What's acceptable and what's not ....

[Sammy]

so this was one of my very first posts I put up when I first joined ..... what you find acceptable I might find offensive , or vice versa


There's lots of new members in last 14 months is be interested in hearing your opinion

When you are being approached by another member what behaviour do you expect or what do you not find acceptable

if you are uncomfortable with something on site what do you do ?

Have you had an unsolicited dic pic sent to you ... do you report or say nothing

Is someone on your profile and pics excessively do you see that as a compliment or not ... what do you see as excessively

Interested to hear your views

I'll try dig out the old post and the etiquette thread

Sx

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Personally for me (Paul) I like to look at profiles and see who's about! However that being said, I wouldn't excessively view a profile without making some sort of contact with the account holder, I find it just rude to keep clicking without chatting.
As for unsolicited pictures, I never send pictures unless they've been asked for or I've checked they'd be received in the spirit they were sent, if the lady (in my case) says no thank you, stop or im uncomfortable, then thats it, i always follow her lead and let her set the overall pace of the interaction, it's just simple manners and for me anything else would be totally unacceptable.

Paul xxx

 

[Pearls]

I hope everyone understands the seriousness of sending pics of this nature and we hope you use the report button, please do not ignore behaviour like this as it could potentially make people leave and also it can be upsetting for some.
Sending photos of genitals is illegal without consent.

 

[Therapon]

Sending photos of genitals is illegal without consent.

This ^^^^^

 

[Terryg]

It's always been a pet hate of mine when people seem to trample all over peoples profiles, especially on profile post.
I cringe when I get fat fingers and accidentally go onto someone's profile!...let alone doing it more than once in a short time.
We all want and deserve respect.

 

[Deleted member 1030]

when people seem to trample all over peoples profiles, especially on profile post.

In what way?

 

[DiamondJoe]

so this was one of my very first posts I put up when I first joined ..... what you find acceptable I might find offensive , or vice versa


There's lots of new members in last 14 months is be interested in hearing your opinion

When you are being approached by another member what behaviour do you expect or what do you not find acceptable

if you are uncomfortable with something on site what do you do ?

Have you had an unsolicited dic pic sent to you ... do you report or say nothing

Is someone on your profile and pics excessively do you see that as a compliment or not ... what do you see as excessively

Interested to hear your views

I'll try dig out the old post and the etiquette thread

Sx

Is this in relation to this site or more generally?

 

[Sammy]

Is this in relation to this site or more generally?

Site hunni
Sx

 

[DiamondJoe]

Site hunni
Sx

I don't think anyone's done anything offensive to me on this site in the slightest - 'cept for one crazy bitch, but I told her where to get off

Generally people are very polite. In my experience.

A woman might say something different.

 

[Sammy]

I don't think anyone's done anything offensive to me on this site in the slightest - 'cept for one crazy bitch, but I told her where to get off

Generally people are very polite. In my experience.

A woman might say something different.

I would tend to agree on site generally most people are very polite and respectful

They generally engage in a way that interactive until you find commonalities n connection , things them may move down a different ave.

I can only say from my opinion ocassinally you do get unwanted behaviours now dependant on the level will depend on how I deal with

Most I slap playfully and they take the hint

However early on when I join I really wasn't sure what was acceptable on site being a total rookie - it took me a while to to get to grips until couple of people explained to me

What do I do ....sometimes I Playfully slap ....sometimes I slap harder and say not acceptable
Other times I ignore and I have reported one or two to the staff

Sx

 

[DiamondJoe]

Site hunni
Sx

* the reason I ask is, the very first such site I joined was a bit more 'Wild West' where bullying, hunting in packs and people being hounded to deletion was commonplace. I was trolled heavily by some cunt over the death of a friend, for instance.

It was a bit like going for a walk in the countryside but having to take a loaded gun in case the local wildlife attacked.

Strange place.

 

[Antogs]

To put it simply, I respect all the ladies on here and would never send any unsolicited pictures.

I curb my naturally potty mouth and don't make any pervy suggestions until and unless I feel the lady will take it in the right way. Even then I tend to ask first.

I think some guys also misunderstand if a woman says she's sexually submissive in nature. Thinking it gives them carte blanche to treat the woman with disdain, even contempt. They're very wrong.

I'm pleased to say I've not had any complaints lodged against me (so far )

Respect, that's all it takes

Antogs xx

 

[Pearls]

From my experience I would say if you are a swinger then you expect the sleazy chat and naughty pics from the off, we as a couple have had very steamy conversations and sent photos but that is after an initial build up of getting to know the person first and gaining some trust and friendship.
The messages and posts of:-
What you into?
You are sexy
I wanna meet you

These are just not going to work, think about how you would approach someone in every day life in a pub.. Would pop your bits out?

Viewing profiles is great but say something and don't keep viewing constantly, it just makes the person unsettled or freaked out.

It's simple really isn't it, just be yourself and nothing else unless it naturally progresses

 

[DiamondJoe]

* the reason I ask is, the very first such site I joined was a bit more 'Wild West' where bullying, hunting in packs and people being hounded to deletion was commonplace. I was trolled heavily by some cunt over the death of a friend, for instance.

