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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Is it for you? Is it not for you?
Some people have valid reasons to play & meet this way (hate the words play & meet) but perhaps you don't quite understand the difference?
I recall someone who we had spoken with, who thought full swap meant with another couple and said it was way beyond what they were comfortable with - not realising it was what it is.
So what is your poison?
Full swap, soft swap, same room?
Spill beans and who knows who will contact you from this. :sneaky: ;) x
 
Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

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Charlia said:
What's the difference?
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Full swap is just that between two couples or even a threesome scenario, where penetrative sex happens.

Soft swing is more pretty much everything else goes aside from penetrative sex. Touching, feeling, nibbling, licking and kissing etc.
And with that and in our opinion can be just as, if not lot more hornier actually. :) x
 
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TherLegs

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TherLegs

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I like being in the same room as it just makes things more exciting, being able to watch your partner enjoying themelves, and we would always be happy for a soft swap, again it adds some excitement and possibly with the right people we would consider full swap but only if we were sure about them. By that I mean we would need to know them, have met them before and we would only do this is we knew they practiced safe sex. Unfortunately we have seen a few who state they do but the reality is we have seen them going bareback in clubs so they are not for us.
 
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Antogs

Antogs

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I'm speaking from a position of total ignorance here as I've never been involved in a pre-conceived soft swing scenario.

But I can only imagine that from my point of view I would find it excruciatingly frustrating.
The thought of being naked with a gorgeous woman, performing oral sex with each other etc, and then having to STOP fills me with dread.
It sounds like the stuff of nightmares :eek::eek::eek:

Antogs xx
 
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Therapon

Therapon

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Antogs said:
I'm speaking from a position of total ignorance here as I've never been involved in a pre-conceived soft swing scenario.

But I can only imagine that from my point of view I would find it excruciatingly frustrating.
The thought of being naked with a gorgeous woman, performing oral sex with each other etc, and then having to STOP fills me with dread.
It sounds like the stuff of nightmares :eek::eek::eek:

Antogs xx
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Soft swing means there is no penetrative sex between the swapped partners, it doesn't mean after the fun you can't have full sex with your own partner. Not sure I've explained that very well :confused:
 
Ahabs

Ahabs

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MY thoughts (this will not be popular, and so take with a pinch of sugar to make more palatable): I do not enjoy soft swing.
Here's why:
I've been a swinger for best part of 15 years, and while I've seen and been involved in a fair few things, but do admit I have NOT done it all so my journey of growht still continues. However I have been opportune to various experiences to learn what I like and dislike.

I am aware when it comes to sex, the female body can be your worst sudoku puzzle come to life: it takes meticulous study, strategy, and a little bit of tinkering. And just when you think you've got it, a different puzzle of a lady comes along, and the process needs ot be restarted (in short, what works for one doesn't work for all).

As such, I have found there are numerous ways to please a lady with and without penetration: a surprising number of women simply do not need or seek to get to "the ultimate", and would have a lot of men believe they have partners (or B.O.B) for that: we are simply there to fill in the blanks and those hard ot reach places B.O.B cannot reach.

But with us guys, the dynamics are flipped. Without some researched and possibly explorative kink (there are a few!) not many men can achieve the same heights of orgasm that an ejaculation lends itself to. Its just how were built. Ladies can happily orgasm without ejaculation of days,weeks,... you get the picture. But you tell the average guy to be happy WITH sexual experiences for the next 6 months and not ejaculate at any point, and he will wonder if its April Fools day.

So, for me, I have been invited over the years to some "soft swing" meets, where the lady or couple in question are happy to get together for some steamy fun. But when it comes to penetration, that's where I encounter the ultimate deflector shield, with the eternal words of a greying Gandalf "You shall not pass!",.. so I go to bed, to listen to said lady finish herself off, while I am laid just yards form her to finish myself off with my hands. The frustration is unreal!

