Who are you.

Pearls · 28 May 2021

Newbie
Dipped your toes
Dabbled a bit
Experienced

Not here so much but on another site labels are a huge thing and from experience a kind of strict swinging code

When we started this journey 16yrs ago we didn’t realise how your time and experience would have such a huge effect on meeting with most refusing to meet newbies due to lack of experience....
We couldn’t even get a conversation started on the site simply because we were new to it all which left us feeling deflated and so angry that a point blank no was frequently used based on this but after some time we got chatting to a lady in Bridgend and she invited us to hers for lunch one afternoon, great we thought...
Well not quite, what happened was a vetting process for her to make a decision on whether or not she would meet us and at the end of this “meeting” she half heartedly said “I would never normally meet newbies as they have no experience but I will”
We learnt very quickly that this was not what we wanted and people who have met me would kind of work out my reaction to such a reply a polite fuck off bitch....

So my question is, do you go by this code and what makes you an experienced swinger?
I would never class us as anything and if you really think about these terms you could argue, we are talking about a sexual experience and genuine people have had plenty of experience in having sex.
I have personally never understood why these terms are used and what relevance they have to something that comes so naturally.
Over to you.

Deleted member 19022 · 28 May 2021

I'm definitely a dipped your toes person. Wasn't the best experience I had. A mixture of nerves, pressure and disappointment as the couple looked nothing like the profile photos, although they were very nice to chat with.

SteveandDebs · 28 May 2021

Can we have a 'Dabbled a lot' label please?

Skippy01 · 28 May 2021

I always thought the labels were used on the other site, as a basis for the heirarchy levels,to seperate the elite from the mere peasants lol.
Everyone was a newbie at some point.I think it makes no difference on how good someone can be with the actual experience,whether it's single or threeomes/ moresones .If anything I kind of think it's lazy on the part of the people who won't meet newbies, because they don't want to put that extra effort and time in to make them feel comfortable.They want someone who knows exactly what to do when ever they want to do it.Even with what i've done,I wouldn't say i'm experienced,more like intermediate level lol x

SteveandDebs · 28 May 2021

On the other site you hear, often, "But you haven't been here long"

But we have never looked at how long they've been on a site before deciding whether to meet or not.

Pearls · 28 May 2021

Skippy01 said:
I always thought the labels were used on the other site, as a basis for the heirarchy levels,to seperate the elite from the mere peasants lol.
Everyone was a newbie at some point.I think it makes no difference on how good someone can be with the actual experience,whether it's single or threeomes/ moresones .If anything I kind of think it's lazy on the part of the people who won't meet newbies, because they don't want to put that extra effort and time in to make them feel comfortable.They want someone who knows exactly what to do when ever they want to do it.Even with what i've done,I wouldn't say i'm experienced,more like intermediate level lol x

I knew you would see straight through my post and what I meant ??

Skippy01 · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
I knew you would see straight through my post and what I meant ??

Tbh anything to do with the other site,you know that self entitlement,elitism and ridiculous expectations of normal everyday folk is going to be one of the main reasons for failures in the swinging world.To me this lifestyle is about finding someone/people you are attracted to,finding out if you can are mutually compatible and then working towards an equally enjoyable experience TOGETHER.Sometimes you have shit sex,sometimes it doesn't work out but without any effort on both parts,you're gonna end up with fuck all ? x

Pearls · 28 May 2021

Skippy01 said:
Tbh anything to do with the other site,you know that self entitlement,elitism and ridiculous expectations of normal everyday folk is going to be one of the main reasons for failures in the swinging world.To me this lifestyle is about finding someone/people you are attracted to,finding out if you can are mutually compatible and then working towards an equally enjoyable experience TOGETHER.Sometimes you have shit sex,sometimes it doesn't work out but without any effort on both parts,you're gonna end up with fuck all ? x

Tbh that initial first meeting made us realise it wasn’t for us, call us snobby but it’s just preference and that’s when this was created,
Too many labels and codes of hierarchy members that make it impossible for genuine people to even get going and it makes you feel so sad that your expectations of venturing into something you’ve really looked forward too a disaster.

mrclouse · 28 May 2021

this kind of mindset is usually everywhere tbh on more vanilla sites or gaming or whatever interest forums you may have people use amounts of posts/points/levels for it and it was at one point a way to make people interact more and post more but yes labelling and elitism does usually cause cancer in any community

Guru G · 28 May 2021

I’m massively experienced I’m known as the top dog around Swansea x

Pearls · 28 May 2021

Mr gorgeous1 said:
I’m massively experienced I’m known as the top dog around Swansea x

?

mrclouse · 28 May 2021

sidenote i am a Newbie some might say an innocent young lad

Skippy01 · 28 May 2021

Mr gorgeous1 said:
I’m massively experienced I’m known as the top dog around Swansea x

It's true.All the men love you x

Tiger · 28 May 2021

Mr gorgeous1 said:
I’m massively experienced I’m known as the top dog around Swansea x

Is that from pissing up against lampposts on a Saturday night Chuckle

Tiger · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
Newbie
Dipped your toes
Dabbled a bit
Experienced

Not here so much but on another site labels are a huge thing and from experience a kind of strict swinging code

When we started this journey 16yrs ago we didn’t realise how your time and experience would have such a huge effect on meeting with most refusing to meet newbies due to lack of experience....
We couldn’t even get a conversation started on the site simply because we were new to it all which left us feeling deflated and so angry that a point blank no was frequently used based on this but after some time we got chatting to a lady in Bridgend and she invited us to hers for lunch one afternoon, great we thought...
Well not quite, what happened was a vetting process for her to make a decision on whether or not she would meet us and at the end of this “meeting” she half heartedly said “I would never normally meet newbies as they have no experience but I will”
We learnt very quickly that this was not what we wanted and people who have met me would kind of work out my reaction to such a reply a polite fuck off bitch....

