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19 March 2015
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How do you manage to enjoy this lifestyle whilst having a family too?
Let's face it, it's a logistical nightmare and can prove to be challenging at the best of times.

We prefer liaisons at home but having two children still at home (after two now left/in uni etc) can be very awkward for us.
As some may know, the last 18 months have been difficult family wise and that also means we're now in a position where we can ask only one person to babysit.
This proves even more challenging for when we're possibly arranging for company but also may have an event coming up too.
For instance, we're arranging something for a couple of weeks' time but also have Xtasia on the horizon too. So where do we draw the line? It's a real balancing act.
Sacrifice personal home meets in favour of events?

We know most of you have families too, so how do you manage with it and how do you prioritise things?
 
26 July 2016
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When our kids still lived at home we had to become quite inventive as we have no family near by so babysitters was not an option so we had to thnk out of the box and came up with a cunning plan boldrick style. We started getting our boys to invite large groups of mates for a sleep over and of course this in turn started them getting invites to other kids houses and within weeks problem solved as boys used to be sleeping out nearly every weekend and every so often we would have to endure a house full. We also gained other parents of the group into our underhand tactics by saying it allows us to go to the pub or out for a meal without worry lol. Used to have local parents asking if they could join the group so they could have a night off.
 
19 March 2015
23,755
64,858
When our kids still lived at home we had to become quite inventive as we have no family near by so babysitters was not an option so we had to thnk out of the box and came up with a cunning plan boldrick style. We started getting our boys to invite large groups of mates for a sleep over and of course this in turn started them getting invites to other kids houses and within weeks problem solved as boys used to be sleeping out nearly every weekend and every so often we would have to endure a house full. We also gained other parents of the group into our underhand tactics by saying it allows us to go to the pub or out for a meal without worry lol. Used to have local parents asking if they could join the group so they could have a night off.
I like your style :sneaky: :D
 
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How do you manage to enjoy this lifestyle whilst having a family too?
Let's face it, it's a logistical nightmare and can prove to be challenging at the best of times.

We prefer liaisons at home but having two children still at home (after two now left/in uni etc) can be very awkward for us.
As some may know, the last 18 months have been difficult family wise and that also means we're now in a position where we can ask only one person to babysit.
This proves even more challenging for when we're possibly arranging for company but also may have an event coming up too.
For instance, we're arranging something for a couple of weeks' time but also have Xtasia on the horizon too. So where do we draw the line? It's a real balancing act.
Sacrifice personal home meets in favour of events?

We know most of you have families too, so how do you manage with it and how do you prioritise things?

This is one of the reasons that we don't go to as many meets or arrange them as we struggle for someone to look after our lad. I work with my dad and he takes young lad to school, my mum picks him up every day, so I don't like to ask them to have him when we have a meet. G's parents have him every other saturday/sunday so we arrange when and where we can. We just arrange what we can when we can, you've got to have a little fun! S x
 
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We really struggled for a while with our kids and lack of childcare but recently that's all changed the kids are old enough to be left alone a few hours and grandparents have really stepped up to the plate especially now the kids are pretty much self sufficient and we just want an adult about incase of an emergency
 
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I have big kids still at home 24 & 26, you would think this would make it easier as they have their own lives and would be out and about, but no my daughter is a home bird who is studying. So home meets are out of the question, I’m also a jeans and T shirt kind of a girl so when we get dressed up a bit the questions start! I have never told so many lies :)
I have said to hubby maybe we should book a hotel as well but this makes it an expensive habit.
 
23 January 2018
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It’s very difficult. Mine has grown up and flown the nest but I decided a couple of years ago to look after children that needed homes so House always full. Hard finding spare time with teens, and babies in the house!!! To be honest even when time becomes available it’s sometimes hard finding the energy to use it lol.
My work does allow free time during daytime hours but not everyone is able to meet then