Eventually, I came to admit that soft swing is NOT for me: it left me more pain and disappointment, and I hard to try really hard to ensure it wasn't some dark thought in my head leading me to think the other party had just taken the piss out of me, used me for theirpleasure with no promise of anything in return. But such is my lot as a guy I reckon.

So, learned in that arena I am one of two things: a sexual deviant when let loose with a willing volunteer, or a happy social swinger. The middle ground is where I drown.
 
Captain-Smith-and-Lady-Jane

Captain-Smith-and-Lady-Jane

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"Full swap" has always felt completely natural to us, we did so on our very first outing (well, more "groupie" I suppose) without the psychological issues we'd been led to expect. We were happy with separate room from the get-go too, and meeting separately was the obvious extension from there. We soon figured out that we simply don't have any jealousy, posessiveness, mistrust, etc... between us. We have a very loving relationship (and a great sex life of our own) but no desire for ownership, and a mutual love of velariety.

To be honest the only reason we went as slowly as we did was reading too many articles about the pitfalls of swinging written by people who.... maybe weren't ideal swingers in the first place.

These days we meet separately as often as we do together. It gives us great flexibility, particularly where swingles are concerned, and saves a fortune on babysitters!
 
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Captain-Smith-and-Lady-Jane said:
"Full swap" has always felt completely natural to us, we did so on our very first outing (well, more "groupie" I suppose) without the psychological issues we'd been led to expect. We were happy with separate room from the get-go too, and meeting separately was the obvious extension from there. We soon figured out that we simply don't have any jealousy, posessiveness, mistrust, etc... between us. We have a very loving relationship (and a great sex life of our own) but no desire for ownership, and a mutual love of velariety.

To be honest the only reason we went as slowly as we did was reading too many articles about the pitfalls of swinging written by people who.... maybe weren't ideal swingers in the first place.

These days we meet separately as often as we do together. It gives us great flexibility, particularly where swingles are concerned, and saves a fortune on babysitters!
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As the saying goes if it feels good.....
 
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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Anyone else up for, or enjoys soft swing?

Another scenario is this; having very naughty times and then having sex with your partner while your guest also gets involved (non penetrative) and becomes a part of your sex/lovemaking.
We’ve done it and it’s fair to say it was one of the best liaisons we’ve had. :sneaky:
I was actually speechless the following day and the lady involved knew that some of what took place, totally blew my mind and left us both in a state of jelly legs, to say the least :D ;) x

So a lot can be achieved. Just because there’s no penetrative sex, doesn’t meant to say it’s not as naughty as anything else.
In fact, I do believe it’s more kinkier and naughty tbh. More erotic. But that’s just my tuppenceworth
 
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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Lips_Pearls said:
Anyone else up for, or enjoys soft swing?

Another scenario is this; having very naughty times and then having sex with your partner while your guest also gets involved (non penetrative) and becomes a part of your sex/lovemaking.
We’ve done it and it’s fair to say it was one of the best liaisons we’ve had. :sneaky:
I was actually speechless the following day and the lady involved knew that some of what took place, totally blew my mind and left us both in a state of jelly legs, to say the least :D ;) x

So a lot can be achieved. Just because there’s no penetrative sex, doesn’t meant to say it’s not as naughty as anything else.
In fact, I do believe it’s more kinkier and naughty tbh. More erotic. But that’s just my tuppenceworth
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Just looking back on this and ooosh.... :sneaky: :D
A lot can be said for the #UltimateBlowjob and then of course two ladies just enjoying themselves and letting go, sexually but so so naturally. :love:
It's not always and only about penetrative sex. ;) x
 
Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Lips_Pearls said:
A lot can be said for the #UltimateBlowjob and then of course two ladies just enjoying themselves and letting go, sexually but so so naturally. :love:
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In fact, I personally find it so seductive, sexually attractive, jealous educing, erotic and romantic - just watching two ladies get involved in the moment. It's certainly something special. It really is... x
 
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