What Puts You Off?

Lips_Pearls · 17 February 2019

Genuinely, what in people literally puts you off from a liaison? (hate the terms meet and such..)
It could be appearance, could be persona online yet drawn to them physically?
What about perhaps, they've been around a little - does that bother you or not?
Maybe they are into things you are not, maybe they have that little something that niggles away at you and prevents you from having a social meeting or more.

I'm not talking about what puts you off in swinging per se, I'm talking about when you spot someone and instantly have that like, but then see something that immediately halts anything further. x

fincon · 18 February 2019

Lips_Pearls said:
Genuinely, what in people literally puts you off from a liaison? (hate the terms meet and such..)
It could be appearance, could be persona online yet drawn to them physically?
What about perhaps, they've been around a little - does that bother you or not?
Maybe they are into things you are not, maybe they have that little something that niggles away at you and prevents you from having a social meeting or more.

I'm not talking about what puts you off in swinging per se, I'm talking about when you spot someone and instantly have that like, but then see something that immediately halts anything further. x

I don’t think you can fairly include ‘they’re into things you’re not’. That’s just personal taste/preference. Besides, when that occurs, there’s always this option… (I created this graphic long ago to answer that specific question long ago on twitter)

But turn offs to stop meet8ngm things ever going any further.

Lies.

That’s the main one, whether they’re overtly intentional or not, whether they’re lies of commission or lies of omission, whether they’re ‘justified’ in the minds of the other person/people or not.

Stew · 18 February 2019

Generally for me it’s the inability to accept that the other person has an opinion and a point of view

The very nature of what we do is based on exactly the opposite we have to accept this isn’t about finding the next Mr/Mrs but finding compatibilities that could lead to a liaison

FreshFunkySLB · 18 February 2019

Anyone who comes across as cold or empty while searching for the “right person” is a big no no for me. Recently felt like I was being interviewed for a job and there was no thought from them that they wasn’t the only ones looking to gain from it xx

Pearls · 13 March 2019

Lips_Pearls said:
I'm talking about when you spot someone and instantly have that like, but then see something that immediately halts anything further. x

Tomboy (like a lady to look a lady)
Ignorance (met a few)
Iffy smells

What Puts You Off?

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fincon

Stew

FreshFunkySLB

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