It was a bit like going for a walk in the countryside but having to take a loaded gun in case the local wildlife attacked.

Strange place.

Hmmm.

The last site I was on... one night some meathead invaded the forums who I generally ignored until they said they remembered me from a previous site... and then it got unpleasant. I don't honestly remember what was said but I was busy with real life events and eventually thought, Fuck it. He's gonna get banned for that. I'm off to bed and let Admin sort it out tomorrow.

Only he stayed on line and started slagging me off, repeatedly calling me a pedophile

A friend who was online, bless her, spent some hours vainly trying to countre the nut bag... of course, I was blissfully unawares of the whole shit shower until the following day when people start texting to ask if I'm alright...

Nasty.

 

[Pearls]

Hmmm.

The last site I was on... one night some meathead invaded the forums who I generally ignored until they said they remembered me from a previous site... and then it got unpleasant. I don't honestly remember what was said but I was busy with real life events and eventually thought, Fuck it. He's gonna get banned for that. I'm off to bed and let Admin sort it out tomorrow.

Only he stayed on line and started slagging me off, repeatedly calling me a pedophile

A friend who was online, bless her, spent some hours vainly trying to countre the nut bag... of course, I was blissfully unawares of the whole shit shower until the following day when people start texting to ask if I'm alright...

Nasty.

Very nasty x

 

[DiamondJoe]

Very nasty x

Yeah, the guy spread it around multiple threads. Admin had a real flood in the basement to fix the next morning

 

[Sammy]

To put it simply, I respect all the ladies on here and would never send any unsolicited pictures.

I curb my naturally potty mouth and don't make any pervy suggestions until and unless I feel the lady will take it in the right way. Even then I tend to ask first.

I think some guys also misunderstand if a woman says she's sexually submissive in nature. Thinking it gives them carte blanche to treat the woman with disdain, even contempt. They're very wrong.

I'm pleased to say I've not had any complaints lodged against me (so far )

Respect, that's all it takes

Antogs xx

You are correct
Submissive doesn't mean door mat .. common misconception
Sx

 

[Fetishswingers]

In our world Boundaries Limits must be asked then respected from the off! Why would should it be any different.
We have in the past been accused sometimes of being pushy lol direct to early to ask for picture or even to talk to confirm on the phone which we do feel a joke bla bla! Direct yeh we agree and will continue to be/
We ask straight away no different to making a cup of tea. You want it with milk and sugar when making it or without.
Not when you go to sip it! Lol XX
Love to you all xx

 

[Vanezza]

I am glad to say that apart from a couple of occasions here where we have had an unacceptable message it has been delt with quickly by the staff here so anyone who does encounter a problem with someone you do need to report it. On other sites, it became terrible where in the end we just had to put a block in place to stop single guys messaging as the site was not very well managed and it still isn't to this day I believe. Apart from the odd numpty wanting to meet up without a PV or chat with us first can honestly say we have not had any such problems here and not been sent any unsolicited genital pics.

Vxxx

 

[Carpediem2008]

we find a polite no thanks works best for us however some social decorum is required when contacting us. We do expect the odd pushy person and unsolicited photos but to be honest don't mind we love all our interactions with members on here so please feel free to talk dirty to us and send as many pics as you want.xxx

 

[Antogs]

we find a polite no thanks works best for us however some social decorum is required when contacting us. We do expect the odd pushy person and unsolicited photos but to be honest don't mind we love all our interactions with members on here so please feel free to talk dirty to us and send as many pics as you want.xxx

Oooooh, I am soooooo tempted :mwah:
It almost sounds like a challenge :devil:

Antogs xx

 

[Miss JR]

* the reason I ask is, the very first such site I joined was a bit more 'Wild West' where bullying, hunting in packs and people being hounded to deletion was commonplace. I was trolled heavily by some cunt over the death of a friend, for instance.

It was a bit like going for a walk in the countryside but having to take a loaded gun in case the local wildlife attacked.

Strange place.

Ain't that the truth!

 

[Carpediem2008]

at the end of the day you cant expect everyone to have the same level of respect or understanding as you do we expect some people will be a little blunt but to be fair we love any kind of interaction with regards to swinging all the pics and naughty talk are all taken in the spirit of fun to be honest we love when people comment on our pics its a confidence builder we love receiving naughty messages the build up to potential meets gets us really going if things get to far we will always make a point of saying but haven't reached that point yet so get messaging guys and girls.xxx

 

[SteveandDebs]

We see swinging as a bit of fun and don't take very much too seriously but after reading this thread the other day we got a message on another site that made me sit back and think "Whoa" it simply said

"I'd love to see Steve Dom my mum, I know she'd be up for it"

What the actual fuck!

 

[DiamondJoe]

I had a message this morning from a guy who - I'm paraphrasing but this was certainly the gist - asked if I would like to come over and fuck him bb while his kids were downstairs.

WTactualF???