can't be fussy on here, you've gotta take what you can so let me fuck your wife" . That was the end as we'd experienced some crap but that was the lowest point.

That’s terrible.

 

[Stew]

The final straw for me was when a 60yr old guy told me "you can't be fussy on here, you've gotta take what you can so let me fuck your wife" . That was the end as we'd experienced some crap but that was the lowest point.

That’s absolutely awful!
On most of the sites the chancers ruin it for everyone! They just play the numbers game. contacting as many as possible with a copy/paste idea of a chat up line ! And hope that out of every 100 sent that 1 will respond positively !!

No wonder people get disillusioned and leave the lifestyle!

 

[livvye123]

The final straw for me was when a 60yr old guy told me "you can't be fussy on here, you've gotta take what you can so let me fuck your wife" . That was the end as we'd experienced some crap but that was the lowest point.

That’s awful - and so not necessary. Hope that your experience here has been a better one!

 

[Tiger]

I think we've all seen it in some form or another, either here, other sites and social media. It can be a seriously upsetting thing to happen to you, it can also suppress others from joining in and enjoy the community.

Have you experienced it in one way or another, how would you go about dealing with it?

Thoughts and opinions.....

It can be extremely cringe worthy, when you see it happening! and as you’ve said very distressing for the person it’s happening to!

I heard a saying the other day! I’m paraphrasing here. “you can’t make someone want more of what they already don’t want“

Sadly we all know of someone like this, where they just don’t see the signs, won’t take a hint!

Even if you are point-blank blunt with them, it’s like that seen from dumb and dumber where all they hear is “so you’re telling me there’s a chance“

How can you deal with it? Report them, block them, try and talk to them although I don’t think that last one would do any good! It just adds fuel to the fire.

 

[MP386]

You’ll always get those that don’t understand the ethos of the site ,not that I’ve experienced it myself to start a polite no thank you , if it continues then report it to the site …

 

[Deleted member 8095]

That’s awful - and so not necessary. Hope that your experience here has been a better one!

Thankfully our experience on this site has been so much more positive, the guys tend to be much more respectable and if there is any doubt the management are all over it like a rash lol

 

[NotSoFireproof]

I just block on all channels they've found me on. I once had a guy from work find me on tinder. The he found me on that other site. He started texting me and WhatsApping me inappropriate stuff and when I told him to stop, it continued, so I blocked him, and avoided him at work.

 

[Pearls]

I’ve only had one here, he followed me around like a lost sheep, message morning and evening and me being me didn’t know how to shake it off, I gave him no hints of meeting, he knew I had a husband but still persisted thinking he had a chance. He was always polite so I struggled to find a way to get him to back off, when I did, he started bopping me in the chat room every morning as soon as he noticed I was online, his tea break was at 11 so he’d bop me again. I had the timings down to an art.. So after I’d say 6 months and two attempts to try and get him to get involved else where, his nibs got involved and politely asked him to back off.. Didn’t see much of him then and he popped in and out, I think his account is still here but not a peep for a few yrs.
It was a tough one but in some way I think he was slightly obsessed, he’s probably moved onto someone else now.

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

It can be extremely cringe worthy,

It can be and is.

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

I don't think the ones who give so much unwanted attention actually realise that they are. Some can't see that the attention isn't reciprocated yet still continue, they're oblivious to their actions. That can be scary.

 

[Tiger]

I don't think the ones who give so much unwanted attention actually realise that they are. Some can't see that the attention isn't reciprocated yet still continue, they're oblivious to their actions. That can be scary.

I completely agree with you there, they lack the emotional maturity to see what others see.

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

I completely agree with you there, they lack the emotional maturity to see what others see.

Exactly that.

 

[Delightful]

I just block on all channels they've found me on. I once had a guy from work find me on tinder. The he found me on that other site. He started texting me and WhatsApping me inappropriate stuff and when I told him to stop, it continued, so I blocked him, and avoided him at work.

What a dick!

 

[Tiger]

Here’s a YouTube video on how NOT to be creepy!
The irony is the ones that need to see it the most! Won’t think it applies to them.

Tiger xx

 

[Delightful]

Here’s a YouTube video on how NOT to be creepy!
The irony is the ones that need to see it the most! Won’t think it applies to them.

Tiger xx

This is actually very interesting.

 

[Skippy01]

I always find a polite "fuck off ya weirdo" works well on occasions ? .Or just start calling them Norman, until they get the hint ? x

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I think we've all seen it in some form or another, either here, other sites and social media. It can be a seriously upsetting thing to happen to you, it can also suppress others from joining in and enjoy the community.

Have you experienced it in one way or another, how would you go about dealing with it?

Thoughts and opinions.....

An excellent thread. I think those that do it have two positions. Either they don't know they're doing it or do and don't care anyway.
A polite; thanks but no thanks, often works, but those who act like a dog with a bone - this rarely works. So a block is most likely the best way forward.

Sadly, when people do act like that, they can make the experience here somewhat hindered. That's no good for anyone, let alone the person directly involved.