So my question is, do you go by this code and what makes you an experienced swinger?
I would never class us as anything and if you really think about these terms you could argue, we are talking about a sexual experience and genuine people have had plenty of experience in having sex.
I have personally never understood why these terms are used and what relevance they have to something that comes so naturally.
Over to you.

Not so much now however we were all newbies at some point!

As with everything in life knowledge and experience comes from all places, so, don’t dismiss someone out of hand, you may just learn something new!

Every days a school day!

Tiger xx

Guru G · 28 May 2021

Skippy01 said:
It's true.All the men love you x

Can ya blame them

Pearls · 28 May 2021

But can you define experienced and how does it relate to sex or am I missing something because I can’t see how it’s relatable.

Guru G · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
But can you define experienced and how does it relate to sex or am I missing something because I can’t see how it’s relatable.

Because I’ve shagged over 700 women I’m amazing at it. Practice makes perfect

Pearls · 28 May 2021

Mr gorgeous1 said:
Because I’ve shagged over 700 women I’m amazing at it. Practice makes perfect

Yep and I’m noddy with big tits ?

Guru G · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
Yep and I’m noddy with big tits ?

Sexy

Deleted member 11852 · 28 May 2021

We can't really comment about the other sites as we never bothered joining any except this one.. We did look at a couple of others and it was basically pay us as much as we can get out of you to have a conversation with a sock puppet the other end of the computer.. Who will tell you anything you want to hear so long as you keep sending your cash.. After looking at quite a few sites we decided to join here and to be honest we have never looked back.. I think if we ever left this site it would be because we left the lifestyle.... W.. ???

NotSoFireproof · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
Newbie
Dipped your toes
Dabbled a bit
Experienced

Not here so much but on another site labels are a huge thing and from experience a kind of strict swinging code

When we started this journey 16yrs ago we didn’t realise how your time and experience would have such a huge effect on meeting with most refusing to meet newbies due to lack of experience....
We couldn’t even get a conversation started on the site simply because we were new to it all which left us feeling deflated and so angry that a point blank no was frequently used based on this but after some time we got chatting to a lady in Bridgend and she invited us to hers for lunch one afternoon, great we thought...
Well not quite, what happened was a vetting process for her to make a decision on whether or not she would meet us and at the end of this “meeting” she half heartedly said “I would never normally meet newbies as they have no experience but I will”
We learnt very quickly that this was not what we wanted and people who have met me would kind of work out my reaction to such a reply a polite fuck off bitch....

So my question is, do you go by this code and what makes you an experienced swinger?
I would never class us as anything and if you really think about these terms you could argue, we are talking about a sexual experience and genuine people have had plenty of experience in having sex.
I have personally never understood why these terms are used and what relevance they have to something that comes so naturally.
Over to you.

I'm not sure I've seen those statuses on any sites I've been on, but that attitude is one I've seen elsewhere.

I must admit, (at risk of sounding like a snob) I wouldn't entertain messages on one particular site from accounts that are less than a week old, because they tend to be a certain type of person, and it saves me some abuse when I inevitably ignore their horrible message. ?

Otherwise, no, I don't use this code.

What makes a person an experienced swinger isn't even how much sex they've had within the scene, it's about how much effort they've put into communication and learning, in my opinion.

Pearls · 28 May 2021

LadyLily said:
I'm not sure I've seen those statuses on any sites I've been on, but that attitude is one I've seen elsewhere.

I must admit, (at risk of sounding like a snob) I wouldn't entertain messages on one particular site from accounts that are less than a week old, because they tend to be a certain type of person, and it saves me some abuse when I inevitably ignore their horrible message. ?

Otherwise, no, I don't use this code.

What makes a person an experienced swinger isn't even how much sex they've had within the scene, it's about how much effort they've put into communication and learning, in my opinion.

Learn how to behave? ?

NotSoFireproof · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
Learn how to behave? ?

For some people, yeah! ?

MP386 · 28 May 2021

Pearls said:
Newbie
Dipped your toes
Dabbled a bit
Experienced

Not here so much but on another site labels are a huge thing and from experience a kind of strict swinging code

When we started this journey 16yrs ago we didn’t realise how your time and experience would have such a huge effect on meeting with most refusing to meet newbies due to lack of experience....
We couldn’t even get a conversation started on the site simply because we were new to it all which left us feeling deflated and so angry that a point blank no was frequently used based on this but after some time we got chatting to a lady in Bridgend and she invited us to hers for lunch one afternoon, great we thought...
Well not quite, what happened was a vetting process for her to make a decision on whether or not she would meet us and at the end of this “meeting” she half heartedly said “I would never normally meet newbies as they have no experience but I will”
We learnt very quickly that this was not what we wanted and people who have met me would kind of work out my reaction to such a reply a polite fuck off bitch....

So my question is, do you go by this code and what makes you an experienced swinger?
I would never class us as anything and if you really think about these terms you could argue, we are talking about a sexual experience and genuine people have had plenty of experience in having sex.
I have personally never understood why these terms are used and what relevance they have to something that comes so naturally.
Over to you.

Not sure I’d want a label … but dabbled a bit ? …. Is dipped your toes some kind of sexual fetish ? Asking for a friend ?

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