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The_Bibas

Sooo I have a stalker.. Has been a pain in my side for 3 years.
He is Banned from here and twitter.
Obnoxious
Horrible
Ugly
Trouble..

I met him last night by accident and he had no idea who i was..
Stephen spoke to him too and he was clueless...
Did not have the intelligence to be my stalker... Seriously can't have ever been him ..
I got it wrong..
He is still ugly so ain't got a hope... But he was pleasant enough .
How often have you been wrong about someone?
XxxBibaxxX
 
Therapon

Therapon

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Quite often if I'm honest, you read or hear something and make a judgement based on that. It's human nature I guess and very easily done if you only ever interact online, comments can be so easily miscontrued.
 
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There's been one or two from here who play the old "I'm just me" game, come across as lovely, I fell for it, meet them and they eventually show they aren't who they portray themselves. I'm so much more wary now.
I've also met a few who are as genuine as they come. And now consider them friends away from the lifestyle.
 
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Cheeky_Demon

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I'm the worst...no seriously I am THE WORST EVER... person at reading signs from people. I've given up trying many moons ago. So I'm left with just taking people as they come. It works most of the time.

The one time it went very wrong lead to 'Lianne' rocking up to my door a week after we'd originally met. It was 2am and she was very drunk. I was a single dad at the time and luckily my son slept in his room at the back of the house. So 'Lianne' hammering on the door and demanding that she needed me to fuck her (at least I assume that's what she was saying as her words were slurred) didn't cause distress to anyone except my neighbours.

She never apologised or got in touch again. Her friend wrote a childish status about it a couple of days later so she'd obviously put a nice spin on the story.

Lesson learnt.

I've seen her since. Once at a party, once at the VA. She can't even look me in the eye and it was 8 years ago now :eek:
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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One of the biggest problems is, people on line are not the same people in real life, we have met so many people in this life style, some amazing, some awful, one of the worst gripes for me is verifications. People are never honest with them.. We leave honest verifications and sorry if you don't like it then tough, why say this person is amazing when they were dam right horrid.. x
 
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Arb

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It’s an interesting one for sure..

I find some are quick to judge and others to trusting.
Also how do you get your true self across and what really is it? We all have our own perception on reality and who we are.

Like others I’m sure I am curious and worry a little how people view me.


Excuse me if I’m not making sense as I just had my first drink in thirty days xx
 
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The_Bibas

RobbieFutuo said:
Touch wood I think I’m very good at judging people - can’t ever recall having an opinion about someone and being wrong.
That said, I probably won’t judge a person in their entirety straight off, i might form opinions about certain characteristics, and develop a fuller opinion over time.
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Sooooo you form an opinion that may or not change....
Lol


XxxBibaxxX
 
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Before Linda I spent I few years drifting. I met a girl at an event and thought 'ok nice enough but far to quiet for me'. Many months later our paths crossed again and we chatted but I tried not to show too much interest as I figured she'd freak out if I mentioned swinging or at least fun sex. Then one night found her in another site (short lived - failed) looking for guys n girls for fun... sadly never saw her again either online or in the RW.
 
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DiamondJoe

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DiamondJoe said:
I like to think I'm a good judge of character. The only trouble likely to be had is from me :)
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...although there was this one time...

When I very first joined social media/sex sites and was very green. A local guy kept PMing me and I was like, Thanks but you're not really my type but happy to chat, whatever. Turned out he's into photography (or said he was) and I ended up sharing some pics by email. Big mistake. He kept on emailing. 80 in a week.

In the end I simply said, LOOK, I've TOLD you I'm NOT interested. DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN.

And left it at that.



Of course, 2 or 3 months later he tries again.

This time I get annoyed.

I reply simply: Send face pic, full address and choose heads or tails.

He's like, "You what?!"

Choose.

"Ok... heads...?"

I flip the imperial silver coin that's 100 years older than me that I keep for special occasions. It comes up heads.

Ok, get ready, you're in "luck", I say, I'm coming over.

Agreed on a no reciprocation bj. He wasn't very good. Gritted my teeth and got through it. Left immediately. Barracked him for a verification and then... two months later I replied with:

"Sex: if you want it badly, that's how you'll get it."

Oddly enough he's not been back since.

:)
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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DiamondJoe said:
...although there was this one time...

When I very first joined social media/sex sites and was very green. A local guy kept PMing me and I was like, Thanks but you're not really my type but happy to chat, whatever. Turned out he's into photography (or said he was) and I ended up sharing some pics by email. Big mistake. He kept on emailing. 80 in a week.

In the end I simply said, LOOK, I've TOLD you I'm NOT interested. DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN.

And left it at that.



Of course, 2 or 3 months later he tries again.

This time I get annoyed.

I reply simply: Send face pic, full address and choose heads or tails.

He's like, "You what?!"

Choose.

"Ok... heads...?"

I flip the imperial silver coin that's 100 years older than me that I keep for special occasions. It comes up heads.

Ok, get ready, you're in "luck", I say, I'm coming over.

Agreed on a no reciprocation bj. He wasn't very good. Gritted my teeth and got through it. Left immediately. Barracked him for a verification and then... two months later I replied with:

"Sex: if you want it badly, that's how you'll get it."

Oddly enough he's not been back since.

:)
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T&C said:
Maybe Miss C will elaborate on first impressions or should I say never judge a book by its cover xxxxx :0)) T:p:love:
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Having arranged to meet a SG (sexy tatts) I was looking for a meet for a bit of rough :rofl: beard, tattoos, large muscles and wham bang thank man approach to the meet.
How wrong I could of been :rofl:
On opening the door I was greeted by the most beautiful soft Welsh voice, I was expecting billy goat gruff for a couple of hours, the couple of hours have turned into 18 months :love::love:
Never judge a book by its cover.
Cxxx
 
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T&C said:
Having arranged to meet a SG (sexy tatts) I was looking for a meet for a bit of rough :rofl: beard, tattoos, large muscles and wham bang thank man approach to the meet.
How wrong I could of been :rofl:
On opening the door I was greeted by the most beautiful soft Welsh voice, I was expecting billy goat gruff for a couple of hours, the couple of hours have turned into 18 months :love::love:
Never judge a book by its cover.
Cxxx
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Fell for Miss C from the first picture I saw on SS. Think of the surprise and excitement I felt when she asked for a meet...
My fantasy came true and yes 18 months later we are engaged and I’m looking to move Northwards to live permanently, when that elusive job appears.
So as we say don’t judge a book by its cover or you may miss a fantastic read and want to read more by that author

For my cariad xxxxx :0)) T
 
Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

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Pearls said:
Too many times and from both angles of the coin, one a complete bunny boiler as you most know about seemed the most sweetest thing, I can only refer to Fatal Attraction for the outcome :eek:
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Yes, was shitty as hell that one!
Pearls said:
I will add we have met some amazing people, one person in particular and it's been a very amazing experience for us all, it works when you all click and laugh so much, can't wait to meet up again :sneaky:;)xx
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Agreed and am sure we will. Always such good fun! xx

Kwaka_Rider said:
There's been one or two from here who play the old "I'm just me" game, come across as lovely, I fell for it, meet them and they eventually show they aren't who they portray themselves. I'm so much more wary now.
I've also met a few who are as genuine as they come. And now consider them friends away from the lifestyle.
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Yeah the whole "I'm just me" thing is so easy to put out there, portraying as sweet, innocent and harmless. :rolleyes:
 
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